There was a toxic chicken soup before that which affected me for a long time, "Whoever is serious first will lose." So much so that every time I fall in love, this sentence will appear in my mind without realizing it, and then I dare not be too devoted, dare not be too serious, and I am afraid that the other party is just looking for a playmate when I am lonely. But because of this mentality, I missed many people who are truly good to me and lost people who feel very good to me.
In fact, a person has footprints to find whether he recognizes you seriously or not. There are many scumbags in this world, and not many people fall in love with you at first sight. Sometimes he even leads a scene by himself. However, you think you are the protagonist in the story, but for another person, you are just one of the countless supporting roles. But in fact, the scumbag is not really a scumbag. He once liked someone very seriously, but the other people he met later may no longer be so important.
Many women say they like the way men look after themselves the most. At that time, they look like princesses, flowers, jewelry, phone calls, WeChat, dates, and movies. These are all important means for a man to capture a woman.
However, after the man catches the woman, a series of problems will arise. At this time, you start to doubt whether this person really likes you or pursues you casually. Everyone wants to have a love affair that never breaks up and find someone they like to live this vast life. In love, men and women sometimes pursue differently. Women love because of love, while sometimes men may just pursue temporary joy, physical and visual needs.
says that there are many fickle men, but to be honest, if you meet different people, you will have different results. If a person is serious about you, the corresponding results are actually created by you without realizing it.
So how to judge whether a man is serious about you?
1. Men of this type say better than singing, they can say a lot of sweet words, but they can't do it; they won't remember what you said; they won't remember what you are important; because they don't care too seriously at all.
Taiwan’s famous female emotional writer Wu Danru In her new book, she admitted that women are animals who like to listen to good words and live on their imagination. She had to rely on men's constant praise to prove how charming she was. She always fantasizes herself as a princess that everyone envies in the fairy tale kingdom, just like sour plums will ferment with the accent of sugar and turn into a rich plum wine. And the sweet words of men are undoubtedly sugar and yeast!
So as long as a boy can speak sweet words, most girls will fall.
I have met many girls, and they often encounter such things: a boy who likes to smoke said he quit smoking for you, but then he started smoking again; someone who said he wanted to buy you something, but he didn't see that thing for a long time; he made an appointment with you to travel to a place every year, but at that time he said he didn't remember it, so he used to shiver; there was another way that he asked you to take medicine when you were sick, and he asked you to take medicine when you had a stomachache, and came to aunt to ask you to take medicine, and it rained to let you find a place to shelter from the rain. Then this is definitely not serious, he just said he couldn't do it, just coaxed you.
Venus once said something, and then review it and consolidate it:
Men who only know how to say they can't do it may not be serious about you. And those who silently prepare everything for you should cherish the most. If he is interested in you, your needs, your life, your future, he is serious.
2. Playing disappear without explanation
Backstage once a girl left me a message saying that she had met a boy who had a good chat recently, but she often suddenly disappeared and couldn't find someone. But after a while, she appeared again, and then explained to her where she went and what she was doing. Then she started chatting happily again, but not long after, the boy disappeared again. She couldn't figure out what was going on, and it made her feel itchy after repeated recurrence.He also asked me if he came back to explain it means he cared about him?
often disappears without explanation, or appears suddenly, but there will be excuses afterwards, saying that you are busy, and you can dig something if your phone has no power. Most of these men don’t take this relationship seriously because they have never considered your feelings.
communication tools are so developed now. If he is interested and really cares about your feelings, he will definitely say hello to you in advance; tell you what he is doing, and whether he is busy, instead of letting you guess and entangle here.
3. When you encounter a promise, you will escape
There is a kind of person who may be good to you in every way, but you just don’t make a promise. It is clearly in a very close stage, and what should happen has happened, but it just won’t give you a long-term commitment or escape. So there are many cases in this society about girls forcing them to marry boys.
Why does this phenomenon occur? It is because many boys say they like and love you more. In their daily behavior, they can also see that they actually love you very much, but they just don’t make promises, and even start to escape and evade. This kind of man may have a true love for you, but he is not a scumbag, because a scumbag will give many people false promises and step on several boats at the same time, but this kind of man will only treat you when he is with you.
In fact, love someone without any scruples. He dares not make promises, and may be because he thinks too much, and is afraid of his hands and feet, not generous enough.
4. You have a lot of "question marks" about him
He always doesn't make you feel at ease, it will cause you to have a lot of doubts, not knowing what he is doing, not knowing where he is, nor who he is with. When you ask him, he will find various reasons and excuses to convince you. People who really care about you will not let you have so many questions, and stating facts is more trustworthy than asking rhetorical questions.
Finally, please note that if you believe what he says, then you may meet someone who is not serious about you and it is already difficult for you to get out of this relationship.
If a man loses interest in you, turns around and leaves, or doesn't contact you for a long time, then let him leave, because he just wants to play and is unwilling to take any responsibility, then let him leave happily, and you have no losses.
If you like that person very much, then the above points are useless to judge you. Because you want him to be serious in your subconscious mind, you will often automatically avoid bad things. Maybe it meets these situations, but you will still feel that he is serious about you. At this time, you will be a little dangerous and will be blinded by yourself. The reality and imagination are actually different, but you are deeply involved in it and feel that it is the same.
Dear friends, if you want a man to treat you seriously, then remember to stick to your position, don’t easily lower your standards and value, be clear about where your attraction is, and learn to use these attraction in a timely manner. In this way, you will be more likely to make men respect you. Such women will not be deceived by men's sweet words, nor will they tell men the contact information so easily.
And it doesn’t depend on him, but on you. Whether you can have dinner with you or whether you can sleep with you depends on your decision. Whether you want to meet these needs of men and how to meet them is all up. If you have the ability to control the situation, then men will respect you.
If a man has no long-term plans for you and you cannot see the future, then you cannot change this whether you are dating him or sleeping with him. No matter how outstanding, independent, or good-working you, he will still treat you as a lover rather than a candidate for his future wife.
