was drinking a glass of warm wolfberry water when he came across a hot topic on Weibo , and his wife almost choked. (It’s so well said and makes sense that I’m speechless)
Picture from Weibo
Until I saw Zhou Huimin’s recent photo of Zhou Huimin, whose bangs hairstyle has been unchanged for decades since her debut, I had to accept:
Look at this person, why is he still 52 years old? How about living like a girl?
Zhou Huimin's Mid-Autumn Festival photos
Let's look at the photos of Zhou Huimin and her 55-year-old husband Ni Zhen in the same frame. The filters are definitely added, but her facial muscles have no hyaluronic acid texture. After all, she is a beautiful girl!
Zhou Huimin's Mid-Autumn Festival photos
At the beginning of this year, the contrast between the two people's 10th wedding anniversary photos was even more obvious. Ni Zhen's eyes have shown signs of age, but Zhou Huimin's eyes are still shining like a girl~
What makes people even more envious and jealous is that after 10 years, the man is no longer young, and Zhou Huimin seems to have eaten Like preservatives, no trace of time can be seen.
Some people may be confused as to why such a beautiful and talented woman would marry a scumbag with a record of evil deeds? Is she really as happy after marriage as in the photos? Mrs.
wants to say that love comes from the heart. If a person can remain beautiful for ten years, he must have a very relaxed inner life. Zhou Huimin's calm and calm demeanor is obviously not the same as a resentful woman.
On the other hand, Ni Zhen's face no longer had the sharp energy, but he looked like a middle-aged and elderly person with a peaceful Buddhist style.
In fact, many people are deceived by Zhou Huimin’s appearance. She is not as weak and boneless as she seems, leaving viewers to imagine a painful scene of exhausting efforts to conquer a playboy.
Vivian Chow’s concert appearance this year
As she said, "I have a very strong nature."
Ni Zhen commented on her: "She is actually very independent and knows what she wants."
In this relationship, it seems that the man is cheating on her before marriage, but the woman is forbearing and forgiving. In fact, Zhou Huimin is the one who has the initiative. She is not the weak image of a victim.
"He is a partner and a companion"
"I am more capable of taking care of myself"
In 2008, Ni Zhen kissed a college student in a nightclub Zhang Mao. I think everyone still has an impression.
After the incident broke out, Zhou Huimin and Ni Zhen completed the shocking reversal of breaking up, getting back together, and getting married within a week. Especially the sentence "My partner can definitely afford to make this mistake" in Zhou Huimin's statement made the outside world say they can't understand it. This is her operation.
Zhou Huimin’s breakup statement was praised as a model textbook
My wife was still young at that time, and she couldn’t care less about emotional matters. She also had a sympathetic attitude toward Zhou Huimin, “sorry for her misfortune and anger for her, but not fight for it”.
She has a clean net worth, is hard-working and motivated, has both beauty and talent. She can definitely find a good man who knows how to cherish all her tenderness and beauty!
A romantic talent like Ni Zhen, who has all the bad habits of a scholar and loves to play, is simply not worthy of her, right? A beautiful woman has countless suitors, why would she hang herself from a tree?
Later, as my experience grew, I understood and accepted that human nature is not black and white, and gained a new understanding of Zhou Huimin's choice.
Let me ask you a question first. A passionate scumbag who has cheated on you but has an interesting soul, is spiritually compatible with you, and can meet all your life needs, and an honest man who is loyal to you all his life and has no bright spots except being good to you. How about you? Which one will you choose?
The answer is self-evident, and there must be many people choosing the former.
Because such a person can awaken your vitality and give you the energy to establish an emotional connection between yourself and the outside world.
He may not be a good person, but that doesn't stop you from loving him.
Ni Zhen is undoubtedly such a being. In Zhou Huimin's eyes, "He is very much like my spiritual mentor. We are like individuals, complementing each other and building each other up to make each other stronger. He deserves credit for being able to become who I am today." Very big."
How attentive is Ni Zhen to Zhou Huimin?
He is a pure "good boyfriend with twenty-four filial piety". He knows how to take care of others and enjoys the character of taking care of others.
