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Preface:
Sun Yat-sen’s youngest daughter Sun Wan-sen: This is the lifelong gap between her and her father Sun Yat-sen, and it also leads to the only regret when Sun Yat-sen dies.
From ancient times to the present, it has been said that mother's love is like water, while father's love is like a mountain. The maternal love like water is gentle and easy to understand. But the fatherly love like a mountain is always hidden deep.
If most fathers in this world love their children deeply, then Sun Yat-sen, as the father of the Republic of China, also loves his three children deeply.
Mr. Sun’s only regret in his later years
Sun Yat-sen’s life was working tirelessly to end China’s two thousand years of feudal monarchy. Under his strong leadership, worked with many patriots to establish the Republic of China.
And such a great man who has contributed to the construction of China's democratic revolution, he is also an ordinary father with one son and two daughters.
Sun Yat-sen has three children, all of whom were born with Lu Muzhen. The eldest son, Sun Ke, and the eldest daughter, Sun Chun, are the second child, and the younger daughter, Sun Wan, is the youngest child in the family.
If you want to say which child Sun Yat-sen thinks he owes the most in his life, the answer is that youngest daughter, Sun Wan, .
Until Sun Yat-sen's death, he was always worried about Sun Wan's little daughter. When he was dying, he kept calling Sun Wan's name and muttered to himself "Wan'er Come quickly..."
However, until Sun Yat-sen's death, he could not see his longing for his daughter Sun Wan.
Sun Yat-sen's eldest daughter Sun Chun died young. She unfortunately suffered from diabetes while in college and eventually died of kidney failure. In this way, the life of her eldest daughter Sun Chun was forever frozen in the year when she was nineteen.
After Sun Yat-sen lost his beloved daughter, he cherished his remaining little daughter Sun Wan even more.
The company of my younger daughter Sun Wan’s childhood was missing
Sun Wan, born in 1896, happened to celebrate her birthday on the same day as her father Sun Yat-sen, who was born in 1866. Both were the birthdays of November 12th. This is also a wonderful fate for a father and daughter.
Sun Yat-sen engaged in revolutionary activities in his early years. At that time, because he was pursued by the Qing court, he could only hide everywhere all day long and could not live in a certain place for a long time to completely settle down.
At that time, Sun Wan lived with her mother and sister for most of her childhood. When she was young, she could only live a wandering life with her family.
, a life of wandering for many years and living without a fixed place, also made it very rare for her to see her father Sun Yat-sen when she was young.
In her heart, her impression of her father gradually became blurred. I only remember that he often came and went in a hurry, and there were very few days for the family to be able to reunite.
Fortunately, Sun Wan also has an uncle named Sun Mei. He opened a farm in Honolulu and lived a very rich life.
Sun Wan and her family's lives are all maintained by their uncles, and Sun Wan's childhood is not worried about food and clothing.
From 1907, the farm run by his uncle Sun Mei turned bankrupt and became depressed for a while, and Sun Wan and his family became suffering. The family had to move to the Kowloon Peninsula, Hong Kong, and life was very difficult.
Whenever Sun Yat-sen misses his children, he can only take out a photo of the three children from his pocket and gently caress their tender faces as a little comfort for long-term longing.
In 1910, Sun Wan, her mother and sister Sun Cehu rushed to Nanyang to reunite with Sun Yat-sen. After years of long waiting, Sun Wan finally saw the father who had become a little blurred in her memory and had been away for a long time.
In June 1913, the eldest daughter Sun Chun died of illness in her nineteen-year-old boy.
The early death of his sister Sun Cecun made the whole family very sad. Sun Yat-sen covered his face and cried bitterly at the death of his eldest daughter.Although he is a politician, he is also a father. He probably only himself can understand the grief that a white-haired man sends a black-haired man.
Sun Yat-sen strongly opposes his daughter's marriage
After his sister Sun Chun-shu's death, Sun Wan decided to go to the United States to study.
As a father who had just lost his eldest daughter, Sun Yat-sen was really worried about the safety of his younger daughter Sun Wan going abroad to study alone, so he asked his subordinates to arrange for someone to take care of his daughter who was in a foreign country.
After Huang Xing carefully considered it, he finally decided to entrust Wang Boqiu to go to the United States to take care of him.
But who would have thought that as we get along, Wang Boqiu, who came from a family of officials and later joined the Tongmenghui because of his lofty ambitions, gradually fell in love with Sun Wan, and Sun Wan also fell in love with this talented and ambitious man over time.
