In " Dream of Red Mansions ", there is a lovely man - Lin Ruhai , which is the father of Lin Daiyu . After his wife, Jia Min, died, he said he would not renew his marriage. So are there really men in history who don’t marry after their wife die?
The life ideal of the ancients was to "manage the family, govern the country and pacify the world", and these politicians who manage the family, govern the country and pacify the world were many infatuated men who were patriotic, loved their families and wives. Yu Qian is one of them.
Yu Qian "worrying about the country and forgetting his family, planning to safeguard the clan society, his loyalty and righteousness have been revealed in history", and can be called "the prime minister of the time to save him." He is known as " West Lake Three Heroes " together with Yue Fei and Zhang Huangyan . He is not only a great national hero, military strategist, and politician, but also a love-in-law man.
In an era when men are superior to women, women must live together after their husbands die and keep their integrity. Men can have three wives and four concubines. They can re-emerge after their wife dies and take concubines. But Yu Qian is different. After his wife died, he determined to keep his pride for his wife.
Yu Qian's first and only woman is his wife Dong.
Yu Qian Yu Shaobao , Yongle 29 At the age of 24, he married Hanlin Dong Yong's daughter and the virtuous and gentle Dong as his wife. He was harmonious with the qin and se, and gave birth to a son Yu Mian and a daughter Qiongying. However, because Shaobao was busy with state affairs, the two got together and separated.
The first woman in Yu Qian's life was his first wife, Dong, who gave birth to a son and a daughter. The two have lived together for more than 20 years. Although they are together for a long time, they often have letters and have a deep relationship. Other men have three wives and four concubines, but Yu Qian only loves one person in his life, that is his wife. His wife is the only woman in his life.
Yu Qian's poem "Send to the Inner" was written to his wife Dong. The poem says:
is a husband and wife, and they are both loving and loving.
gave birth to a boy and gave birth to a daughter, and I hope to grow old together.
I was born with the grace of the country, so why is it early for me to show my official position?
class is the governor of the border.
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The eldest son is in his hometown, and the news is gone.
The two girls are so cute, but they are sought after pears and dates.
is in poverty, and the livelihood is stale.
You only help others and work hard, and you have never had enough food and clothing.
But I don’t know, the report is not a small matter.
The treasure of loyalty and filial piety in the world is the treasure of a virtuous country.
-foot book expresses diligence, and this meaning can be expressed.
years old cold pine and cypress hearts will protect each other forever.
In the poem, Yu Qian affirmed his wife's contribution to the family, expressed his deep feelings for his wife, and expressed his deep gratitude to her! The two are , pine and cypress , and they will always be with each other. Yu Qian's wife Dong is the daughter of Hanlin Shujishi and Dong Yong, the magistrate of Yongfeng . She was given a gift from the first-class wife. Mrs. Dong was "soft and gentle, and was dedicated to helping her husband die in eleven years. When she was not fifty years old, she would not marry her and would not have any servants. Everyone was righteous."
After his wife died, Yu Qian was deeply saddened and wrote 11 poems of memorial and 5 essays of sacrifice.
Who doesn’t want to be in harmony with each other? The future of short-term cultivation is unpredictable. Old us will be waiting for the Sugar Land, and you have already gone to Yaochi first.
What is the limit of sorrow when the flowers fly and jade break, and the bottle is broken and the momentum is not enough. The two lines of clear tears flowed through eternal regret, and the children became more and more sad.
Many ancient people also wrote many poems with deep affection after their wives died. After mourning their wives, they turned around and took a concubine, continuing to live a happy life of harmony. "Dream of Red Mansions" is written more profoundly: "Yesterday, white bones were sent to the loess, and mandarin ducks were lying on the tent of the red light tonight." In ancient times, most men were fond of the new and tired of the old. Among them are the stories of the old couple and young wife: "The eighteen bride, eighty-year-old, with pale hair and red makeup. The mandarin ducks are in the quilt, and the pear blossoms are pressing against the crabapple." Some people have white beards and still take concubines.
Yu Qian is different from others. After his wife died, Yu Qian decided not to marry or take a concubine, and there was only one woman in Dong's life.
Yu Qian loves one thing throughout his life: to serve the country and the people; to love one person alone in his lifetime: to have a wife.
How many people will die if their wife dies and will not continue to marry you forever!
