A foreign daughter-in-law who married in Chaoshan said: My "macho" husband washed my hair for five years
Ali is the sister of a classmate of "Chaoshan people love Chaoshan", she is from northern Guangdong . Her marriage went from "Afraid of marrying Chaoshan husband" to "deeply in love with Chaoshan husband" . Below is her dictation, let’s enjoy it together and wish her well!
In my impression: Chaoshan men are the image spokespersons of "male chauvinism"
To be honest, I never dared to imagine that one day I would marry to Chaoshan area and become a "foreign daughter-in-law" in Chaoshan area.
Around me, all I hear are bad comments about Chaoshan men. The biggest point is: Chaoshan men are all "macho".
When I usually surf the Internet, I also see many people making such comments about Chaoshan men.
But fate likes to play a joke on me. asked me to marry my Chaoshan husband-Ahong. Of course, I am now very grateful to fate for this arrangement. But at that time, I really took a very "risk" to marry into Chaoshan .
I got acquainted with Ahong through business dealings. At that time, I was running business in a clothing machine shop in Guangzhou. A Hong is a maintenance worker in a clothing factory in Chaoyang. The computerized embroidery machine they manufacture is from our store. One year, their factory wanted to add more than ten computerized embroidery machines, so their boss contacted our department manager. The department manager gave me the responsibility for this business. When I came to their factory, their boss asked Ahong to hand over the whole process to me. In order to facilitate contact, we will leave each other's contact information.
To be honest, Ahong really knows a lot about computer embroidery machines. So, he helped me a lot and I am very grateful to him. We have become good friends in business since then.
Until I was 28 years old, on my birthday, Hiro found out the time of my birthday from somewhere. That day, he went to Guangzhou to celebrate my birthday and confessed his love to me and asked me to be his girlfriend. Maybe it’s out of gratitude, or maybe it’s because I’m really old . I agreed to try to date him.
When the sisters around me heard that I had a Chaoshan boyfriend, they all strongly opposed me , and said that Chaoshan men are the most chauvinistic . During that time, I was bombarded with negative comments about Chaoshan men. I'm really scared. I told Hiro that our relationship was over. But Hiro didn't give up.
The beginning of marriage: I was happy and scared at the same time
When I was 30 years old, my parents kept urging me to get married. Because in our hometown, people at my age really become "old girls". I agreed to Ahong’s proposal, married into Chaoshan, and became a true “foreign wife”.
To be honest, Ahong is really nice to me. He arranges everything for three meals a day. Today's breakfast is rice rolls , lunch is beef cakes, and dinner is Chaoshan fried rice; tomorrow's breakfast is rice cakes ', lunch is oyster rolls , and dinner is minced seafood; the day after tomorrow...
In short , he arranges and cooks three meals every day. I only act as an assistant. He has the final say on everything, even where he wants to play. I feel really happy, but I am also full of worries: Isn’t this what “male chauvinism” means? (Later, I found out that he was afraid that I didn’t understand Chaoshan food before he made the decision in one word)
A small shampooing chair made my sisters almost “beat” their husbands to death
At the end of the year I got married, I Pregnant. Ah Hong took care of all the work including mopping the floor and wouldn't let me go to work in the factory. My mother-in-law also does most of the housework. When I was in labor, it was even more inconvenient to move because my belly was too big. Especially bending down to wash your hair is very inconvenient.Hiro secretly bought a shampooing chair without telling me. Every time I want to wash my hair, I am asked to lie on it. He was washing my hair carefully from behind.
I thought that after I gave birth to my child, he would not wash my hair. I didn’t expect that it would be five years in total after he cleaned it for me. After I posted the photo of my husband washing my hair to Moments, the sister who tried to persuade me not to marry to Chaoshan regretted why she didn’t choose to marry to Chaoshan. They almost "beat" their husbands.
I originally thought that only my husband would wash my hair like this, but I didn’t expect that a few days ago I saw a Jieyang Ms. Li receiving such treatment.
In fact, Chaoshan men are really excellent. Chaoshan men like my husband Ah Hong are really common. For example, on May 28 this year, in Shantou City, Chaoshan, a man carried his wife on his back and pushed a baby stroller through the water. This is the characteristic of Chaoshan men. If this is the "male chauvinism" of Chaoshan men, I think this "male chauvinism" and " bigger " will be more popular with my wives!
Postscript to "Chaoshan people love Chaoshan":
It is undeniable that many customs of Chaoshan people have been badly criticized, but those are just the bad habits of some Chaoshan people. Today's Chaoshan men have long since taken the best and discarded the dross! Chaoshan men have always been known as family-oriented.
However, with the development of the times, the advantages of Chaoshan men have turned into black spots. Being loyal to friends has turned into neglecting your wife. Working hard to make money to make your wife and children live more comfortably has turned into machismo. After all, the majority of Chaoshan men love their wives, so there is a proverb in Chaoshan that "a man who cherishes his mother" .
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