When she was young, Sun Wan longed for love to know each other and stayed with each other, so she became more and more fond of Wang Boqiu, who was thirteen years older than her. She was as young as her and thought that this was what she wanted to stay together forever, so she decided to marry Wang Boqiu without hesitation.
In the United States, after they decided to get married without authorization, Sun Wan let her father Sun Yat-sen know about this.
When Sun Yat-sen learned that Wang Boqiu was already a man with a wife and children in his hometown, he strongly opposed their marriage.
Although Sun Wan stated that she didn't care about these things and was willing to be a concubine. But Sun Yat-sen, who advocated overthrow of the remaining feudal old system in China, was determined to implement the new policy, so he firmly refused to allow the existence of polygamy.
Whether as a revolutionary or a loving father who loves his daughter, he is unwilling to watch his beloved young daughter marry someone else as a concubine.
really couldn't resist his daughter Sun Wan's repeated begging, so Sun Yat-sen had to tell Wang Boqiu that he could only marry a wife and asked him to choose between his original wife and Sun Wan.
When Wang Boqiu was in a dilemma, his mother, who was far away in his hometown, also knew that he had married Sun Wan. After hearing the news, Mrs. Wang forced her son to return to her hometown immediately through letters.
As a loyal supporter of the former Qing Dynasty, the deep-rooted feudal thoughts have long been imprinted in her heart for many years. In her opinion, Sun Yat-sen opposes Qing Dynasty and wants to establish the Republic of China, which is simply "decent and extremely evil".
So when she knew that Sun Wan was Sun Yat-sen's daughter and that her son actually married her, she felt very humiliated and strongly opposed the marriage.
Wang Boqiu finally followed his mother's advice and planned to divorce Sun Wan. But when Mrs. Wang learned that they still had a son and a daughter, she had just lost her eldest grandson, and then she had the idea of Sun Wan's two children.
However, at that time, Sun Wan didn't know that she had been abandoned by her beloved. She was still in Shanghai day and night looking forward to her husband's return.
At this time, Wang Boqiu, who was far away in his hometown in Nanjing, had already expressed his guilt to Sun Wan and had no face to return to Shanghai to ask her for the child.
So, the old lady Wang instructed Wang Zhongjun, her second son, to go and bring her grandchildren back together with a nurse.
Wang Zhongjun lie to Sun Wan and said: "My mother is old and just wants to see her two grandchildren. When the old lady is happy, she may nod and agree that you are with my elder brother."
The innocent and innocent Sun Wan didn't know that this was a scam, and she was very happy to hand over the children to this brother-in-law who was full of trains.
Sun Wan's daughter Wang Weihui was only three years old when she left her mother, and her son Wang Hongzhi was still in her infancy at that time, only a few months old.
Sun Wan later discovered that this was a scam, so she wrote letters to Wang Boqiu every day, hoping that he would change his mind. However, Wang Boqiu was able to reply a few letters at first, but later he disappeared.
Later, Wang Boqiu married another wife, Liu Mingshui, in 1924. He really cannot be said to be a person with a dedicated relationship.
The estrangement between father and daughter was buried
Time went back to 1920. At this time, Sun Wan had already fully understood that she could not wait for Wang Boqiu and her children to come back, and at the same time she was very worried about her mother in Macau.
So the 24-year-old Sun Wan left Shanghai, a sad place and went to Macau to live with her mother.
Regarding the separation of the first marriage, Sun Wan attributed the failure of this relationship to her father's obstruction.
Although the reason why Sun Wan and Wang Boqiu separated was also strongly opposed by his father Sun Yat-sen, there was also the intervention of Queen Mother . It’s a pity that Sun Wan didn’t understand these principles at that time, so she rarely contacted her father actively since then.
in Macau in the same year, after being introduced by his brother as a mediator, Sun Wan met her caring partner Diansai who can accompany her for the rest of her life.
Dinesey graduated from the Department of Philosophy at Columbia University and studied for his PhD degree, with great talent and great appearance. So after a few months of acquaintance, she married Dainsey.
Father Sun Yat-sen values Dai'en Sai very much and is very happy to hear about this. Because he was busy with state affairs and could not visit the scene in person, he asked someone to send Sun Wan 4,000 yuan as his dowry to his daughter.
At this time, Sun Wan did not forgive her father and prevented her from having her last marriage, so she did not withdraw any of the 4,000 yuan gift, and handed over all the money to her mother for safekeeping.
