After watching the 2022 Olympic Award-winning popular movie "King Richard", as a father of a child, I was filled with emotion.
What exactly can you do to help your children grow better?
There is no doubt that athletes who stand at the top of the sports track have the best money-making ability in the world. It is no exaggeration to describe them as making money every day. But behind the scenery, there are also unknown sports injuries and pains.
Not to mention athletes who have not achieved sufficiently good results, even athletes who have achieved good results, there are cases where they spend extravagantly before retiring and cannot guarantee their quality of life after retirement.
But what is certain is that in the movie, the famous female tennis players Venus Williams and Serena Williams must have a settled life after retirement, because they have a father who plans their life for them.
compared to Gu Ailing Her mother provided Gu Ailing with the top resources from China and the United States and provided her with multiple ways to explore her talents. It is difficult for ordinary families to have such powerful resources to control. Of course, not every parent with such resources can cultivate such an excellent Gu Ailing. The success of children depends more on their own efforts.
And the cute girl Quan Hongchan who became famous at the Tokyo Olympics is a representative of children who rely on their own efforts and talents to carve out a path for themselves. It is difficult for the family to provide effective help to Xiaoquan Hongchan. Her parents and Gu Ailing's parents have different resources and vision. But what we need to note is that when Quan Hongchan became famous all over the country, her parents did not get carried away and consumed their daughter's popularity, and did their best to protect their daughter's reputation. I think such parents are still very good even if they cannot provide a lot of help and support to their children!
In addition to the blessing of top resources and personal struggle to make a breakthrough, the path planned by Richard, the father of Williams and sisters, for their children seems to be more traceable and worthy of reference by ordinary parents.
1. He is a clear-headed father, and he knows what kind of situation he is facing.
As a black man born in a slum, Richard is used to the oppression and discrimination of black people by white people, and the chaos and loss of control of black people themselves. He I know that if you and your children want to get ahead, you must stay clean and stay diligent. He rarely takes vacations because "lazy people are only suitable for daydreaming."
If Richard becomes interested in something, he will try his best to study hard, carefully study the industry rules, imitate the practices of industry elites, and even listen to some technical points of tennis while driving. This makes him a Someone who really understands tennis.
2. He knows how to make plans for his children's lives, and he also understands that all plans must be put into action.
He discovered that tennis bonuses are very high because of watching the news. The bonus a child gets for winning a game exceeds his year's salary. So he and his wife gave birth to two children, and he also made a 78-page tennis career plan for his children. If you ask why he didn't arrange for Williams's sisters to play tennis, it's because he planned a growth path for his sisters to study, become doctors and lawyers.
Although he is just an ordinary security guard, he often takes his children to tennis training. He will contact well-known coaches introduced in tennis magazines through the yellow pages, and he will visit them and shamelessly promote his daughter to them. (This scene is very similar to Will Smith 's once famous work "The Pursuit of Happiness.")
When he promoted his daughters, he not only had the training results of his daughters, but also specially produced a brochure and video to introduce his own daughters. bring. He would also take his daughter directly to the tennis club and shamelessly challenge the coach to show off his abilities. (He has a good relationship with the security guard, so he can enter.) How many parents in China can go to such great lengths to package and market their children?
3. He strives to instill correct ideas into his children.
Yes, it is instillation.
A child is actually a blank piece of paper. If the correct ideas do not occupy his brain, then all kinds of bad things will take advantage of it.
Richard told his daughters that his mother told him, "Son, the toughest, most powerful and most dangerous people in the world are women who know how to think. They can do anything!"
When he was young, his older brother After Williams’ dream was to play at Wimbledon, Serena Williams was asked who she wanted to play like. She said, I want others to imitate my playing.
He gave a harsh lesson to his daughter who wanted to enjoy free food. Nothing in this world is free. If there is, then there must be a high price behind it!
He tried hard to teach all the children to stay humble, respect their opponents, and not to be complacent just because they have achieved a little success.
