"Do you still know how to come back? You can't make it anymore, right?"
Recently, Su Min, a 58-year-old self-driving blogger, went home for the first time in two years, but she was mocking her husband.
There is no Huanyan who meets again for a long time, only the indifferent thing that is cold to the bone. As usual, the two of them had a dispute over how much toll cost, and the sound of their husband throwing the bowl instantly pulled the time to two years ago.
was forced to run away for two years. Su Min has been reborn, but the suffocation of her family has never changed.
Su Min has long been used to her husband's attitude and sighed: "The family lives like two families."
Su Min was originally an ordinary housewife. In 2020, in order to escape from her husband, she started a self-driving trip. She became unexpectedly popular by sharing her experiences and became a travel blogger with millions of fans.
And when she went home this time, her hope for her family was finally shattered. She said that even if she left the house with nothing or sued for a lawsuit, she would have to divorce.
’s decision on Su Min has been praised countless times. It seems that people have been looking forward to her day since she ran away from home two years ago.
Su Min is a born in the 1960s. She was born in Henan. Because her parents helped Tibet, she grew up in Tibet since childhood.
She is the eldest in her family and has two younger brothers. The elder sister is like a mother, and her mother is in poor health, so the important task of taking care of her younger brothers is naturally pressed on Su Min's shoulders.
Parents prefer boys over girls and discipline Su Min strictly. She has to pay all her monthly salary to subsidize her family income.
It can be said that Su Min spent the first half of her life in "forbearance". After failing the college entrance examination, she was arranged to work in the fertilizer factory where her father was.
In the blink of an eye, she reached the age of 23, and she became the "older leftover woman" of that era.
In order to get rid of the beatings and scoldings of parents and the heavy housework, Su Min only wants to move out of the house and live independently.
After someone introduced that she and her current husband had only met twice, and then she got married quickly.
The father did not agree with this marriage. On the one hand, he hoped that she would find an official to shine on his family; on the other hand, he thought that this son-in-law was too stingy and refused to give the 500 yuan betrothal gift.
But Su Min, who was eager to escape from her family, was determined to marry. She believed that money was not a measure of feelings.
Sadly, she "breaks into a marriage where money is everywhere.
After marriage, my husband often stayed on the construction site, and the couple lived a separate place, but Su Min lived a very comfortable life.
Unfortunately, freedom is short-lived, she became pregnant when she got married. Caught off guard, Su Min transitioned from his wife to his mother's role.
When her daughter was two years old, she was laid off. During that time, all the family's expenses were supported by my husband's monthly salary of 500 yuan.
That was also Su Min's most depressing day. Every day, her husband had to ask her about the whereabouts of every penny, and she always suspected that she had used the money to subsidize her parents' home.
Once, Su Min's mother fell ill and she bought medicine with 75 yuan from her husband's medical insurance card. After my husband found out, he changed his password the next day.
In order to get rid of this life without dignity, Su Min began to go out to make money and do everything.
She has worked as a tailor, swept the streets, worked as a supermarket promoter, went to construction sites and moved bricks, and delivered newspapers...
She is not afraid of hard work, got up early and went to bed late, and wanted to earn money to support herself, and strive to spend every penny, and will not be questioned and controlled.
In addition to meeting daily expenses, there is another wish to become her motivation, that is, own a car.
Su Min has loved cars since she was a child, and cars give her a sense of security.
When I was an hour, I would pass through a cemetery on the way after school. Su Min was very scared, so she would hesitate every time she walked there. As long as there is a car passing by, she will run desperately behind the car, feeling like she has a companion. It is more than 3,000 meters above sea level, and every time I run over, I feel suffocating.
At the age of 49, Su Min resolutely took the driver's license exam and passed it in one go.
Later, she decided to buy a small car. The daughter and son-in-law helped pay the down payment. She used the money she had worked in the supermarket for two years to buy a white POLO car in installments. When she was happy to bring up her new car, she realized even more: "Make money to buy flowers and wear it yourself", she was so confident.
The disappointment with marriage is compared to her husband's " economic sanctions ", the indifference and violence she endured are the huge rocks that are weighing on her heart.
Su Min's "economic independence" did not win the respect of her husband, but a marriage life system, with each family spending half of each person, and her husband and she calculated it clearly.
However, the money system is AA, but the housework is not AA. She also has to be a free nanny, and she can't relax for a while.