Zhou Huimin does not have to worry about chores at home, everything is taken care of by him.
Ni Zhen treats Zhou Huimin He is also very obedient and obedient, giving her whatever she wants and completely doting on her like a child:
He is the kind of serious, careful and responsible boyfriend. From the beginning to the end, he treats me attitude, and put me in an important position in everything.
Indeed, when Zhou Huimin was tired of the entertainment industry, Ni Zhen resolutely sold his shares in the most profitable magazine he founded to support his girlfriend. , cashed out 100 million, announced his retirement, and moved to Canada with her.
The two lived a life of independence, raising cats together, getting up at 7 o'clock every day, and going to bed at 10 o'clock in the evening.
Zhou Huimin loved the taste of coffee cake. No matter what happened, Ni Zhen bought them from one family for her to try, and he was responsible for getting rid of the unpalatable ones, leaving only the best ones for her.
Zhou Huimin lived in Vancouver, but the cheese she wanted to eat was only available in American supermarkets. Ni Zhen Weibo. As soon as she was happy, she drove frantically for several hours to the United States to buy.
When Zhou Huimin was preparing for the concert, Ni Zhen was worried that she would be hungry, so he thoughtfully prepared breakfast and midnight snacks for her, and also took care of her. Taste:
What he eats is different every day. Sometimes when cooking dumplings, he has to cook some special food to arouse my appetite.
This is not enough. With Ni Zhen’s unconventional nature, romance is inevitable in daily life.
When Zhou Huimin misses him, he will take a photo of himself holding his beloved cat, covering his naked body, and send it to her, looking like a gangster but not lacking in provocation?
Fortunately, the cat automatically coded...
He was even better at creating surprises, dressing up as Chow Huimin's favorite cat doll, and passionately confessing to tens of thousands of people at a concert, "I love Chow Huimin the most."
When Chow Huimin was grieving over the death of her beloved cat "Chow Huibao", Ni Zhen took it. The beards that I had collected silently before were made into souvenirs and given to her, which gave her great relief.
How many people can Ni Zhen do this as a boyfriend? It is not difficult to understand that Zhou Huimin, who has been missing his father's love since childhood, can do this. , it’s not surprising to be trapped.
Some people may want to say that Ni Zhen is not the only man in the world. There are many good men. Who can you be romantic with?
The question is, considering that Zhou Huimin had been in love with Ni Zhen for 19 years and had lost all her glory at the age of 42, would it be better to change to another person?
may be worse than this.
Just like my best friend Miss Y, she couldn’t forget her ex after she broke up. She had to meet new men due to pressure from her elders. As a result, the reason why she passed them was: they were not as good as my ex, and no one could do it better than him. Better.
In the end, Miss Y and her ex reunited and got married, because "at this age, I no longer have the courage to get to know a stranger from scratch. Even if he has many shortcomings, he is the one and only one, and I still love him."
For Zhou Huimin , is it not out of such considerations?
Looking at the problem in detail, it is nothing more than: Choosing a person is just choosing a life.
As a posthumous child, Zhou Huimin was raised by her mother through hard work. She knew she had to survive in isolation and helplessness, and her life was destined to be miserable.
All she needs is "a partner, a companion" . Ni Zhen can provide her with emotional value and, to a certain extent, compensate for what she lacked in childhood. This is enough.
And what is the most difficult thing to balance?
is greed.
Most people want an interesting and talented soul but find him unfocused, want someone who is kind to you but find him uninteresting, want a boyish person who can play with you but find him uninteresting. Childish and immature.
As a result, they kept looking for the next more suitable person, and eventually fell into an endless cycle of love.
But the reality is often that no matter who you choose to be with in this life, there will be problems, big and small, and you will eventually have to face and resolve conflicts.
You must know that love and love are only a small part of life, and there are many more interesting things to do in life.
Promise is inherently fleeting. Face the instability of people's hearts and reduce your expectations for eternity, and you will live a much more relaxed life.
When a woman reaches a certain age, the most important thing is to reduce unnecessary emotional internal consumption and focus her main energy on growing inward and finding herself.
