With the initial results in domestic epidemic prevention and control, more and more cities have achieved "clearance". An interesting phenomenon is starting to emerge, divorce rates are skyrocketing across the country. There was a long queue at the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau, with couples applying for divorce.
In the past 10 years, China's divorce rate has been rising year by year. In 2003, more than 1.3 million couples were divorced, and by 2018, it reached 4.5 million couples. Every year after the college entrance examination, there will be a small climax of divorce. The main reason is that the husband and wife have been at odds with each other for a long time. For the sake of the candidates at home, they have to make do after the college entrance examination.
html In early March, the number of divorce applications in Xi'an, Shaanxi and Dazhou, Sichuan hit a record, leading to a significant increase in the workload of relevant departments. In Miluo City, Hunan Province, staff did not even have time to drink water because so many couples lined up to apply for divorce. Shanghai divorce lawyer Steve Li said his caseload has increased by 25% since Shanghai's lockdown was lifted in mid-March. After the outbreak, many couples had to live together under the same roof for two months, sometimes as extended families. "The longer they stay together, the more dissatisfied they become with each other. People need space, and this applies not only to couples, but to everyone." "Bloomberg reported on March 31
At the end of January and beginning of February this year, people were still teasing that there would be a baby boom around November this year. Because of the epidemic, the couple stared at each other at home every day and always needed a little entertainment.
But the epidemic has not yet been completely resolved, and people can’t wait to leave their homes and rush to the Civil Affairs Bureau to make an appointment for divorce.
Let’s take a look at the reasons for divorce:
1. Getting along day and night, shortcomings exposed
Still photos from the naked wedding era
Work and production were suspended during the epidemic, and everyone was confined at home. Wife Xiao Wu and husband Xiao Li did nothing but stare at each other every day. Three meals a day and trivial housework. On weekdays, the two of them have to work from nine to five on weekdays, and the only time they spend together is after get off work and on weekends. The two of them play on their phones and watch videos after get off work, go out to meet friends on weekends, take turns sharing housework, and live a normal life.
Now that both of them are locked up at home, life is no longer as simple as who cooks or washes the dishes. Xiao Li likes to play mobile games. He keeps his mobile phone in his hand all day long, takes it with him when eating, going to the toilet, and even taking a shower to listen to novels. Every time Xiao Wu needed help with housework, he shouted for a long time but no one responded. Xiao Wu was cleaning at home, and he suddenly got angry for no reason. Finally, why.
Xiao Li said that I helped wash the dishes and cook, and what else should I do. But we all know that housework is as simple as washing dishes and cooking. Xiao Wu and Xiao Li started to quarrel after you said something to me. The more Xiao Wu thought about it, the angrier he became. He always obeyed me in everything before marriage, but why did he become a different person after marriage? After the two young people had an angry quarrel, they agreed to divorce after the epidemic, and they decided not to get divorced at all.
spends time together day and night, magnifying small problems that are usually ignored and turning them into unforgivable mistakes. Generations born in the 1990s are generally only children, and they always feel that the tasks are unevenly distributed or unwilling to do housework when doing housework. Over time, conflicts will naturally arise.
2. The rise of women
The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel poster
From the film and television works in recent years, we can find that the film and television works are more independent in the heroine style, such as the popular Disney animation "Frozen" 》A princess who doesn’t need to be attached to a prince. The American dramas "The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel" and "Fleabag", "Mulan" which was postponed and withdrawn due to the epidemic, as well as many domestic female urban dramas "Ode to Joy" and "Everything Is Fine" etc.
Frozen poster
Art always comes from life. We are gratified to see that women's status in the family and workplace is further improved, they have greater say and more independent life. We learned in high school politics class that "the economic base determines the superstructure". As women's economic status improves, they have more choices. They have taken more initiative in the marriage and love market. "If we work together, we will get together or if we don't, we will break up." This is the motto of many women in the new era.
Therefore, in relationships, independent women can choose the life and lover they want, and break out of unhappy marriages at any time. This is also one of the reasons why China's divorce rate remains high.
3. Domestic violence
Don’t talk to strangers stills
Domestic violence is an important reason for divorce. Violence is not only violence against women by men, but also violence by women against men, and violence by parents against their children. Another thing is that we are very easy to ignore And confused -----cold violence
Violence once occurs again. Many domestic and foreign film and television works have detailed and cruel depictions. The nationally sensational film and television drama "Don't Talk to Strangers" was domestic violence. Very realistic expression.
Regarding why domestic violence occurs, we will analyze it from the psychology of the perpetrator and the abused, the family of origin, life experiences, etc. Later, the author will make a special topic on domestic violence and discuss it with netizens.
4. Cheating and having a mistress
Stills of Dingju
There is a saying among parents and grandparents, "stealing from work". According to the current saying, it means cheating or having a mistress. Marital infidelity is also one of the leading causes of divorce.
We can often see it in social news, news about beating up a mistress in the street, or about a hotel catching someone raping and causing disputes, etc. Modern China began to implement monogamy in 1912, and cases of bigamy, infidelity, and polygamy still occur today. The reason is very complicated. This kind of people are what we commonly call scumbag men and scumbag women.
Two surnames come together in marriage, make a contract together, and have a good relationship forever, and they have the same name. Look at the peach blossoms that are scorching today, and it is a good place to live in a home. It is predicted that the melons and melons will be abundant in the next year, and the Erchang will be blazing. I would like to write this promise to the Hong Jian, so that the Red Leaf Alliance can be recorded clearly.
It is not easy for two people to meet each other. Knowing each other should be cherished. If they part ways, there is no need to make do with it.