When I was looking at my grandson, the child fell asleep and she occasionally looked at her phone. My husband would lower his face and ask, "Are you looking at the child or your phone?"
want to kiss my grandson, but my husband would say, "Your saliva is poisonous."
In short, Su Min was extremely frustrated. In this family, she was restricted everywhere and was always disliked.
Verbal violence is still bearable. What scares Su Min the most is that her husband will throw things and hit her when he gets angry.
Every year during the Spring Festival, my husband will go back to his hometown. After more than 30 years of marriage, Su Min spent more than 20 Spring Festival alone.
It is rare to celebrate the festival at Su Min’s parents’ house one year, and my husband was very unhappy. When the meal started, Su Min went to call him for dinner. Her husband thought he was swept up and was furious. He didn't get up until the game ended, but his anger was still not gone, so he dragged Su Min into the room and beat and scolded him.
It is still the case in Su Min's mother's house. You can imagine what the couple should be together in daily life. The increasingly cold relationship has brought the relationship between the two to freezing point.
Later, the two of them simply slept in the upper and lower bunks. After returning to the house at night, everyone played with their own mobile phones without any communication.
Su Min wanted to try to speak less at home and get scolded less. Even so, my husband still refused to give in.
Once, when Su Min went to attend a class reunion, her husband ran over to take care of everyone: Don’t let Su Min attend a class reunion in the future, because she has mental problems.
This made Su Min feel ashamed.
Faced with repeated suppression, Su Min developed self-doubt. She also asked her husband if she thought she was not good-looking or hadn’t given birth to a son?
But, there is no answer.
019, after another quarrel, Su Min, who was extremely collapsed, finally turned the knife towards him.
She was taken to the hospital and was also diagnosed with moderate depression. After being discharged from the hospital, Su Min began to take the medicine. She always felt very tired, often shed tears, and once doubted the meaning of living. After the incident of
, she was completely disheartened about her marriage.
Until one day, an unexpected action made her find the exit and ignited the light of her life.
in the winter afternoon of 2019, Su Min accidentally clicked on a video of a self-driving blogger.
She was lit up instantly. Isn’t this the life I have always yearned for? There are cars, scenery, freedom...
She told herself: I can't live like this anymore, I have to go out.
From then on, she secretly prepared her "escape" plan and waited for her grandson to go to kindergarten, and then set off.
She searched for self-driving travel guide online, and when she saw the right equipment, she put it in the shopping cart, small refrigerator, portable gas tank , solar battery , pots and pans, roof tents...
It costs money to go out, but where does the travel fee come from?
Su Min only has a retirement salary of 2,300 yuan. The house is the husband's name and the car is the daughter's name. She feels that she has nothing.
She secretly learned short video production and made some food videos to post online when there was no one at home to earn some traffic fees. Even though no one watched the video and was ridiculed by her husband, she did not give up.
Wait until all the grandchildren were sent to the kindergarten, Su Min thought she had completed all her mission and she would live for herself once after that.
This year, she was 56 years old.
At that time, she had saved up enough 20,000 yuan. After placing an order, she only had 10,000 yuan left.
She made an excuse to regain the POLO car that her husband had occupied for a long time, and announced her plan to "driving tour".
On September 24, 2020, Su Min drove his car, stepped on the accelerator, and ran onto the highway, starting an unknown life in residence.
Su Min just came out just wanted to relax first, so she decided to go to Chengdu to visit her old friend.
When passing through Qinling , the mountain road was steep, and even the experienced drivers with rich driving experience were worried, but Su Min was not afraid at all and felt that the wind was free.
Along the way, Su Min regards the car as her home, and food and accommodation are all in the car.
Every time she goes, she likes to visit the local vegetable market, buy some fresh dishes, use portable kitchen utensils on the car, and make three meals a day for herself.
She no longer has to worry about her husband's taste, and now she can eat whatever she wants.
It turns out that you can eat so freely.
At night, Su Min would park her car in the park, parking lot, gas station, and roadside, set up a tent on the roof of the car, and crawl in and sleep.
Before going to bed, she would also live broadcast and interact with fans in this simple "home" and encourage each other.
Because she doesn’t have much money, she tries to choose a place where she parks for free, so many places are very remote and empty.
She occasionally feels lonely and scared, but she also feels safer and more at home than at home.
