As a talented and beautiful modern woman, no matter she is an adult, married or not, she must have a social circle outside the family. With a social circle, you will not be isolated from the outside world; only when you encounter problems can you have social support.
——Sister Yuyan
Two days ago, Sister Yuyan was watching the news, and I was among the top trending searches. I was confused: What about Zhongni cheating and Ziwang posting...
When I clicked on it, it turned out that an Internet celebrity named Zhongni with 5 million fans had cheated on him, and the Internet celebrity who was named "mistress" was called Zi Wang.
etc. After carefully reading the whole incident, Sister Yu Yan felt that it was very necessary to write an article. Because Zhong Ni’s series of operations such as binding, squeezing, and cheating on his wife were so classic !
Although Zhongni married a Ukrainian beauty, the routine he used was indeed a Chinese routine.
Let me first give you an overview of the relationship between these people:
Zhong Ni’s original name is Huang Xiaofeng. He wrote some painful literature in his early years and called himself an "Internet writer".
once appeared on the dating show "Perfect". At that time, many girls fell in love with him because of his personality and appearance. Among them, there was Fang Yuan who was not yet married to Aaron Kwok , so he was also known as " The man who rejected the Queen’s wife” .
▲Entertainment is indeed a circle. Two people so far apart have such a fate. I really didn’t expect
His wife Karina is a Ukrainian beauty. Because of her height of 188cm and her handsome appearance, she became He is a well-known model and coser, with tens of millions of fans.
▲When Karina dresses up as a female, she has big eyes, a high nose bridge, and long legs... She shows the racial advantages of Ukrainian beauties.
▲When she cosplays as a male character, she looks handsome and flirtatious! Sure enough, good-looking humans are all androgynous.
The two have been married for 7 years and have a lovely 6-year-old mixed-race daughter "Ruxi".
The family looks happy and happy. Zhongni often markets his "doting on his wife and doting on his daughter" persona on the Internet, and frequently speaks out for women's rights. He is praised by many netizens as "a high-quality man who abides by male ethics".
For example, just because Karina casually mentioned that she wanted to buy Prada, she asked a friend to buy Prada's shares, although it was only 0.000040486%.
▲Amount, rounding off, Sister Yuyan was once a shareholder of Sinopec, Coca-Cola and other Fortune 500 companies. With such a high-level status, I get excited just thinking about it
Basically, as long as he tags his wife and children, his video views will be over one million, while his own videos will only have hundreds of thousands of views.
It is clear at a glance which of the two has higher commercial value.
After experiencing the 7-year itch of marriage, Zhong Ni’s persona of a good husband and a good father overturned. Netizens revealed that many people cheated on his wife during her pregnancy, including the female internet celebrity Ziwang.
There is also a lot of dark history of humiliating women, such as asking for fans when you open your mouth...
Another example - making dirty jokes about your daughter! ! ! Although it was deleted immediately after being posted, it was still saved by some netizens.
▲Sister Yuyan is already furious! ! This means that in China, in Europe and the United States, you will call the police and be deprived of your custody rights!
Zhong Ni quickly posted a long message saying (pie) apologizing (qing).
The article is too long, so I will excerpt a few paragraphs to summarize and translate it for everyone:
. Because I didn’t get a certificate with Karina, I don’t count it as cheating..(Translation: Having children is not considered a de facto marriage, nor is marketing the persona of loving your wife and loving your family a marriage. Without marriage, I have not cheated. It does not count as immoral. You cannot scold me.)
. Karina suffered from postpartum depression Syndrome . (So it’s her fault, not mine. As for how she got postpartum depression , that’s her business, not mine.)
. In line with the attitude of being responsible for the child, I want to give The child finds a stepmother. (The child’s biological mother is still alive, so I looked for the stepmother... Sister Yuyan can no longer complain.)
. Ziwang got together with my friend before he alienated me. (I can cheat while married, but you can't fall in love with others when you're not married; if I like you, you can't refuse my love.)
. I dated Ziwang and lost money. I took everything on my shoulders. (Make a movie? Where will it be released? Now short videos are also called movies? Have you signed a contract? Please go through the legal process.)
. Inappropriate comments on Weibo are the behavior of the team. (It doesn't make sense - first of all, was someone else forcing you to pinch your daughter's breast? Secondly, if other remarks are team behaviors and do not count, then your statement may also be a team behavior and do not count.)
