Looking back on when I was not a mother and wife,
although she was not a lady, her personality was quite gentle.
But when I am a wife and mother, I become an extremely irritable and restless "female man"
Sometimes I wonder what the problem is and start to reflect on myself, so I found the following Reasons:
- The population is increasing, and housework has become complicated.
- We are together every day, and conflicts are increasing.
- Working while raising children is low efficiency, in a bad mood, and easy to be irritable.
In order to solve the problem, I started to read various books on separation. Finally, I found that the biggest problem lies in doing housework in and .
Because each of us has , we regard housework as a task . We either don’t do it, and once we do it, we can’t stop until we are extremely clean or we are exhausted. Such explosive housework can easily change the once gentle personality. Got to be "irritable".
So, I began to explore various "lazy housework" and "lying flat mode", and tried to quit some "bad habits" to turn myself back into the happy and gentle little woman . Below I will share my experience and insights Sharing it with everyone, I hope it can help you find some "gentleness".
No more excessive stocking
Although minimalist does not mean that you don’t want anything, you must also learn to let go, whether it is emotions or material things.
Many bloggers talk about minimalist living, which does not mean that you cannot stock up on daily consumables. Therefore, during festivals such as "618" and "Double 12", I will stock up on large amounts of goods to save money, but I find that what I stock up on is "anxiety".
▲Messy stockpiles
Like a year's worth of laundry detergent that has not been used up, a year's worth of salt, boxes of paper towels that take up half the living room, etc.
Not only do they take up most of the space at home, but every time I open the cabinet and see these hoards, I feel a strong sense of oppression. Moreover, using the same thing for a long time will make me irritated, which can easily lead to anxiety and depression over time. Sullen.
So I started to try how to eliminate these negative emotions. I no longer stocked up too much, but only bought enough to keep my home "clutter-free".
When the stocking was reduced, I found that the cost of trial and error was reduced, the storage space became larger, and there was more space to try new things. life should be less troublesome and more refined.
No longer set time for general cleaning, quit procrastination
The most annoying days before were that I had to do general cleaning every once in a while, and I didn’t know why it was so dirty. Later I found out that it was all because of the accumulation of "procrastination". Come.
So, I started trying things that can be done in a very short time, and do it immediately without procrastinating.
For example, the bathroom is a place where mold often occurs. The main reason is that the water droplets remaining when bathing and washing your face are not cleaned in time.
Therefore, after every bath, try to wipe away the water droplets on the mirror and countertop in time with a wiper.
The drain outlet will become sticky over time, which makes you feel very bad every time you clean it. After quitting procrastination, you can clean the stains on the drain outlet every day. It only takes a few seconds and saves you time. A lot of trouble.
Water stains on the floor, like water stains on the countertops, can also cause the floor tiles to become moldy and smelly, so treating the water stains on the floor in a timely manner will also make you feel better.
In the past, every time I used a mop to clean it, it was very troublesome. Not only did I need a separate bathroom mop, but I also needed to clean it in time, otherwise there would be a smell.
Once you learn how to use this long-handled multi-functional wiper, cleaning the bathroom will become easier and less stressful every time.
It has a squeegee brush head on one side and a hard-bristled brush on the other. You can brush the bathroom once every time you use it, and then use the squeegee head to scrape it again. The bathroom will become dry and refreshing.
learn to use convenient tools to save time. There is no need to learn from those full-time Japanese wives. Everything is perfect. If you are happy, the whole family will become very happy, and the whole person will become gentle.
Don’t put trash cans in every room
Sometimes I wonder, do we really need so many trash cans at home? Every time I take out the trash, it comes in big and small bags, which makes me irritated inexplicably.
In many families, there are at least 5-6 trash cans. Each space in the living room, dining room, kitchen, bedroom, and study room is equipped with a trash can. It seems convenient to throw away garbage, but in fact it increases the source of pollution in the home and makes cleaning difficult. Very troublesome.
So, I started to try the habit of storing trash cans in a centralized manner. Just like a washing machine, I opened up a small space as a shelter for the trash cans. This not only reduced the source of pollution, but also developed the habit of storing garbage in a centralized manner for my family. .