4. He is not only the child’s best tutor, but also the child’s best agent
Because tennis is actually a sport for the rich, and their family’s income cannot afford the high tennis training fees. It is extremely difficult to cultivate all children to be successful at the same time. This kind of whimsical plan is tantamount to wishful thinking!
Almost no one would believe that a poor family would produce Mozart, and two more!
But Richard still did not give up after being rejected by countless people. He smiled and said to those who rejected him, well, it is you who missed this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. Don't regret it in the future.
Finally, he met a high-level coach who was willing to train Williams.
Why can he encounter it? (He only looks for well-known high-level coaches.)
In addition to being tenacious and thick-skinned, he is also good at putting himself in others' shoes and nurturing his own children. He thinks clearly about the benefits of cultivating investors, so he negotiates When you do something, you are not asking others to do something, but as a collaborator, telling the other person that you are here to help the other person get rich.
And when negotiating, Richard was well prepared, had his own contract terms, and found the coach's competitors to make quotations. The negotiation strategy was similar to Ele.me said to Ali Meituan submitted a bid XX billion in order to seek the most beneficial situation for themselves.
Richard and the children's mother worked together toward what was best for the children. If couples have different educational concepts, it will be difficult to provide the greatest help to their children.
5. He cares more about the growth of his children rather than using them as a vehicle to realize his ambitions
After finding an excellent coach, Richard is no longer eager to let his children participate in games one after another. On the contrary , he hid his talented daughters and forced them to polish their skills, making them hold back their desire to prove themselves. At the same time, he kept using various media to promote and build momentum for his daughters.
He believes that for his daughters, competition is not their entire life. Compared with becoming famous at a young age, patience, family and education are more important things. This kind of foresight is what many parents don't have.
The life path he planned for Venus Williams was to become Wimbledon champion and number one in the world.
The life path he planned for Serena Williams is to become the first person in women's tennis.
Why is the design performance of and Xiaowei higher?
Because Serena Williams can follow the growth path of Dawei , and because she has been under the light of her sister for a long time, she has stronger psychological endurance!
When Venus Williams signed a $12 million contract with Reebok at the age of 15, Richard's 78-page plan was finally no longer just a piece of paper, but a parenting myth that truly shocked the world.
is equivalent to two and Michael Jordan in one family!
6. Are there any parenting myths in China similar to Richard Williams? There are
, , but I can only think of one successful case - that is the mother of Yi Yang Qianxi .
Yi Yang Qianxi's mother was born in an ordinary peasant family and had not read many books. However, because of the hardship of her own life, she realized the importance of making the next generation live a better life.
From the moment it was named, Yi Yang Qianxi was not a common name.
His mother quit her job to concentrate on raising her son. He was too young to practice piano, so he took dance lessons from the training class opposite.
Yi Yang Qianxi gets up at around 5 o'clock every day and goes home at around 10 o'clock in the evening. The round trip by bus takes nearly 4 hours!
When Yi Yang Qianxi was a child from 5 to 13 years old, he went to school normally, and even signed up for street dance , folk dance, modern dance , Latin dance , taekwondo, guitar, Hulusi , and calligraphy. There are more than ten training courses on magic, face changing, etc. Does this trial and error method sound a bit familiar?
Yes, this is exactly Gu Ailing’s growth path!
I don’t agree that everyone can or must copy this growth path. I don’t think every child can grow into Gu Ailing and Yi Yang Qianxi. But try and make mistakes at the minimum cost to explore the child’s talents and abilities. Interests and long-term planning for children are extremely important. Don’t forget that all planning starts with action.
Hegel said: The only lesson that mankind has learned from history is that it has not learned any lessons from history.
Other people’s parenting myths are not enough to fulfill our myths, just like we may still have no changes after writing and reading this article.
But as parents, we need to know that some parents have really helped their children become better through hard work.
