text | Mi Lima (public account Mi Lima Channel)
"Do you know how perverted it is now? Children are divided into scumbags, sluts, and sluts as soon as they go to school. What's even more annoying is that there is a bull demon king on the cow!"
"Like our grades are not good, there is no highlight, what can we do in the future?"
Since the child went to school, everything is not going well, and everything is always going against Mercury, and all the white hair has grown.
Alas, to be honest, I am also very depressed!
I still remember when Mi Li was in the second grade, I went to a classmate’s house to pick him up and found that the child’s mother hid a math book behind the sofa.
I said, why are you hiding textbooks? She said embarrassedly that this is from the fourth grade and she doesn't want the child to read it in advance, for fear that the foundation will not be laid well.
I felt a big chunk collapsed in my heart at that time. Well, if you want to go to heaven, just go to heaven. We have to continue to fight against abdication and subtraction honestly.
This is fate!
However, Chinese parents are fearless, and we still have the last stubbornness. We clenched our fists and asked the vast earth: My child is very normal, will he still be saved?
To be honest, the average level of children nowadays is high, which is very Normal, actually means that he is not bad and has not been left behind. You should have confidence in him.
Especially, if you have not spent any effort and your child can maintain normal, it means that your child has potential and he still has a lot of room for improvement. Because there are too many parents now, many of the grades in elementary school are obtained by parents.
If your child can perform normal by "naked score", then he should have great potential, so don't worry.
Besides, it is not a bad thing for children to perform normal in class.
In other words, if the child is already a top student, it means that the pool is smaller for him, which means that the environment is no longer suitable for him.
Some netizens said: "Our class is sleeping in class. When he opened his eyes, the teacher knew that he was wrong."
Hahaha, everyone thinks it is so amazing! But if you think about it from another perspective, isn’t this the school too bad? If you go to the No. 4 Middle School and Renmin University Affiliate, you can check it out in any provincial and municipal key points. Even if you are all academic masters, you won’t be able to make such jokes.
On the surface, children always take the lead, but in fact, it is not a good thing. It delays learning and growth.
This will bring great pressure on parents because you have to find ways to change the environment, otherwise it will not be beneficial to your children in the long run.
This is the case with my friend’s kid.
They went to school in Chaoyang because of their good grades, so they skipped the first level, but they still felt that the school was teaching too simple. Why don’t you go to an institution to study? They signed up for the Mathematical Olympiad class in Chaoyang, but found that the teacher’s level was worrying, and sometimes he could confuse himself when he explained the questions.
Teacher is also very ashamed. I have met such a smart child for the first time in more than ten years. You should go to Haidian to learn.
I went to Haidian and it turned out to be different.
My friend’s child is a child prodigy that he hasn’t met in more than ten years in Chaoyang. When he arrived at the Huangzhuang organization, although he was immediately assigned to a super-normal class, he immediately felt that he was very normal.
Why? Let me give you some science and technology, how is the first tutoring institution in the universe divided into classes.
The so-called extraordinary class is actually just too high. The most ordinary children enter the improvement class, and those with a slightly better level are called the top class, and further up is the extraordinary class.
is called "extraordinary", it should be over, not!
has at least two levels in the super-normal class, one is over 2 (I heard that there are over 3), and the other is a training team. Only those who enter these two classes are called God-chosen people.
So the extraordinary class is not extraordinary, but it feels very normal.
Seeing that their children were finally normal, the parents finally breathed a sigh of relief. The couple took turns to take the 18 subway station twice a week to send their children from Chaoyang to Huangzhuang, Haidian to take the mathematics class for Olympiad. It was almost eleven o'clock when they got home.
My friend’s biggest heart disease now is how to get the child to go to school across districts when he goes to junior high school, because he feels that the gap in school districts is too big.
is so hard, in fact, just to give the child an environment suitable for his growth, find a normal place for him to stay.
So, normal children are not a bad thing, at least we have a natural advantage - the current environment in which children are in is just right, which is conducive to their development.