Su Min said: "This is a long journey, and it is also a self-salvation."
Before departure, Su Min had only two fans of her son-in-law and daughter.
At that time, she sat in the car and recorded a video in a mess, telling why she had to escape from her husband and embark on a self-driving trip.
It is this video that has no special editing and only tells the truth, which makes her famous.
In two years, she has driven to more than 200 cities by herself, and has grown from a novice who knows nothing to a travel expert.
Every journey is not alone. There are like-minded friends who accompany her all the way, and they will also meet local fans who come to wait for her, just to take photos with her and cheer her up.
Along the way, Su Min has received warm encouragement and enthusiastic help from many strangers.
Among them, there was a Guizhou fan who made Su Min particularly moved.
Su Min's shoulder was once strained in Yunnan due to carrying heavy objects, and has not received good treatment. It is getting more and more serious, and even affects driving.
After Liupanshui , a fan learned that it was inconvenient for her to go to the hospital for treatment, so he drove to pick Su Min up and took her to several hospitals for several days in a row.
And she has never felt these warmth at home.
Su Min enjoyed the feeling of being on the road. She said: "The greatest pleasure of self-driving is like opening a blind box. You will never know what scenery will appear ahead."
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In Hainan, she tried surfing that the elderly dare not play.The moment she stood up at surfboard , her life seemed to stand up again in her life, rejuvenating new vitality.
Su Min is cheerful, confident, energetic, and has become young and beautiful. The most important thing is that there is light in her eyes and she has a more sense of direction for the future.
published books, filmed advertisements with Ni Ping , broadcast live streaming, was invited by Disney to go to the park to return to her 20s, and also appeared in "New York Times ". It became popular abroad, and she completely lived out another possibility of life.
An overseas Chinese left a message: "Su Min and I have nothing in common, but I was moved by everything she did for myself and she shed tears."
Another fan also sent a private message to her: Her mother has a similar situation. Since she showed her aunt's video, she felt that there was light in her eyes.
passed on the courage that others had once passed on to her to more people again, which was exactly what Su Min wanted.
She disagreed with the doubts that some people on the Internet said that she had "abandoned her husband and daughter".
She thinks everyone has a different lifestyle. A 58-year-old woman does not have to stay at home to take care of her grandchildren and dance square dances. She can also drive on her own, live a life of traveling, and do what she likes to do.
The first half of her life lived for others, and the second half of her life wanted to live in her own world.
Not long ago, Su Min bought a RV with a loan .
looked at the RV and said excitedly: "In the past, many things at home did not belong to me. Without my name, now I can finally write my own name."
Sitting in the RV, she felt that she had a "home". The daughter and son-in-law took their grandson to see her. She could pick them up at any time and live in this "home" together, and then enjoy the joy of family during the trip.
She stuffed the beautiful clothes she bought from traveling around into her small wardrobe. When she was resting, she sat on the sofa to drink tea and edit videos.
During the day, she cooks delicious food in the kitchen with refrigerators, microwaves and induction cookers; at night, she opens the roof of the car, lies on the big bed to look at the starry sky, and falls beautifully...
Now, she holds the steering wheel, has a blue sky above her head, and steps on the accelerator, and can finally control her destiny and sets off to chase more romance.
Some netizens said that Su Min completed things that would never be able to do in her life.
In fact, you can start your life again at any age, and Su Min just dares to take that step. Her determination to divorce may also muster up the courage to choose another restart of her life.
Just as Su Min said in her speech: "My first half of my life seemed to be in a dark tunnel, and I couldn't see the light. Later, I tried to chase it until it appeared in my life, free and beautiful. Along the way, I was discovering and chasing the light."
There is only one life, and you must be yourself once.
As long as you want, you can also become the light in your life.
Reference materials and pictures source:
, Elephant News: Zhao Dan "58-year-old Su Min Returning from "escape" for two years: Divorce, and Remain Free"
, Sohu News Jizhou Studio: Yin Shenglin "A "Escape" by a 56-year-old woman"
, CCTV.com Quick View: "Escape from My First Half of Life - 57-year-old self-driving Internet celebrity aunt Su Min"
, 5th Floor Editing Room Documentary: "Su Min, who "escape" by 56-year-old self-driving: Don't ask me what I think, it will hurt!"
, Weibo, Douyin@ A 50-year-old aunt travels by herself
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