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12, Alyssa Chia and Xiu Jiekai went to attend the graduation ceremony of his eldest daughter Wutongmei in Shanghai.
Wutongmei is 14 years old. Think about it, the divorce storm between Alyssa Chia and her ex-husband Sun Zhihao seems to be still in front of her.
In 2005, Alyssa Chia chose to marry into a wealthy family because she starred in dramas such as "The Supreme Beauty" and "The Legend of the Condor Heroes".
and Sun Zhihao's relationship was not favored from the beginning. It is said that Alyssa Chia often filmed outside, and Sun Zhihao changed his habit of having sex with wealthy families. There were also troublesome mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who couldn't explain it and was messed up. There were often news of marriage changes, as if this marriage was destined to be a dead end.
The marriage lasted for 4 years. It is said that quarreled again for 1/3 and was facing a falling apart every day.
10, Alyssa Chia was silent for a long time. When everyone thought she was enjoying the life of a wealthy wife, she suddenly saw her asking the media for help with a haggard face.
Marriage can no longer go on, and what is even more difficult is that I can’t see my daughter Wutongmei for 4 months. Sometimes I said she was in Singapore , and sometimes I said she could not find anyone in Canada. Sun Zhihao also asked to return the original bride gift and divide Jia Jingwen’s property.
This wealthy family marriage seems to have not taken advantage of at all.
In a failed marriage, the person you once loved seemed to be the devil. Because, he knew where the other party’s weakness was and what to take, which would make her feel in pain and would even take on it for the rest of her life.
Sun Zhihao did this. Wutong Mei is the fate of Jia Jingwen. She is the person who loves her children so much.
Marriage is a lover, divorce is a devil.
Huang Yi divorced. She made pasta for her daughter and showed off a little happiness. Her ex-husband ran to leave a message:
This seems to be a offering to the dead.
Wang Feng is divorced, and his ex-wife always speaks loudly on Weibo:
Less hair, body odor, hypocrite, and a hypocrite, calling you an addiction.
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is really scary. It seems that all divorced people have escaped from the devil’s cave. It seems really difficult to say forgiveness.
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In the end, the two reached an agreement that Wutong Mei was raised by Jia Jingwen, but there are many terms:
Wutong Mei cannot participate in public events, nor can it be exposed in the media. Jia Jingwen must not go overseas to film for more than 5 days. If she fails to comply, legal actions will be taken and Sun Zhihao's right to visit is guaranteed.
I feel that Alyssa Chia escaped from that failed marriage with her daughter for a lifetime. How many injuries and tears are there, maybe only those sleepless nights are clearest.
Fortunately, Jia Jingwen met Xiu Jiekai later. Fortunately, Jia Jingwen had two lovely daughters. After the storm, there are still happiness to accompany you.
However, it seems that it is still difficult to say forgiveness.
Before, Xiaonan, the neighbor's parents divorced.
Both felt that they were so ignorant that they chose such a bad person. If she had no daughter Xiaonan, she might have been dying.
But, I have a daughter, but I can't break it up completely.
That year, Xiaonan lived with her father and stepmother, took the college entrance examination in the north, and her mother remarried and had a child in Hainan.
Mom is concerned about Xiaonan. There are so many things that require discussion among the three. The opinions of parents are very important to Xiaonan.
However, two people, just like enemies, both of them hate them when they look at them and say something.
Xiaonan often feels that she is very lonely, her parents are always fighting, and hatred consumes all their energy.
Every time, I pinched another fight in the name of loving my daughter. After being exhausted, I forgot to care about Xiaonan.
Xiaonan may never be able to figure out the right and wrong of the past, but she doesn't want to believe that her parents are very trash and they have to play around with each other, who is the worse.
Xiaonan's close relatives, but it is really harder to get rid of their grudges with a smile than climbing to the sky. How can the child caught in the middle not be hurt?
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At Wutong Mei’s graduation ceremony, Alyssa Chia was in the same frame with her ex-husband Sun Zhihao for the first time.
She said that why divorce was no longer important. In other words, it doesn’t matter what Sun Zhihao is like. He doesn’t want to prove the right and wrong of the past, and tell them again. At this time, the only one in the same frame was Wutongmei’s parents.
To be honest, this picture is really too beautiful, especially for Wutong girl.
Who would like their parents to be angry and resentful all their lives?
All forgiveness is not because the other party is worth it, but because you let yourself go and not suffer anymore and fulfill the sunshine in the heart of the loved one.
This graduation ceremony is the love for his daughter Wutongmei, covering the love and hatred of the past, everything in the past, waving goodbye and reconciliation is the best promise to the future.
reconciliation is difficult, but also precious.
Many people have a twisted life, but they are all because they cannot let go of the past. If you have given me pain, then I have to double down and use the other party’s dissatisfaction to make up for his debts to himself.
"Everything is OK", Su Mingyu As long as you talk about your family, the chat and laughter and planning in the workplace will disappear, because there are scars there, and a slight touch will make you feel heartbroken.
So, for so many years, Su Mingyu and her mother quarreled again and again, and even ran away from home, making a living, but she had not returned for ten years.
Everything is the panic after being hurt, and it only brings more pain.
At the end of "Everything is OK", Su Daqiang went to buy Su Mingyu a workbook. The condition of the father traveled back in time and repaid his former debt.
Su Mingyu let go of everything, took care of her father, and made her eldest brother's foreign land, and made her second brother's all-out efforts and reconciliation, giving everyone a down-to-earth happiness.
Letting go is the best way back in life.
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years, maybe it's really a flash of time, and it's fleeting.
In these hurrying itineraries, perhaps God really didn't make any arrangements.
The parents who should give us happiness for the first half of their lives may still be twisted in all kinds of twists, unable to see right or wrong, and do not know each other. When they love each other, they think they can be happy to the end, but when they are angry, they don’t care about anything.
ran wildly for many years before I realized that you were covered in scars.
But life has always been a one-way road, no matter how many grievances you have, it has become a thing of the past.
Maybe that wronged child really couldn't understand why, parents should not be like what they should be, saying forgiveness seems to be sorry for the suffering they suffered.
But, so what if I remember, this world is not perfect, just parents have a heart that loves you, who has learned how to love slowly?
Only by putting down the scars of the original family can you open your arms and embrace your brilliant life.
Maybe, we really, like Song Dandan said, if we love each other, we will do everything. Later, we realized that the recklessness at the beginning did not fulfill love, but gave the other party the opportunity to hurt ourselves.
The more sincerity you have, the sharper the other party’s dagger is.
So, you are annoyed and hateful.
That person does not deserve your love, nor does he deserve the love of the children you have worked hard to raise. He really wants to uproot everything he has worked hard to prevent the person who hurts him from getting a little shade without any effort.
However, if you don’t let go of everything, you will inevitably consume more effort. Your failure to let go may also implicate innocent people, so that the loved ones will not be able to give up and fulfill them better.
Time is a kind of ability.
No matter what kind of people you have met, no matter how many grievances you have ever felt, let it pass by with the wind.
Give all your strength and enthusiasm to the future, like Jia Jingwen, let go of yourself and live a good life.
May the years be peaceful and we can all be happier.
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