Fortunately, her second marriage was very happy. Since her marriage, Dai Ansai has cared for his wife and cared for her, and has gradually healed the scars in Sun Wan's heart, which has given her a lot of comfort in her past emotional trauma.
Later, they had a pair of children, and the eldest daughter was born in 1921. At that time, Sun Yat-sen was preparing for the Northern Expedition, so he hoped that his granddaughter could be named Success, which means that this battle will surely be successful.
Later, when their youngest son was born, Sun Yat-sen, who was also grandfather, wanted to commemorate the disaster of the Yongfeng ship , so he named his grandson Yongfeng.
When she was dying, she could not see her daughter
After Sun Wan remarried, as a mother, she still missed her children in the Wang family.
She once wanted to bring the children back to raise them, but unfortunately, the Wang family never allowed her to have any contact with her children. I miss Sun Wan, who is far away from home, and her spirit is getting worse and worse.
In February 1925, Sun Yat-sen wanted to leave a photo of himself to his daughter as a souvenir. He was suffering from liver cancer and could not walk around at will. He repeatedly told his wife Soong Ching-ling to hand it to Sun Wan in person.
Later, when Sun Wan's children were sorting out Sun Wan's relics, they found that this photo had been kept intact by her for fifty-four years.
When Sun Yat-sen was seriously ill, Sun Wan did not accompany her in her mental state. Instead, Dai Ense, as her son-in-law, has always been by his side.
Daiensai always took good care of his daughter during the period of his hospitalization, and Sun Yat-sen, who was very concerned about his daughter, always shouted "Wan'er...Wan'er Come..."
Unfortunately, at the last moment of his life, he could not see his long-lost daughter.
In March of the same year, Sun Yat-sen died in Beijing.
Sun Wan's condition in her later years
Later, Sun Wan's son Dai Yongfeng and her husband Dai Ansai died in 1952 and 1955, leaving only her and her daughter Dai Chenggong to depend on each other.
After a long time away, Sun Wan finally met her other daughter, Wang Weihui, when she was 73 years old. The mother and daughter who met again hugged each other and cried, and she cried in tears and told each other that fifty-year longing could not be calmed for a long time.
"Mother, Wang Hongzhi is coming to Macau to see you." Dai Chenggong said to Sun Wan from the side.
"Really?" At this time, Sun Wan, who was entering old age, showed a rare smile. "It's so good, I'm about to see your brother Hongzhi!"
But Sun Wan is already an octogenarian after all. For her who is likely to leave the world at any time, every tomorrow is full of unknowns. In the end, Sun Wan still passed away without waiting for her to meet her son.
And she had no time to see her son Wang Hongzhi's regret, and the regret that she had already forgiven her father but failed to see him for the last time, she could only wait until her next life to make up for it.
After hearing the news of his mother's death, Wang Hongzhi, who had not yet met her mother and son, couldn't help but burst into tears...
The regrettable father-daughter love
As a father, Sun Yat-sen was very concerned about and the most worried person at the last moment of his life, that is, his youngest daughter Sun Wan. However, because Sun Wan couldn't let go of the barrier that had been rooted in her heart, she never met her father for the last time.
However, three documents, including "State Will" written by Sun Yat-sen in his later years, were later compiled and issued by his daughter Sun Wan and son-in-law Dai Ensai.
shows that in Sun Wan's heart, she had already forgiven her father for what she did back then!
The relationship between father and daughter caused by misunderstanding is really regrettable.
Maybe Sun Yat-sen in his later years had thought in his heart more than once that it would be great if his daughter was young, as a father, he could be with his daughter more.
If you are trying to dissuade Sun Wan and Wang Boqiu from getting married, you can spend more time and energy to communicate face to face with your daughter and express your feelings openly and openly.
tells her daughter that she actually loves her very much, and maybe there will be no regrets between father and daughter that are too late to tell.
will not make Sun Wan misunderstand and resent him, nor will she not be forgiven until she dies!
At that time, Sun Wan also attributed the failure of her first marriage and love to her father because of her youth.
did not wake up until her father passed away, but she had no choice but to regret and regret. She could only be alone in her heart and leave it as her silent longing for her father in the future.
Great people always care about everyone and it is difficult for them to care about their families. As Sun Yat-sen, the father of Sun Wan, is the same. He lacks a lot of his daughter's companionship in childhood.
Perhaps in Sun Wan's heart, he cannot be regarded as a qualified and competent father, but Sun Yat-sen, the founder of the Chinese revolution, is a well-deserved revolutionary pioneer in the hearts of thousands of Chinese people.
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