When I was born, I experienced the collapse of the Soviet Union and lived a very difficult life, and I had to queue up to buy a piece of bread. After finally surviving the suffering, my father suddenly passed away. Only my mother lived a difficult life with me, my 15-year-old sis

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My name is Angela, a post-90s Ukrainian girl. When I was born, I experienced the collapse of the Soviet Union in . My life was extremely difficult and I had to queue up to buy a piece of bread. After finally surviving the suffering, my father suddenly passed away. Only my mother lived a difficult life with me, my 15-year-old sister and me.

years give me suffering, and I will also give me soberness and calmness. I believe that at the end of all suffering and bearing will be a day to clear the clouds and see the light.

Until I was 23 years old, my Chinese husband, who was six years older than me, stood in front of me and held my hand. I married to Shanxi for love. After marriage, I gave birth to three mixed-race babies in four years, just because Chinese men feel so responsible.

Nowadays, my mother and I live very happily in China and want to bring my sister to China in the future.

(In China, I found a lover who has been with me for the rest of my life)

On May 5, 1991, I was born in Ukraine. At that time, my parents were still immersed in the happiness of a family of three, planning the future for me in my infancy. Unexpectedly, the Soviet Union collapsed half a year later. Although Ukraine obtained a large number of military industries after independence, it also faced a shortage of food, rice, oil and salt.

In my childhood memory, many people around me were laid off and unemployed, and many people even had to go out to the street to sell their homes for money to buy food. The economy is in a downturn, and the supplies are extremely scarce, and a piece of bread even has to queue up to buy it.

But later as I grew up slowly, the economy began to recover, and our family's life improved a little.

(I believe that people who love to laugh will not have bad luck)

At that time, my parents thought I was a child who was making a tantrum, so they coaxed me to buy a toy piano. But I didn't expect that I was reluctant to give up and didn't want toys. I had to be a piano that could really be played.

My mother is a nurse and has a very gentle personality. did not simply and roughly deny my spoiled behavior. After confirming my determination to play the piano, she took me to the piano school to consult the teacher.

I still remember that on the day of the trial class, many piano teachers saw that I was so young, and said that their students were already full, and refused their mother's request one by one.

, helpless, my mother had to ask the principal of the piano school for help. The principal was very reasonable and chose a teacher at the director level for me, but this teacher was very strict and had his own standards for selecting students. If my performance can't conquer him, it's useless for anyone to plead.

(I enjoy Ukrainian food with my good friends)

Actually, I still don’t understand how I, at the age of 5, got into the eyes of my teacher. Perhaps it is the so-called fate between teachers and students, and I became his student in a daze. You know, this piano teacher is very busy with work and he has trained less than 10 students himself.

Since you have chosen, you must love it. Since you love it, you must persist. Time is very short, like a flash of time. From 5 to 15, from kindergarten to junior high school, I have been learning piano performance with this mentor for 10 years.

When I first started learning the piano, I was full of energy. But over time, I feel that practicing the piano is really boring. Especially when I heard other children laughing and playing downstairs, I couldn't sit still.

Thank you very much for your mother's persistence and teacher's guidance, otherwise I really don't know if I can persist.

, especially my enlightenment teacher, every time I see that I am tired and regressed, I will point out my shortcomings very strictly, and at the same time patiently tell me many interesting things that happen during the performance to mobilize my enthusiasm for learning.

(During school, you must take photos next to the bench as a souvenir)

does not have any ability to obtain, and you don’t need to go through a “cold and bone-breaking” to easily obtain it.

I still remember my mother once said that every time she got off night shift, she could see my fingers twitching unconsciously, like playing the piano.

Whenever I play the piano, my father says I look serious, like a princess dancing gracefully on the Milky Way all over the ground.

But when I was 15 years old, the father who held me in his palm took away his young life by a sudden accident. Looking at my mother's tears and my sister's ignorance of the world, I seemed to have grown up overnight.

(Art photos taken when I was in Ukraine)

Maupassant once said: "Life cannot be as good as you imagined, but it will not be as bad as you imagined. People's fragility and strength are beyond your imagination."

