01 Anger should be relieved rather than blocked
Anlingrong His father, Anbihuai, was imprisoned for corruption. In order to save his father, Anlingrong knew that he was not suitable to get pregnant, he still forced himself to conceive. In the end, the emperor had to not punish Anbihuai because Ling Rong was four months pregnant.
Although the emperor let An Lingrong's father go, he was still resentful of An Bihuai's corruption, and there was a "bad anger" in his heart and needed a catharsis. This can be said to be the most important reason why An Lingrong was named " Lifei ". Therefore, when Zhen Huan proposed to confer An Lingrong as "Concubine Li", anyone with a discerning eye could see the derogatory intention, but the emperor did not object, but pretended to be confused and agreed with the flow.
Once we understand this truth, we will know why everyone says that "there is no winner for a couple quarrels." Because even if a couple quarrels, even if they win, they will lose their affection. The two people will live together until they grow old and have a harmonious relationship, relying on love, not the truth.
02 It is also a kind of stupidity without self-knowing
House Office There is a word "Li" in the title for An Lingrong, and the deep love between husband and wife refers to husband and wife ( Zhen Huan also deliberately provoked her). The only wife recognized by the emperor is the late Chunyuan Empress . For the emperor, An Lingrong is probably an obedient and good concubine. Therefore, the eunuch who wrote the name of the Ministry of Internal Affairs not only did not receive the reward, but also got beaten.
An Lingrong's behavior also shows that she is not smart enough. From the emperor's previous attitude towards Qi Fei , he has no patience with "stupidity".
Lao Tzu once said, "Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are wise." An Lingrong's move can be said to have neither understood the "Emperor" nor seen himself clearly.
Only by recognizing the positioning of others in their hearts will not act like being complacent when they are proud; only by understanding their value to others will not be ambitious and forgetting to do their duty.
03 Sometimes it is not that you have become weaker, but that your enemy has become stronger
Anling Rong Fengfei, Zhen Huan is naturally unhappy, but her cleverness is that she does not directly object. She knows that the consecration of the consecration is the queen. If she opposes the consecration of the consecration, it is tantamount to forcing the emperor to choose between "her" and "queen". In this way, even if the emperor obeys her opinions and does not be named a consecration, he will be dissatisfied with her.
first considered from the emperor's perspective and suggested that "the great seal of the six palaces" would be "benefitable to the previous dynasty"; then misled the emperor, making the emperor feel that she deliberately proposed to confer Anlingrong as "Concubine Li" because she was "jealous". After returning from Lingyun Temple, Zhen Huan was no longer as tender as before, but she became more dignified and distanced. The feeling of " Huanhuan jealous" made the always conceited emperor very much.
Doing things you haven't done before is called growth, and doing things you don't want to do is called change.
After Zhen Huan returned to the palace from Lingyun Peak, she had completed "growth and change". She was no longer the Huan'er who once "only talks about feelings" with the emperor. She had put down her fantasy about love, she faded her silly warm smile, and became a person who could use "feelings" as a means, and became an even more terrifying opponent.
04 If no one supports you, you must learn to support yourself
An Lingrong has no family background and no family support for her. It will be fine if offended her in the previous dynasty and will not affect the emperor's great cause. What's worse is that An Lingrong has always been well-behaved and sensible in front of the emperor and has never lost her temper, so the emperor will feel that it doesn't matter if she bullies her, she will not make noises or make trouble, and will still be as obedient as a bird.
However, kindness without sharpness is dangerous. Once others think bullying you is a cost-free thing, you will become the person who is always bullied.
This is why some people are bullied the more they are. If no one will support you, you must learn to support yourself, express your dissatisfaction when others infringe on your rights, and let others know your boundaries and bottom lines.
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