1057, the imperial examinations in the Northern Song Dynasty were announced in the capital. Su Shi held the imperial edict in his hand and went to find his father Su Xun .
"Father, my brother has been appointed as a Hanlin bachelor by the emperor. If my mother knew about it, she would be very happy." Su Che reported the good news to his father before he even stepped through the threshold.
But he saw Su Xun saying sadly: "Shi'er, Zhe'er, your mother has passed away!"
The father and son left Beijing in a hurry, traveling day and night, immediately returned to Meishan and went straight to Madam Cheng's mourning hall.
Su Xun knelt there in tears and grief, "Madam, since you entered the Su family, you have been sleeping all night long, trying to teach your husband and children, and you will not be idle all day long. Without a wife, I will not be able to win the imperial examination; if you and I have made an appointment for a hundred years, why should we abandon each other halfway..."
Mrs. Cheng's departure was the only pain she brought to them! This home is to remove the teeth from the gums, which hurts when licking, and not licking.
1 Use love to stick to
Mrs. Cheng came from a famous family. Her father, Cheng Wen, should be a wealthy man in Meishan and was appointed as the Minister of the Dali Temple.
The daughter of a prominent family should be: a good match.
KeMs. Cheng married Su Xun when she was 18 years old, and the Su family was really poor at that time.
Perhaps the parents' long-term vision is the Su family's origin and influence.
. For Ms. Cheng, who prefers poetry and books, finding an object worthy of her efforts is happiness.
Before getting married: Su Xun traveled everywhere; Miss Cheng had no worries about food and clothing, was well-read in poetry and books, and was well-versed in ancient and modern times.
After getting married: Su Xun wandered around, "Even when he was in his prime, he didn't study hard, and even the villagers couldn't bear to see him..."; Mrs. Cheng did housework, took care of children, cooked, washed clothes, did business, taught her children to study...
If Su Xun was mature and responsible, then getting married would be like a more helper, but in fact, the more was a more tiring "big son".
Mrs. Cheng’s greatest hardship is to take on all the trivial things that Su Xun did not do, and then he had to be as tenacious as a big tree in his poor days.
But everyone observed that she not only did not have the arrogance of a rich lady, but she never complained about anything.
For many people, Mrs. Cheng feels wronged. At some moments, life will feel that your best time has passed, and you will feel a little depressed and a little depressed.
But Mrs. Cheng felt that Su Xun had his own obsession, his own pursuit, and what he had always insisted on in his life.
Su Xun is also an object worthy of her efforts; even if others think it is not worth it, Mrs. Cheng thinks it is worth it.
For this reason, she chose to return to a small corner of her home, willing to be a comma, stick to Su Xun's feet, and find another meaning of her life.
She is also willing to spend time waiting, giving Su Xun huge space to allow him to grow.
Despite being involved in multiple roles, Mrs. Cheng still strives to find balance and maintain a beautiful and gentle feminine attitude.
2 Use your life to pay
until the age of 27, their second son Su Shi was born, and Su Xun failed the first provincial examination.
From then on, Su Xun was determined to study hard.
In Sima Guang's epitaph, Su Xun was passionate, "I decided that I think I can still study hard. I decided to spend several years studying.
But I go to study, no one supports my family, what should I do?"
Mrs. Cheng said, "I wanted to say this a long time ago, but I just don't want you to think that it was because of me that you went to study.
If you have ambition, let me support my family."
This is the passion and ideal that Mrs. Cheng upholds. She believes that the moment of promise waiting between herself and Su Xun is something she wants to stick to in her life. This passion transforms into her willingly giving.
She chose to be the soft support force and stood silently behind her. At any time, Su Xun said that he wanted to study hard, Mrs. Cheng would fully accept it and would be willing to support him wholeheartedly.
In addition, Mrs. Cheng encouraged Su Xun: learn the way of dealing with sages to improve one's own cultivation; stand in the perspective of success or failure, have the world in mind; re-study the classics of a hundred schools of thought and accumulate strength.
A few years later, Su Xun finally became a literary master and began to go out to study and make friends. Mrs. Cheng took on the responsibility of supporting her family.