The changes in the family have made me understand the difficulty of life more. After graduating from junior high school, I chose the music high school in Zaporoze, Ukraine. On the one hand, when I go to school here, I can continue to study piano, and on the other hand, I can also use my spare time to work part-time to reduce the burden on my family.

In the three years of high school, I dare not relax and keep doing my best. In addition to cultural courses, there are many difficult piano courses and ensemble courses every week in music high school. Thank you to the strict requirements of the enlightenment teacher for me, and my professional grades have always been good.

(My husband often says that I have a pair of big eyes that can talk)

After three years of systematic study, my relationship with the piano is more like "going to each other". All the efforts and efforts will be seen and will be rewarded to me beyond expectations.

When I was in my senior year of high school, the school even gave me two students to teach them piano, which was also my first part-time income from making money from piano.

Learning by yourself and teaching others are completely different concepts. As a piano teacher, when I first encountered complaints from students when I played the piano and lost my temper, I was a little overwhelmed, and even once doubted whether I could really be a good teacher.

is not embarrassing to admit that one is fragile, because sometimes unexpected things grow from fragile places. Faced with these teaching difficulties, like my enlightenment teacher back then, I formulated different teaching plans based on the personality traits of my children and refused to give up.

(My mother and I, and my sister who is ten years younger than me, have dinner together at home)

Based on this spirit of "not giving up", the students gradually trust me more and more, and my teaching level has also improved by leaps and bounds. When I graduated from high school, I was admitted to the Conservatory of Music in in Kiev with excellent grades, and the school even waived all my tuition and miscellaneous fees.

After entering university, it opened the door to my new world. The artistic atmosphere of Ukrainian universities is still very good. Many Chinese students and university teachers come to Ukraine to study vocal music, piano, drama, etc. Here I can feel different cultures from all over the world, especially after every time I communicate with Chinese students, I feel a lot of emotion.

I am sad about China's vast land and vast resources, my long history, and my cultural heritage. At that time, I planted a seed in my heart to visit China.

(I am in Ukraine, taking photos with my good friends as a souvenir)

is approaching graduation, and I, like most of my classmates, are considering future work issues? By chance, I accidentally learned that there is a piano school in Shanxi, China that is recruiting teachers. The principal has studied in Ukraine for 7 years and hopes to recruit a piano teacher with high professionalism from our school.

After learning this news, I was ecstatic and immediately packed my bags and prepared to go to the country I had always longed for. My mother didn't stop her after she found out, and she really hoped that I could go out for a walk and improve my horizons.

I originally planned to stay in China for one or two years, but at that time I never thought that I would meet my lover whom I will accompany you for the rest of my life in China, and I will have children for him and settle in China.

The arrival of love is actually a shocking thing. That's because he came with his past, present and future.

(I used to like to taste all kinds of food and enjoy the beautiful scenery of various countries)

When I first saw the principal at a piano school, I was attracted by his elegance and humor.This man who is 6 years older than me is my later husband. In him, I felt the happiness of being favored, and it seemed that I had returned to the carefree girlhood era.

just arrived in Datong, Shanxi, but I was actually very uncomfortable. The reason for is very simple. As a foreigner, I can’t understand Chinese, and the locals can’t understand Chinese with my Ukrainian tone.

I still remember one time a taxi driver asked me how long I had been in China. I spoke in difficult Chinese dialect for half a year, but he listened to it for 8 years. He kept praising me for learning Chinese well, and I could only smile awkwardly.

But the longer I stayed in Shanxi, the more I fell in love with it. Some people say that looking at Shenzhen in forty years, Shanghai in a hundred years, Beijing in a thousand years, Shaanxi in a thousand years, Shanxi in a five thousand years, not emperors and generals, nor pavilions, but the birth of civilization.

(Raging Hukou Waterfall)

The ancient saying of Shanxi merchants "Tell the truth, do honest things, be honest people", which means that Shanxi people are honest and simple, especially home-loving. Shanxi compound is the best proof that no matter how big the outside world is, it is not as good as one acre of three parts of your own land.

My husband is such a person. He went to Ukraine to study after graduating from high school. After staying there for 7 years, he finally chose to return to Shanxi to start a business. After years of studying abroad, my husband has mastered his superb cooking skills. A bowl of -cut noodles with -color, fragrance and flavor, successfully captured my heart.

