Author | Lu Lu
This summer vacation, we are going to the UK. Recently, I have been preparing for travel issues in the UK, so I subscribed to " Sun News ".
is the ex-husband of Wendi Deng . Under the name of Murdoch, is also the tabloid with the largest circulation in the UK. It specializes in all kinds of gossip. Well, human nature is complicated, and everyone loves gossip.
Last week, "The Sun" used their most popular Sunday headline to report a social news about a beautiful Ukrainian refugee who seduced her boyfriend of eight years in ten days. In the context of the war, let's take a look It exploded and was reported in various European countries.
It turns out that the main palace cannot compete with the mistress. This is basically a global and international problem!
However, as an emotional blogger, what I want to say is not war, but human nature. Especially in love or marriage, many times, you can analyze and solve problems based on the actual situation rather than starting from your own emotions. , mentality is more important than emotion!
After the Ukrainian-Russian war broke out, a very ordinary family in the UK, Tony, who worked as a security guard, and his wife Lorna, who had been living together for eight years and had two children, out of good intentions, received a refugee from Ukraine. , a 22-year-old Sophia.
Wife Lorna on the left, husband Tony on the right and Ukrainian refugee Sofiia Sofiia
Just ten days after Sophia arrived at Manchester Airport , her husband Tony claimed that Sophia made him understand what love is, and he resolutely abandoned his wife and children and moved back Start your new life in your mother's home!
This is really an old story! In particular, Eastern Europe, whether Russia or Ukraine, has always had the habit and history of sending "brides" to Western Europe.
However, in the special context of war, the news broke out all of a sudden.
I am not a commentator on current affairs. I have not studied how various European countries prepare to digest these hundreds of thousands of refugees. But what I want to say is that when I read this story, my first reaction was:
Is this woman crazy? Or are you out of your mind? Why would you agree to such an obvious invitation?
Especially the heroine Rona said that their home is not big, and if they receive a refugee, they have to put two children in the same bedroom.
In such a small space, why would you choose to receive such a sexy young woman? Do you believe too much in your man, or in yourself?
The picture comes from Sophia’s Facebook account
Looking at what I said, I believe there must be someone, and more than one, who has opened the keyboard and cursed: "Do you have any political bottom line? Such a bad scumbag, why don't you call him a scumbag?" , What are you talking about? What’s wrong with women? "
Yes, this man is a scumbag and should be cut into pieces, but then... who has really seen anyone really drowned in spit? After all the scolding, in the end, wasn't that scumbag hugging the girl and having fun?
Therefore, in the online world, launching a war of words and scolding a man is the easiest and cheapest way, but do you think that the scumbag can sit back and straighten himself out after hearing your condemnation and emotions? That’s really just overthinking!
People with this way of thinking have been stereotyped in exam-oriented education, so that except for one absolutely correct option, everything else is wrong. It is really a sad thing.
In fact, in life, whether it is exams, work, love or marriage, when faced with an element that may crush and subvert oneself, instead of clinging to other people's rights and wrongs, it is better to think about what to do, which will be harmful to yourself. life more meaningful?
Talking about the case between Tony, Lorna and Sophia, I saw many people leaving messages saying that this man is completely unreliable and will cheat one day, so the cheating will be over as soon as possible, and Lorna can rebuild her life as soon as possible.
I can only agree with half of this point of view.
Because in terms of human nature, I feel that before this Sophia really appears in their lives, this man may cheat one day, but there is no sign that his chance of cheating will be any higher than that of Lao Wang next door.
said this, what I want to express is that in fact, in marriage, it is meaningless to think of a man as too good or too bad, and it will make things worse. The best way is to discuss the matter based on facts and human nature.
Tony said in the interview that his grandmother also fled to the UK as a refugee. If no one helped her, she might have died and there would be no descendants. From this point of view, it is understandable that after the Ukrainian-Russian war broke out, he wanted to do his best to help others.
So, when did this incident begin, turning from noble to despicable, and rushing towards infidelity?
From an outsider’s objective perspective, it is very simple and obvious, the moment Tony posted on Facebook that he was willing to take in refugees and Sofia found him.
Even now, Sophia's Facebook account is still public. No matter Tony or Lorna, everyone can see that a young woman is not stingy about her sexiness!
Of course, she is young, she is beautiful, she is sexy, these are not her fault.
But in fact, as I said, from a human perspective, many things in this world are not right or wrong in the process of development, and there is no right or wrong. It is just a slight difference. The train will fall out in an uncontrollable direction. There is no way to control it at all. It can only derail and break into several parts, which is all tragic.
Therefore, before Sophia found Tony on Facebook, Tony, who wanted to do his best to help a refugee, might have been noble. But after meeting Sophia, Tony's "nobility" became mixed with private thoughts, and his nature has changed. .
In fact, the entire uncontrollable affair could have been avoided if his wife, Rona, firmly stated that she could not accept this candidate!
After all, the refugee British visa requires both husband and wife to sign. If the wife does not cooperate, the visa will not be granted.
Lorna said in the interview that even though she didn't like this choice from the beginning, she still cooperated with the procedures and brought Sophia back with Tony.
Faced with his own wishes, he did not fight for himself, and the price was obvious... tragic and incomparable!
I have always felt that Chinese is really a very visual language.
For example, in an intimate relationship, one party's disloyalty to the other party is called "cheating". How vivid is it?
A huge train staggered off the track and broke into several sections. It was really as shocking as when it suddenly slid off the track, carrying families, children, houses, and the lives of middle-aged people. It’s really almost the same!
And those details that may have terrible consequences, such as Tony’s refugee Sophia, or his consumption record at the pet cafe one day, or a cute emoticon that he suddenly used, or something found under the car seat That silver chain...
In fact, the development of all things must have a process, and in many cases, if the details can be corrected in time at the very beginning, it may not necessarily happen. In the end, we don’t want to Saw the accident!
I know that in this world, there are many women who have been calling men scumbags. They are also arrogant and do not bother to follow these trivial tricks.
However, after writing so much, I just want to say that in terms of human nature, in fact, the initial script of many encounters, opportunities, and derailments is not what it appears in the end, but in the end they are all confused and uncontrollable.
In fact, there are all kinds of cheating stories all over the world, no matter the situation or opportunity, the details are the same if you look closely:
It means the man’s nastiness, the wife’s blindness, and the lover’s greed, all are indispensable. In the whole process, any one Everyone once had at least one possibility and opportunity to turn the tide. However, everyone was indifferent, so they screamed and drove into hell together.
It is a pity that in such stories, it is always the weakest person who suffers the most. It is a pity.
Lu Lu: a fashion master and writer who has two daughters studying in France. She is an elegant female self-media who walks in the gap between Eastern and Western cultures. The new books "Thirty Years Too Late" and "Only with Strength Can You Have Confidence" are selling like hotcakes.
