1935 On March 14, Ruan Lingyu's coffin was moved from the Shanghai Wanguo Funeral Home to the Lianyi Villa Cemetery in Zhabei. More than 300 friends of Ruan Lingyu came to see her off.
At around 1:10 pm, 12 bigwigs in the Chinese film industry, including Jin Yan, Sun Yu, Feimu , Zheng Junli , Wu Yonggang , Cai Chusheng, Li Minwei , etc., carried her coffin onto the hearse.
On that day, the funeral queue was lined up, and there were more than 300,000 people coming to the funeral where the hearse passed.
American reporter from the Shanghai region was surprised to write a report: "This is the greatest mourning gift in the world."
Ruan Lingyu's funeral
What is even more incredible is that on the day Ruan Lingyu committed suicide, on March 8, 1935, five girls in Shanghai committed suicide. The last words they left were roughly the same: Ruan Lingyu is dead, what else does it mean to be alive?
What makes everyone incredible is that at this time Ruan Lingyu had just starred in "New Women", gaining both fame and fortune. Why did she choose to commit suicide at this time?
Because Ruan Lingyu suffers from these three love symptoms.
01 Romeo and Juliet effect
1910, Ruan Lingyu was born in a working family in Shanghai. Her father Ruan Yongrong was a worker at the Pudong Asian Oil Stack in Shanghai. His salary was not high, but he became ill due to overwork. When Ruan Lingyu was 6 years old, her father died of overwork.
When my father passed away, there was no deposit at home. In addition, he organized a funeral for his father, so the family spent money and scored no money left. A year after his father passed away, in order to live, Ruan Lingyu's mother had to work as a maid for wealthy families.
The mother who has been a maid for wealthy families has also gained some insight. She believes that if she wants to change her destiny, she must study. So she worked in the Zhang family for two years. After saving some savings, she sent Ruan Lingyu to a nearby private school to study.
After reading " Three Character Classic " and "Daughter Classic", the mother thought that this knowledge was too old, so the Zhang family, who was the director of the Qiushi school, sent her daughter to Chongde Girls' School founded by American missionaries at half price.
Ruan Lingyu
5 years old, Ruan Lingyu has become a graceful girl with natural beauty. She has read some books and her temperament is even more outstanding.
One day, Ruan Lingyu met the young master of the Zhang family. The young master of the Zhang family is Zhang Damin . He doesn't like studying, so he gets a diploma from a pheasant university. He does nothing during the day and goes to the dance hall at night.
When he met Ruan Lingyu, perhaps it was because Ruan Lingyu did not wear heavy makeup like the woman he saw in the dance hall, but instead looked pure and refined, so he fell in love with her at first sight and started pursuing her.
In order to pursue Ruan Lingyu, he followed her to the park. I know what books she likes to read, so I deliberately put them at home and could see the place Ruan Lingyu. The most important thing is to often help Ruan Lingyu's mother.
Ruan Lingyu, who grew up in a humble environment, soon fell under Zhang Damin's love offensive because she relied on the sense of security that Zhang Damin gave her.
When their underground relationship was made public, Zhang Damin's mother first stood up to oppose it. She thought how could her young master marry a maid's daughter? During the Republic of China period, which focused on family background, this was a disgrace to the Zhang family.
Ruan Lingyu's mother did not support her being with Zhang Damin. She advised Ruan Lingyu to stop the loss in time and advised her daughter to study hard.
At this time, Ruan Lingyu had been blinded by love. In order to be with Zhang Damin, she quit school and agreed to move to the house that Zhang Damin rented for her and live with Zhang Damin.She desperately wanted to be with Zhang Damin, and even firmly believed that Zhang Damin was the whole of her life and that she would not marry if she had no choice but to marry Zhang Damin in this life.
A few months later, Zhang Damin returned to his life in Fireworks Alley. He was getting tighter and tighter, and he gave Ruan Lingyu less and less money.