Get an inappropriate example. If you are the richest man in all corners of the country, everyone has to borrow money from you. Is this a good thing? If you are poorer than you, if you are short of money one day, who will you borrow from?
I won’t advise everyone that normal is a good thing. People should be content with ordinary people and accept an ordinary child. This kind of words are hawthorn pills that cannot be cured even if they cannot be killed.
What I want to say is that Normal happens to be a suitable starting point for a child, neither high nor low, and is an appropriate growth environment. On this basis, it is more conducive to cultivating a more mature personality that is brave enough to face difficulties and challenges.
We should not let Normal become a label for children. It is just a starting point, the beginning of the story, not the whole story. There are cow kids in
, which actually means that there are more powerful parents. If this veteran driver was willing to take us, wouldn’t that be a good thing that fell from the sky?
To put it bluntly, the least you need to be a parent is self-esteem.
Don’t see other people’s children being better than us and feel that they are embarrassed to be together, so keep a distance immediately. On the contrary, you have to take the initiative to make friends with others, or even get close to them, so that you will not be embarrassed for the sake of your child's goodness.
I have met such a mother.
When Mi Li was in the first grade, I changed him to an art interest class. When I first went there, I didn’t know everyone and didn’t know anyone.
In this group, I usually post my children’s paintings. I never fall behind in this kind of thing. As soon as I enter the group, I will post a bunch of new works of rice grains.
"So imaginative, it's awesome, you can write poetry in the first grade..."
Haha, I thought this was a painting group, but I didn't expect that everyone's focus was not on painting, but on those lines of not very neat words. However, no matter what, the old mother finally got a little presence.
Just as I was about to put down my phone, a WeChat message popped up: "Hello, I am Xinxin's mother from XX's painting group. Your baby is so well drawn. Can you add a WeChat message?"
"Hello, I'm happy to know you...", I added her.
Wait until the weekend I went to the art class. As soon as I sat down, a mother came over with a smile and asked me: You are someone’s mother, I am Xinxin’s mother!
Then Xinxin's mother sat down and chatted with me. After praising Mi Li's poem, he began to say that his child's Chinese is not good, and he is neither willing to write nor likes to read. They were from a certain elementary school and had high Chinese requirements. They started writing and reading paintings in the first grade, and they were required to write a weekly diary every week in the second grade, which made her have a headache.
After saying that, he changed the subject and asked me: How could your child write so many words as soon as he went to school, and even wrote poems as soon as he wrote them.
I quickly said: What kind of poetry is it? A child made it up randomly and couldn’t be called a poem. He just wanted to encourage him to write more.
Xinxin Mom smiled and asked again: What books do you usually read? I have also bought a lot of books for my child, but why can't I teach you? How did you teach? Is there any quick and good way?
I had to honestly say that we started early and cultivated the reading habit as soon as we were born. We could basically read independently only when we were over five years old...
There is no fast and good way. They are all ground up bit by bit, but they will come naturally in a few years, so we can't be anxious. The key is to cultivate interest.
Xinxin's mother frowned when she heard this, thought about it, and asked me again: What else can I do besides cultivating my reading habit?
Well, I think you can use your child’s interests to guide him to write more and read more. For example, Mi Li loves painting, so I asked him to name his painting.
From the beginning, even one word or one word is OK.Then I wrote this character under the drawing, and over time, the child was happy to imitate. To be bigger, not only can he start the title, but he can also ask him to add a sentence or a paragraph of text to the painting.
You can try this method.
Xinxin's mother smiled and said, "Your method is good, and I have gained a lot when chatting with you today." Alas, are you drinking coffee? I'll bring you a cup...
When we met for the second time, Xinxin's mother directly pulled me to the coffee shop downstairs, but she still asked me until she finished her questions. Before leaving, he said, when will you have time? Let’s climb the mountain together on weekends!
takes the child to an extracurricular class and drink free coffee. I really didn’t expect it, so happy!
After many days, I suddenly realized that I had to invite others to have coffee!
In the Olympiad Mathematical Class, the mother who can solve any problem; and in the wind band, Mili and their class, and even the parents of the great gods in the kindergarten group in the past, I should have invited them to have coffee one by one.