What kind of life is suitable for you? What can you afford? What can't you stand?
If you want to understand these and achieve logical self-consistency, there will be no big worries.
Zhou Huimin's marriage to Ni Zhen was not a fate-changing decision. Instead, she took it very lightly: It's not a big deal.
Yes, isn’t it just about getting married?
She didn't wear the wedding ring deliberately. Her identity could be switched at will. She could be either "Mrs. Ni" or "Miss Zhou".
Just as Hu Ziwei said: If the tragedy or comedy of a woman is no longer that of a man, we say that this woman has lived a great life.
Zhou Huimin certainly lives her own life. No one knows how to love herself better than her:
If you have the ability to love yourself, be responsible, and take care of yourself, you have nothing to fear. Life is full of impermanence, so you should use a normal mind instead of relying on a relationship or some material things to give yourself a sense of security.
Zhou Huimin’s life in Canada
A woman with multiple pivots
can be free and happy
Do you all understand the principle of not putting all your eggs in the same basket?
feels the same way. If a woman wants to truly live freely and happily, she must have multiple pivots.
You have to make sure that when the fulcrum of love collapses, you still have other fulcrums for yourself to stand on.
First of all, we must be as financially independent as Zhou Huimin.
Money is also a woman’s courage.
Before the age of 30, Zhou Huimin had already earned more wealth than she could spend in her lifetime. After her marriage, she also appeared as spokesperson and held concerts from time to time, basically having no worries about food and clothing.
Ni Zhen has never earned as much as her. He is at a financial disadvantage. Of course, Zhou Huimin has more say.
If a man can make me happy, then he can live a good life. If you treat me badly, I can dump you.
Secondly, you must know how to have fun for yourself and don't place all your expectations on your partner.
We must avoid becoming Luo Zijun in "My First Half of Life". The focus of life revolves around her husband, and her daily hobby is to go to work and mess around. Women who live without self are pitiful.
Zhou Huimin is a very talented and smart woman with a wealth of skills. Her husband Ni Zhen admires her before it is too late.
She has level 10 piano and can also write lyrics and music. She can play and sing by herself at concerts. I also play guitar well enough to entertain myself.
Under Ni Zhen’s guidance, she also learned American billiards . And it's not just for fun. He is now a member of the Hong Kong American Billiards Association and once represented him in a competition and won third place in the women's group.
is even better at painting. Her works have won the "New Era Award for Visual Arts" and were shortlisted for the first "Chinese Watercolor Figure Painting Exhibition". When
becomes obsessed with it, she can concentrate on it for the whole day:
can spend the whole day just by giving me paper and pen. I can keep drawing and shouting with joy.
Some of Zhou Huimin's paintings
She also raised several cats, for which she wrote a book "My Cat Son Zhou Huibao", which shows her delicate thoughts.
Life is so colorful, how can it be boring?
Finally, it is so important to develop a healthy routine, take care of yourself properly, and stay beautiful!
This picture of 51-year-old Vivian Chow holding a concert last year was widely circulated, making many girls in their early 20s feel ashamed.
In fact, Zhou Huimin advocates naturalness and the secret of skin care is very simple.
She revealed: She has very few skin care products and does not advocate applying too much on the face. She only insists on skin care in the morning and evening every day, spending only 5 to 10 minutes each time, and only uses eye masks and facial masks once or twice a week. , and never go to a beauty salon.
also has a regular life schedule. She does not stay up late or bask in the sun. Her diet is mainly low-sugar, low-fat, low-salt and high-fiber foods, eating less meat and more vegetarian food.
Zhou Huimin also has a sports hobby that is dancing, which not only allows her to maintain a good figure all year round, but also releases her body and mind, improves her temperament, and ages gracefully.
The most important thing is that her mentality has always been optimistic, and she treats people and things around her with tolerance, just like looking at a wrinkle with a relaxed attitude.
So, Zhou Huimin, who is rich, good-looking, and has hobbies, has the ability to make herself happy whether a man or not, so what else is there to be afraid of?
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