At the same time, choose this simple trash can in the study room or at the bedside to collect dry garbage, such as waste paper.
Not cooking in a rice cooker
I don’t know when it started, but the rice cooker became the only tool for cooking at home. Most people have almost forgotten the original method of cooking.
However, due to the exhaust valve on the rice cooker, it is easy to "bounce" when cooking porridge, which will fill the gaps with stains. Every time you clean it, you have to use cotton swabs, toothpicks and other things to carefully "buckle" it. People are very broken.
So, I started to try not to use a rice cooker, but to use the casserole that I had at home. I fell in love with this way of cooking rice the first time I tried it. The aroma of the rice could fill the whole house.
Since we don’t use casseroles for cooking, the space on the kitchen countertop has become larger, the cooking time has become shorter, and we don’t have to bother cleaning the rice cooker. Moreover, the cooked rice tastes sweeter and softer. Life will always be because of A little change makes you happier.
No more cooking that is difficult to take care of
Although it is relatively hygienic to make fried food at home, the cleaning work after each frying is always annoying, and the oil used to fry things will also I feel anxious, so I try not to cook fried food at home. If I eat it occasionally, I find a clean shop to order takeout.
Everyone in my family likes to eat barbecue, but it is very troublesome to clean up and prepare every time, and it also makes the house smoky. Therefore, I started to try to take my family out camping to eat barbecue every time.
Since I stopped doing these difficult-to-maintain dishes at home, the kitchen has become much cleaner. Even the range hood that used to need to be cleaned frequently has not become dirty after being used for a long time.
APP for streamlined mobile phones
Mobile phones have become an important part of life, and useless WeChat groups and APPs will consume a lot of energy and time.
The sign of a mature person is that he can clearly realize that 99% of the things around him have nothing to do with others. He no longer wastes time getting attached to useless people and things, but spends his energy on Someone who can appear when you really need it.
In my opinion, being unsociable is not a shameful thing. Saying goodbye to occasions you don’t want to go to and warming your heart will make you happier.
no longer manages rags
Although rags are an inconspicuous little thing, every time I see a greasy rag, it is also the "culprit" that makes me irritated.
So, I threw away all the rags at home, no longer managed the rags, but used kitchen paper instead. Only those who have used it know how great it is, cleaning the kitchen, wiping the table, wiping hands, sucking steaks, etc. .
I no longer iron clothes
I used to feel that ironing all the clothes in the house was really satisfying, but after a long time, I really felt that ironing clothes was too time-consuming.
Especially when the pace of life is fast, I have to patiently iron clothes, and I almost collapsed several times.
So, when I started to try to buy clothes for my family, I tried to choose clothes that did not require ironing. It really saved me a lot of time and energy, and I could do things that make me gentle.
I no longer use the traditional toilet brush.
Every time I brush the toilet, it always makes me feel like a cleaning staff. There is no sense of happiness at all. Especially the toilet brush with hair stuck on it, I have to use my hands to remove it. Not only is it extremely disgusting It also filled me with complaints.
So, I threw away the traditional toilet brush and tried to use a disposable toilet brush. The brush head can be thrown away after use, and it can be solved by releasing the button. There is no need to think about how to clean it, and there are no health risks.
The reasonable handle design can easily wipe the grooves of the toilet, leaving no dead spots for cleaning. There is no need to buy additional cleaning fluid. It can effectively remove dirt and odor, and the toilet after brushing still has a faint fragrance.
There are many kinds of toilet brushes on the market, and the quality is also uneven. Many people say that disposable toilet brushes are an "IQ tax", mostly because they bought cheap "knockoffs", so if you want to experience a disposable toilet brush To feel happy, you must buy genuine products.
Comments at the end of the article:
Every girl is originally a gentle and lovely angel. It is the edges and corners of life that turn girls into "feminine men". Life is not easy, and women must learn to gentle themselves and not be consumed by complicated housework. My own tenderness.
Finally, I hope that every woman can meet a partner who makes her gentle and share the fireworks of the world with him.