She led her family out of a big family with three generations living together and rented a house on the Shakun Street in South City, Meishan City.
Then, Mrs. Cheng resolutely sold all the dowry brought by her parents and started a silk business.
Someone couldn't help but persuade her, "Your parents are the richest man in Meishan, and they love you in every way. If you tell me the difficulties, your family will not bear to see you suffer. Why are you willing to live a hard life with the Su family?"
"If I ask for help from my parents, they will definitely agree without hesitation, but I don't want people to think that my husband is a person who asks others for money and supports his wife and children." Mrs. Cheng said this.
Madam Cheng not only prevents her husband from having any stain on his reputation when she is poor, but also does her best to keep her husband free of worries and carry all the burden of the family of more than ten people in Meishan on his shoulders.
After a few years, he actually became a wealthy family by doing business.
3 Use your hard work to water
Since the age of ten, Su Shi and Su Zhe have been studying far away. They have no time to go home at noon. Mrs. Cheng brought rice to the two brothers - white rice, white radish, white salt.
The teacher pityed the two children, so he distributed his food to the two brothers.
But both children remember their mother's teachings, "Coarse food and clothing are the basis of cultivating one's nature. Only by withstanding hardships can one become a human being."
Mrs. Cheng often tells her two sons, don't just think that you are scholars, but learn more about those ancient people with integrity.
Once, when Mrs. Cheng and her children read "Biography of Fan Pang" together, Xiao Su Shi asked her mother, "If I want to be a person like Fan Pang , is it OK?"
Fan Pang is a person with a very upright person in the Eastern Han Dynasty. He seeks benefits for the people. Unfortunately, he was involved in the disaster of the party and fining and was framed to death.
Mrs. Cheng said: "Only by establishing great ambitions can we not humiliate Su's family and do not regret the country."
Since then, Su Shi has been striving for progress, reading 彩2彩2彩票, and caring for the world.
When Su Shi was in his forties, because Wang Anshi reformed and implemented the new policy, he was benevolent and loving the people and advocated not exploiting the people too much, and unfortunately fell into a party struggle.
Later, he was framed by villains, and after going through ups and downs, he was even demoted to Hainan, which was the end of the world, but his loyalty and service to the country remained unchanged.
The brothers have different personalities, and Mrs. Cheng’s education on them is also completely different.
In order to get rid of Su Shi's impetuousness, he copied the 750,000-word " Han Shu " six times, learning history, and practicing calligraphy.
Su Shi later became the first person in ancient and modern times. He could do everything in poetry, prose, calligraphy and painting. The person who played a huge role in him was his mother Mrs. Cheng.
When he was a child, Su Shi fought with his friend and pulled out a small sapling. Mrs. Cheng was very angry when he saw it, "A tree will take ten years to become a vegetarian. If you pull down the saplings, the big tree will be destroyed in your hands!"
Su Shi was very ashamed. Since then, whenever he has time, Mrs. Cheng will take the two brothers to plant trees together.
Not only that, no matter where Su Shi grew up, even if the place where he was placed was barren mountains, Su Shi would green and plant them after he arrived.
With her enthusiasm for giving her life with her heart, the miracle of " Sansu " happened.
Unfortunately, Mrs. Cheng became ill after overwork and exhausted her efforts. She died at the age of 48.
This year, Su Shi and Su Zhe were on the imperial examination list, and Mrs. Cheng did not hear this good news before her death.
"The silkworm will not end until it dies, and the candle will not dry until it turns into ashes." For thousands of years, this poem by Li Shangyin has moved us because our own life is in this state, and we are moved by ourselves.
Just like Mrs. Cheng, her greatness also comes from burning her own life and spending all her passion for her family. To this extent, she feels that it is really "a silkworm that dies."
There is no such process of giving in life, and probably Sansu's miracle will not happen; and it is not a temporary passion, but a lifetime of hard work.
says that she has paid so much and sacrificed so much...but these are not important. What is important is that she has passion for life and has her own persistence.
Author: Xinyue
References:
1, Shangguan News: The three fathers and sons of Sumen, articles passed down through the ages
- Fan Ye wrote "Book of the Later Han Dynasty·Biography of Fan Pang", Zhonghua Book Company, 2000
