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But in fact, after taking off these tinted glasses, you will find:
There are also many Japanese husbands who are willing to be a "family husband" who serves and serves his wife.
For example, a young Japanese couple introduced by Fang Jun, her husband DAI cooks at home every day, takes care of the children, and cleans housework, while his wife NON is responsible for making money to support the family, making 200 million yuan to allow the whole family to live in a luxury house of 90 million yuan. Although stories like
are rare, they are still enviable.
And the Japanese husband I want to talk about today is even more "harrowing" -
He settled in China for his wife. He cooked, took care of three children, handled housework every day, and helped with business.
Even if life is like a Shura field at any time, he enjoys it.
This man who cooks and drinks while cooking is named Jun Nishimura, and is from Yamagata Prefecture, Japan.
He is 49 years old this year. He has no job and has to say a job. He is a " family husband ".
When asked "Why do you need to drink while cooking?" Nishimura smiled shyly:
But in fact, Nishimura not only had a decent job before getting married, but also had a low income.
Life did not change drastically until he met his current wife.
Xicun’s wife Bai Yixin is 39 years old this year and is from Taiwan, China.
The two come from different regions and have received completely different cultural education since childhood. In addition, they are 10 years apart, and there is also a certain gap in personality concepts.
For example, Xicun is thrifty, while Bai Yixin is generous.
At the beginning, Bai Yixin's parents were very opposed to the two's love, let alone getting married.
In the eyes of the older generation, Japanese men are the embodiment of machismo. If their daughter marrys him, life will definitely be difficult.
But Bai Yixin was deeply moved by Xicun's simple style of thrift and family management.
She admitted that what attracted her the most was the "stinginess" on him -
Before she got married, she accompanied Nishimura to line up with dirty clothes in front of the coin-operated washing machine . This row lasted for an hour, and at that moment, she suddenly felt that this frugal man was so charming and must be a person who was trustworthy and entrusted for his whole life.
So, at the age of 25, she did not consider too many consequences and married Xicun.
Facts have proved that Bai Yixin's choice is not wrong.
After the two got married, Nishimura took the initiative to give up his teacher job and came to Taiwan Province to settle down, and helped his wife open a Japanese store.
He handed over all the financial powers in his family to Bai Yixin, while he calmly cooked and took care of his children and returned to his family.
Occasionally, my wife is too busy alone. Xicun will go to the store every day to help with purchasing, delivering goods, and making dinner, and then picking up the children from school to the store, and tutoring their homework, as if they are "family husband".
Like the housewife we are familiar with, the life of the husband of Xicun, the family, is like "fighting war", as if he dares not stop for a moment.
In the morning, he was always the first one to get up at home.
After preparing breakfast for the family of five, he woke up the sleeping child to get up to eat and go to school.
After sending off the three children, Bai Yixin would go to see the store first, while Xicun started to clean up kitchen waste and clean it.
After all, he handles all the housework in the house, and his wife usually only needs to be responsible for washing clothes.
So he must make full use of time, it can be said that he will not rest for a moment.
Under the management of Xicun, this small home with an area of less than 80m², everything in is arranged in an orderly manner, and the functional division of space is more reasonable and appropriate.
On the left side of the door is the open living room of the home. A wooden rectangular dining table plus five backrest chairs are all.
Because the area is very small, it is impossible to place a set of sideboards, so an niche was set up on the wall adjacent to the kitchen to further supplement storage while also making it easier to get items so that the restaurant will not become messy.
Semi-wall partition between the kitchen and the dining room. The internal layout adopts an I-type layout, which is simple and convenient to move, which also alleviates the embarrassment of corner space and makes the overall layout flexible and changeable.
The white floor cabinet and hanging cabinet are paired with marble floor tiles, giving people a warm and simple feeling, reducing the cramping feeling brought by the narrow space.
The other side wall is used as an open storage rack to further supplement the storage of kitchen utensils, and it can also be seen at a glance and easy to access.
The kitchen is also the favorite place in Ximura, where he can enjoy the fun of cooking, and his wife and children never come in to disturb him.
Bai Yixin joked: "My husband said there is only one person in the kitchen, so I never cook."
The living room and the dining room are in the same space.
The furniture configuration in this area not only simplifies the TV wall, but also cancels the traditional tea table.
Use the spare part to place a simple small desk, which can not only serve as a coffee table, but also serve as a place for children to complete their homework. In this way, small space can be maximized.
The only bathroom in the house is separated by dry and wet. The sink, toilet and shower are arranged in sequence, orderly, neat and refreshing.
This is also the place where Xicun feels most relaxed. Sitting on the toilet and browsing his phone is the most comfortable time of the day for him, a married man.
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Although Xicun's family is not large in size, it is barely enough to live in a family of five, but it is better to be simple and generous at home, with bright and clean windows.
To do this, Xicun, a man who has taken care of all the housework, has put in a lot of effort, that is:
, taking the children to work together!
He will take the children to do some housework within his ability, such as folding the clothes and placing them neatly in the wardrobe.
After all, for families with multiple wives, allows children to develop good storage and organization habits from an early age is a necessary rule to maintain a clean and tidy home.
However, even if a person in Xicun can handle all the big and small things at home and be a wife's wife's wife's wife's wife's wife's marriage life must be smooth sailing.
Compared with many families with male protagonists and female protagonists outside, Nishimura and Bai Yixin seem to be more special.
Because Xicun is not completely unemployed, he has to accompany his wife to the store to take care of the business while doing housework.
It can be said that the couple were together almost 24 hours a day. With such a high-intensity relationship, it is inevitable that their marriage life will become a Shura field. Among all the frictions and contradictions, the most prominent is the issue of children's education and companionship.
In order to pay off mortgage loans, car loans and pay rent, Bai Yixin devoted almost all his energy to making money, and it was difficult to take time to accompany his three children.
If the children want to play with her, they must also follow the principle of "appointment system".
For example, you must discuss time with her two weeks in advance before you can use the electric power with her during holidays.
Such pressure not only makes Bai Yixin feel burdened, but also has no benefit to the child's mental health.
, and Bai Yixin also has high requirements for his child's academic performance. If he fails to get well in any exam, he will be criticized when he goes home.
In this unhealthy parent-child relationship, Nishimura kept thinking about what he could do for his children -
He could not force his wife to support the family's expenses and fulfill his responsibilities as a mother. He could only spend more time and energy to accompany his children as compensation.
The important task of parenting is on the couple, making them almost breathless, and they are inevitably disliked each other and quarreled about it.
So, in order to improve family relations, Xicun and Bai Yixin decided to take a step back and compromise with each other.
On weekdays, Xicun tutors children with homework and accompanys them to have fun at home, while Bai Yixin must take time out every weekend to participate in outdoor activities for the whole family.
In this process, Bai Yixin's relationship with the children gradually eased, and she also understood her husband's efforts for this family better.
Slowly, her mentality has also changed a lot. She no longer regards herself as the lifeblood of the whole family, but as a participant and builder, she will create a better life with everyone.
In married life, whether it is making money to support the family or taking care of children to do housework, it should not be a specific responsibility of a person.
Whether it is a housewife or a husband, everyone has only one purpose, that is, to make the family better.
After all, marriage is about division of labor and cooperation. Everyone performs their duties and helps each other. There are fewer irrelevant pulls, so naturally there are not so many trivial matters.