In 2014, my husband and I entered the palace of marriage. I was only 23 years old that year, and my husband promised me that it would be up to me to decide when I gave birth.

Because he knew that I came to China alone, and I was still frightened and uneasy in my heart. I had already been brave enough to choose to be his wife, but I was not prepared for being a mother. He is willing to withstand the pressure of his family and wait for me slowly.

(When taking wedding photos, my husband secretly took me for lunch)

After marriage, I worked as a teacher in my husband's piano school. Our days are like fairies, with the zither and zither singing together. At that time, I especially wanted to tell my father in heaven that I finally found a chest that I could rely on, someone who treats me as carefully as a princess.

Four years later, when I was able to truly integrate into life in China, we also welcomed our first baby Anna. I am very happy with Anna's arrival. I was at a loss for a long time when I was a mother, but my husband did not stand by.

Husband will learn to bathe the baby, coax him to sleep, feed him, and change his diapers. Although it is very hard, my husband enjoys it. He once said that he had another daughter, I was his eldest daughter, and Anna was his younger daughter.

Whenever I see my husband holding Anna in one hand and singing in the piano with the other, I sincerely feel that it is great to marry a Chinese man!

(My husband often says that I am not like the mother of three babies at all)

Chinese men are particularly responsible and loving. In the community where I live, you can often see grandpa taking the baby to walk in the garden and buy vegetables in the vegetable market. Such a scene is simply not visible in Ukraine.

In the following years, my family welcomed the second treasure and the third treasure. In 2019, my mother also came to China from Ukraine to help me take care of my baby. From the beginning, I didn’t dare to get pregnant and have children, and then I gave birth to three mixed-race babies in four years. My husband laughed and said that I had completely entered the state of being a mother and completed the "third child" indicator in advance.

In fact, with the arrival of the Three Treasures, my husband and I were very worried about family expenditure issues at the beginning. After all, for an ordinary family like us, raising three children is really "pressure". Fortunately, it is now encouraged to have a third child, and many local kindergartens are "private to public", and the costs have been significantly reduced.

(a family portrait of our family of five)

At the same time, elementary and junior high schools have been established near my home, and the pick-up and drop-off problem that has always troubled us has been solved. Thank you for introducing so many good policies that have relieved our economic pressure and burden.

says that there will be a seven-year itch in marriage, and we are no exception.Last year, my husband and I also had an quarrel. Because of the various frictions and opinions in life, we even thought of living separately with our children.

Now think about it, those days were really too dark. There was no substantial problem with my relationship with my husband, but the sudden pressure on life made us breathless. Later, I thought about it, if I really got to the point of divorce, I would definitely go back to Ukraine.

(I used to be afraid of dogs because my husband likes dogs, and I no longer resist)

Divorce is the decision of two people, but the broken whole family is the whole family.

Because of fighting, my husband and I may be able to promise that we will never meet in our lives. I took two children back to Ukraine, and my husband stayed in China with one child. Three children who were originally as close as brothers grew up in different countries. Although they had longing for each other, they ended up being strangers because of their language and different cultures.

I don’t think I can afford this debt, and I don’t want to do something that will make me regret for the rest of my life because of my temporary aura. So my husband and I began to slowly accept and change. After a period of running-in, our relationship not only did not cause any estrangement due to the divorce storm, but instead became stronger and stronger.

After this storm, my husband and I made an agreement that no matter how big the conflict occurs in the future, no one can file for divorce.

Now my mother has also come to China from Ukraine to settle down. She usually takes care of the daily life of the three babies with me. My husband is mainly responsible for the management of in training school. Due to the epidemic and war, my mother and I haven't returned to Ukraine for a long time and are very worried about our sister who is still in college.

(Becoming a Chinese daughter-in-law is the luckiest thing for me)

There are more than 7,000 kilometers from Ukraine to China. I have used all my courage from Ukrainian girls to good Chinese daughter-in-law. This year is my ninth year of living in China, and I spend one-third of my life here.

Regarding the future, I want to continue to be with the person I love and do all my life romantic things. I hope my sister can live with China after graduating from university.

[Oral: AC Couple]

[Editor: Junjunhe]

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