Don’t drink a few cups of coffee with these parents. I don’t know how normal my children are. I don’t know that there are some things you don’t have. There are actually reasons why you don’t have them.
Feeling normal means that there are high energy ahead and strong people exist. The halo they emit can not only blind our dog's eyes, but also illuminate the road ahead. If we learn to absorb the energy from the strong from the beginning, then what does it matter if normal is a little bit.
In fact, normal children need to be carefully cultivated by their parents, discover their inner value, and cultivate their specialties from an early age. If everyone understands this principle, I won’t say much.
In addition, one thing is very important, while cultivating specialties, we must pay special attention to letting children learn the skills that can be transferred by .
What is a migratory skill? For example, expression and communication skills, teamwork, organizational management, writing skills, etc., are common abilities compared to professional skills.
is more likely to touch the ceiling than professional and Normal children, so it is particularly important to develop universal skills needed in all jobs.
For example, there are many children who graduate from art schools every year, and only a very small number of people can become excellent artists. However, even if you are a mediocre painter, but you are good at communication, have a keen vision and business acumen, you are a rare art agent. Maybe you can become Jobs in the art world.
Normal's children need to broaden their horizons from an early age, cultivate their expertise, and learn interpersonal skills.
What should I do if the child is normal? The most common view is that parents should accept an ordinary child and tolerate his imperfection, which is the love and understanding of their children.
is very beautiful, but unfortunately I only said half of it.
Indeed, not every child can go to Harvard and Yale, or go to Peking and Qing dynasties, nor everyone has a brilliant life, but as parents, the normal we can accept should be limited to results.
The child has worked hard, and I have tried my best, so I can't worry about the result. But you really can't do it if you ask me to accept a life process without goals, without hard work or passion.
Life can be dull, but attitude cannot be normal.
My favorite writer Wu Nianzhen is the most famous screenwriter, director, writer and host in Taiwan. He has won five Golden Horse Awards and is known as "Wu Jinma".
He is the soul of Taiwanese movies, and the stories he wrote were crazyly sought after by readers as soon as they were published. Some readers say that I don’t like sensationalism the most, but every time I read what he writes, I just cry.
This is the best storyteller in Taiwan. He has a humble background and a very poor family. He only went to Taipei to be an apprentice after going to junior high school.
In the 1960s, in Taipei, whether it was a bakery, a blacksmith shop, a Chinese medicine shop or a car repair shop, there were poor children from the countryside who were apprentices. Being an apprentice is not only painful, but also at the bottom of the bottom. Every day, you suffer silently like an ants, and you will also be beaten and scolded.
During the day, Wu Nian is a dusty elementary school apprentice, but at night he pursues his dreams in night school . Not only did he finish high school, he also got into the Fu Ren University economics department and became an accountant.
After studying in college, he found a decent job, and finally got out of the bottom of society. However, he was still not satisfied and began to engage in novel creation and eventually became a superstar in the cultural circle of Taiwan.
What power is that makes this person who is pressed at the bottom of society turn the tables against the wind and shine?
Wu Nianzhen almost died of a serious illness when she was a child, but later she miraculously got better. From then on, in the eyes of my mother, he became a child blessed by God and a very special child.
After graduating from elementary school, he was admitted to a good middle school, and his father awarded him a gold pen . Wu’s father was a miner. It took a long time to save money to buy a pen like this, which was extremely rare in poor families at that time.
How parents view their children, their children will see what kind of selves they are.
Wu Nianzhen is an apprentice in Taipei day and night, and I am afraid that no day thinks he is an apprentice and deserves to be poor and is underestimated. He is not even satisfied with being a decent white-collar worker, and the one he wants is worthy of magic and golden pen life.
If parents always think that my child is very non-ordinary, and ordinary ones cannot be more ordinary. OK, the child will accept his fate and be willing to stay among all living beings for the rest of his life, silently, like a drop in the ocean.
As a result, parents will say: Look, that's right, he is just an ordinary child.
Little did we know that we were wrong from the beginning.
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