. All other cheatings are false, only Ziwang is true. I will sue you for spreading rumors. (I will take someone as my support even if I die.)
Immediately, the mistress in the incident posted a response, saying that Zhong Ni had asked her to shoot a video in 2017, lied about divorce and pursued her .
During the process of getting along with him, Ziwang discovered that he was not divorced, so he immediately cut his losses and ended the relationship with him.
There are frequent golden sentences in the article, which is much better than the gossip of celebrities (celebrities now have teams to operate, and their responses are very official and less humane. No wonder the masses are eating the melons of Internet celebrities).
For example, he asked the man: "Otherwise, if I separate from you, will I have to stay a widow for you for a few years?"
"If I have to say that the temperature is rising, it is me who is heating it up alone. Not only is the temperature rising, I am smoking." (directly referring to the other person’s self Love)
It is a pity that the Ukrainian beauty Karina cannot speak the language and can only rely on Zhongni to translate all Chinese information. Her husband controls the property, the children are still young, and the motherland Ukraine is at war... There is really no way out, even divorce is difficult! It's like being eaten dry and wiped clean and still unable to resist.
▲One of Karina’s self-portraits is a picture of being imprisoned. The face of the man behind it looks like Zhongni, which makes people worry.
What’s even more embarrassing is that has been supported by his wife and daughter through the ages. The routine of abandoning people again appears endlessly in the patriarchal society.
Bait in the name of "love"
In ancient times, behind every young lady engaged in the sex industry was a "chicken head", or a "male mommy". They will deliberately find a prey among beautiful girls - sometimes even several - to provide for him.
For example, Zhou She in "The Book of Love" is such a character.
▲ Good dramas are often watched and often new, and they are never out of date - "Save the Feng Chen" created by Guan Hanqing a thousand years ago, which has been passed down to this day
Nowadays, there are fewer erotic industries in New China, but to a certain extent, those who sell beauty Derivative industries also fall into this category.
For example, live broadcasts of singing, dancing, and rewards, and models taking beautiful photos...
These beauties are also surrounded by many "scum (Ji) men (Tou)" who specialize in eating women.
How do these scumbags choose their prey?
I remember that many years ago, Sister Yuyan had read a paper by Pan Suiming, the "godfather of Chinese sexology" - "The biggest danger in studying red light districts is falling in love with a young lady" .
▲ Pan Suiming is a professor at Renmin University and one of the few domestic sex experts who talks about sexual changes.
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that women who are engaged in beauty-related activities can easily fall into the "love" trap.
Because of the industry she is in, all the men she sees have greedy eyes. If there is someone who is waiting for her as an equal - not to mention equal, just paying attention to her and sitting down and chatting with her - she will be moved. Have to shed tears.
Therefore, many men like Zhong Ni will first approach you with an equal attitude in the name of "love".
This also explains why Zhong Ni was so fond of the character of "speaking for women".
▲For example, when others made fun of him: "Is it cheap to marry a Ukrainian wife?" he would send a video to emphasize: Marriage is not a transaction!
In ancient times, Zhou She composed songs and lyrics for Song Yinzhang, treated her equally and made her fall in love. In fact, the routines of ancient and modern times are similar.
▲In the old version of "The Book of Love", Zhou She's words were still stolen from his love rival An Xiucai.
In the name of "partnership", he practiced "isolation"
When beauties fell in love with such a scumbag, scumbag Men may first use some means to trap you.
▲Karina’s pregnancy may have been an accident. It is suspected that Zhongni had done something to the "protective umbrella"
The next step is to isolate you from all other outside world, so that he is the only one left in your circle.
Usually, in the name of "helping you take care of your business and flattering you", they will take all your income as their own - you are obviously the one supporting him, but they also want you to call him boss and be grateful.
For example, Zhong Ni, who controlled all of Karina's accounts and income, and Feng Moumou, who originally controlled Zhang Liangying , have similar routines.
▲ When the two broke up, almost all of the hundreds of millions that Zhang Liangying earned over the years was taken away by her agent Feng Moumou and his company
Don’t think that this kind of thing only happens to the weak - for example, the other party is the big boss, and you are Newcomers; or they are foreigners and do not understand foreign languages - As long as there is a power imbalance, this loophole can be exploited .