When Ruan Lingyu's elder brother Zhang Hui learned about Ruan Lingyu's situation, he suggested that Ruan Lingyu apply for a movie actor. Ruan Lingyu, who has never received professional training in an actor, went to the interview with a try-out attitude. Unexpectedly, she was spotted by director Bu Wancang and let her star in movies such as "Famous Couple" and "Beijing Yang Guifei". With her true artistic temperament, Ruan Lingyu made her debut in the film industry.
Ruan Lingyu and Zhang Damin
Later, Ruan Lingyu was hired as an actor by Lianhua Company. Because she filmed in-depth films such as " Yijian Mei " and " Peach Blossoms and Bloody Tears ", she once embarked on the path of a first-line female star.
The bitter wine you brewed by yourself can only drink it yourself. She was the one who firmly stayed with Zhang Damin at the beginning. At that time, she was already deeply trapped in the "Romeo and Juliet effect".
What is the Romeo and Juliet effect? Romeo and Juliet families are enemies, and their love was strongly opposed by the two families, but the more their families opposed it, the deeper they fell in love until they died.
When the family and the people around her are not optimistic about her relationship, it stimulates her and the other party's firm belief in going on.
02 Shanruzod complex
Shanruzod is the heroine of the story of " One Thousand and One Nights ". The emperor in the story calls a girl to the palace every night and will kill him the next day. However, in order to end such a discovery, the prime minister's daughter, Shanruzod, voluntarily entered the palace. She told the emperor a story every night, and each story was not told at the key points. She told it for a thousand and one night. In the end, the emperor was moved and she became the emperor's favorite person.
Many girls have a "Shanluzod complex", that is, they will fall in love with bad princes, fickle presidents, and unruly prodigal sons, hoping that they can change each other with their strong charm. The love of becoming a scumbag is over. After
and Zhang Damin had a bad relationship, Ruan Lingyu met Tang Jishan during a social event. Unlike Zhang Damin, Tang Jishan has a career, fame, and mature career.
After the first meeting, Tang Jishan was fascinated by Ruan Lingyu. And launched a pursuit offensive.
Ruan Lingyu and Tang Jishan
Although Ruan Lingyu avoided it at the beginning, he was later fascinated by Tang Jishan's mature self-confidence and agreed to date him.
While dating Tang Jishan, Ruan Lingyu received a letter from a woman, which was written to her by a former movie star Zhang Zhi.
In the letter, Zhang Zhiyun told Ruan Lingyu that Tang Jishan had an original wife in Guangdong. Tang Jishan started her family entirely with the financial and power support of his original wife, so she never dared to divorce. I also had a relationship with Tang Jishan, but later I was abandoned. She predicted that today's self is tomorrow's Ruan Lingyu.
After reading the letter, Ruan Lingyu did not take the letter to heart, and confidently thought that the other party was jealous of her, and she also luckily thought that she would become the destination of Tang Jishan's love.
After returning to Shanghai again, Ruan Lingyu left Zhang Damin and moved to a beautiful three-story western-style building that Tang Jishan bought for her. Zhang Damin was also arranged for a fatal misfortune of the director of the Fuqing County Taxation Office in Fujian Province.
But Zhang Damin didn't appreciate it. When he found out that Ruan Lingyu had moved into Tang Jishan's small foreign house, he asked Ruan Lingyu to compensate him, giving him 100 yuan in living expenses every month, for two years. Ruan Lingyu was eager to get rid of Zhang Damin and agreed readily.
When she compromised easily for the first time, Zhang Damin became even more aggressive. He asked for another 5,000 oceans in front of Ruan Lingyu.
Ruan Lingyu solicited Tang Jishan's opinions for this, and Tang Jishan refused to give them. In a fit of anger, Zhang Damin sued Ruan Lingyu in court, saying that when Ruan Lingyu left, he took his large amount of property and helped Tang Jishan. Tang Jishan was very angry and asked Ruan Lingyu to publish a revelation in the newspaper: Ruan Lingyu and Tang Jishan lived in a cohabitation relationship, but they were financially independent and had never given Tang Jishan anything.
Here, are we curious why the family scandals such as divorce and cohabitation during the Republic of China were always published in the newspapers, as if we were afraid that others would not know? That is because the marriage system during the Republic of China period was incomplete, so household chores such as divorce, cohabitation, and separation must be declared in the newspaper to let everyone testify to avoid any unexplained problems in the future.