For example, the American singing superstar Britney Spears was controlled by her biological father for 13 years, and she only regained control of her life at the age of 40.
Britney, who debuted as a child star, was controlled by her agent father before she became an adult because of her young age.
▲After Britney and her father
grew up, in order to continue to control her, her father installed a contraceptive ring on her to prevent her from having children, and also controlled all her accounts.
For example, Britney's salary for a week's singing residency was 6 million US dollars, but in her hands, it was only 2,000 US dollars.
▲ Compared to children, parents have absolute control. Under this imbalance of power, human nature cannot stand the test.
After Britney resisted, Dad first forced his daughter, and then when she was emotionally unstable, such as shaving her head, he directly argued with the court. application, deeming his daughter "mentally insane" to continue his "monitoring power" over her.
▲These gas-lighting techniques, whether used on wives or daughters, are always tried and true.
Today in the 21st century, an international superstar needs to get his father’s approval before doing anything, including buying popcorn and drinking. A little soda ...it's so sad and ridiculous!
So once you are controlled by someone with intentions and isolated from the outside world, no matter you are a foreigner who does not understand Chinese or a well-known international superstar, you cannot escape the risk of being exploited and wiped out.
▲The little Tiantian who was once so glamorous has been eaten and wiped clean for half her life, which is heartbreaking
So, As a talented and beautiful modern woman, what should we do to avoid these routines ?
Countermeasures
In ancient times, due to the problems of the feudal system, it was difficult for women to keep their own beauty, talents and other resources. If they encountered the likes of Zhongni and Buba, they would have to resist passively to prevent them from knocking their bones and sucking their marrow.
For example, Song Yinzhang in "The Book of Love" cut his own face and destroyed his beauty before he escaped from tragedy.
So some people on the Internet suggested that Karina should not work for the time being, and just use the lowest cost to survive - even if it is borrowing money - and wait until she gets rid of the other party.
Only when the other party can no longer profit from you can you possibly get rid of the other party.
Sister Yu Yan feels that modern women do not need to be so miserable under non-extreme circumstances. We can take the initiative to prevent the occurrence of such routines with the means and knowledge that modern society has given us.
Strategy 1: As a talented and beautiful modern woman, no matter she is an adult, married or not, she must have a social circle outside the family, a few good friends, and a few good girlfriends.
With a social circle, you will not be isolated from the outside world; only when you encounter problems can you have social support.
I suggest that every entrepreneurial woman should have a few lawyer friends and have some legal advice from them, so that they will not be left without support in extreme circumstances.
Strategy 2: In business, try to keep channels and resources in hand - at least part of them, and use professional teams and companies to replace family workshops.
This is not only because compared to family workshops, companies and teams are more professional; more importantly, modern company systems can bring checks and balances on power.
Once you encounter an illegal situation that embezzles your personal rights, you can use legal means to regain your due earnings.
Strategy three: Be sure to understand company finances and family finances.
I have a good friend in Canada. She comes from a wealthy business family. Her father is the founder of the largest local glasses company and also owns the Canadian agency rights of an American fast food company.
As a result, the young man helped his father on a business trip and fell in love with a flight attendant. Later, she married Mr. Kong and gave him funds for business. After 10 years of marriage, the two became very wealthy, but they divorced. Her husband transferred a lot of assets offshore to Singapore.
She came to ask me, tell me, will my husband be honest when dividing property?
I thought about it and asked her: Do you read the company’s financial report every month? Do you also have the family’s annual tax return? Are there any bank statements?
She replied: I never read it.
I had no choice but to answer her: Then you should continue to trust your husband.
So, I think, If they have a common career, no matter what, women still need to understand some financial conditions.
Because your husband and your cheating partner can collude and embezzle your rights, and your parents and relatives may be colluding, but if your financial director colludes with the legal director... then you can send them to jail!
We modern women have struggled for hundreds of years before we finally gained the power to control our own destiny.
So dear friends, while reading the gossip about cheating and betrayal, learn to identify the routines targeting women, be less love-minded and more career-minded .
In fact, rational love is the most romantic.
because of sobriety.
Some of the pictures in this article come from the Internet
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