Zhang Zhiyun
Tang Jishan asked Ruan Lingyu to appear in the newspaper, and she posted it. She didn't want to lose Tang Jishan's love. At this time, she found that her humble wish had also failed, and Tang Jishan had a new girlfriend, who was Liang Saizhen's sister.
Ruan Lingyu often faces that when she was locked out of the door when she was late, Tang Jishan beat her up and scolded her when she couldn't do anything well.
She remembered what Zhang Zhiyun said to her at that time: Today's me is tomorrow's you.
Sure enough, she thought she would become the ultimate love destination for Tang Jishan, a prodigal son, but she did not expect to spend her whole life.
03 Love Stockholm syndrome
Reasonable to say that later entered the path of working women Ruan Lingyu, she could completely survive independently without Zhang Damin, but she did not. Since the death of the old man of the Zhang family, Zhang Damin has been in a dilemma. Without survival skills, he has held Ruan Lingyu, the money tree.
As Ruan Lingyu's salary became higher and higher, she naturally helped Zhang Damin. But later she discovered that Zhang Damin was simply a rogue and bottomless pit. Despite her complaints, she still didn't have the courage to leave the other person.
in the movie and TV series Ruan Lingyu and Cai Chusheng
She also ideally believed that if a man had a legitimate job, he would not be idle like this. So after the Battle of Songhu happened, she also took Zhang Damin to Hong Kong to avoid the war.
In order to make Zhang Damin turn his evil spirits back, she entrusted her godfather Ho Dongjue in Hong Kong to arrange for Zhang Damin to be a comprador on Ruian Shipping Company.
Zhang Damin, who was used to being unemployed, was not willing to do a job steadily. When he was working, he embezzled public funds and took them to the casino. After losing, he returned to Shanghai.
At this time, Ruan Lingyu found a job for him in Shanghai, but he still refused to do it well.
11 In April 1933, Zhang Damin asked Ruan Lingyu for the breakup fee and asked Ruan Lingyu to sign the "Contract for Ruan Lingyu and Zhang Damin to leave cohabitation" with him. The second paragraph stipulates that Ruan Lingyu gives Zhang Damin one hundred yuan a month for two years.
Generally, divorce or separation from cohabitation relationships are all paid by men to the woman, so how can the woman give the man a breakup fee?
This is like "Love Stockholm Syndrome", as a hostage, it has a psychological dependence on its supporters. Their life and death are also controlled by each other. She was grateful to the hijackers for letting them survive. He does not hesitate to share his destiny with the hijacker and regards the safety of the hijacker as his own.
Ruan Lingyu was eager to get rid of this hijacking relationship and also agreed with Zhang Damin's request with great gratitude.
Unexpectedly, Ruan Lingyu's easy compromise once again encouraged Zhang Damin's arrogance. After he asked for these, he made an unreasonable request to Ruan Lingyu, asking for 5,000 oceans of compensation. When Ruan Lingyu refused, he used some extreme means to coerce.
On one side is Zhang Damin's coercion, and on the other side is Tang Jishan's abuse. However, Ruan Lingyu sought the help of another man, Cai Chusheng. She thought Cai Chusheng could invest in a film "New Women". He must be a just person who can save himself and take him to elope.
But all this is just her own wishful thinking. How could Cai Chusheng give up his position as a volunteer to save her? Who knows that many people in this world are too busy taking care of themselves.
Ruan Lingyu in movies and TV
When the last straw was gone, Ruan Lingyu ended her life in an almost extreme way. Originally she could have been rescued, but Tang Jishan deliberately took a detour and delayed the best time for treatment. Her life was forever frozen at the age of 24.
Lu Xun said she died because people say something is feared. The five women who followed her and committed suicide after her death regarded her as the salvation of the new women. In fact, she just wasn't strong enough inside and couldn't extricate herself from the dilemma of three symptoms of love.
Women are only more confident, braver and stronger! Only by not afraid of the three symptoms of love are you and be a strong self in your heart.
Reference materials:
"Biography of Ruan Lingyu"
"Temperature of History"
