Deng Xiaoping and Zhuo Lin had a very simple wedding. Because it was difficult to find a wedding venue, Chairman Mao specially set aside a cave dwelling for them, put together several tables, and ate rice, red dates, and scrambled eggs. It was considered a wedding banquet. .
However, on this joyful day, drinking is indispensable. Comrades and comrades came over to toast Deng Xiaoping one by one. Deng Xiaoping, who did not usually drink, not only gave up drinking, but also drank every time he paid tribute, and drank happily. Huh.
Liu Ying was very familiar with Deng Xiaoping. Seeing Deng Xiaoping not getting drunk after a thousand drinks, she couldn't help but feel a little strange: Xiaoping's drinking capacity is really big.
Unexpectedly, her husband Zhang Wentian smiled and said to her: "There is some fake in it!"
It turned out that what Deng Xiaoping drank was not wine, but plain water that he had secretly replaced.
After this wedding, two very different souls were finally tied together, and began to create their own sparks, and also narrated a story of overlapping love and family affection.
Zhuo Lin was sincerely moved and held a wedding in a cave
Before Deng Xiaoping and Zhuo Lin got together, they had two marriages.
In the autumn of 1939, Deng Xiaoping went to Yan'an to work. Deng Fa wanted to take advantage of Deng Xiaoping's visit to Yan'an to help him find a partner.
Deng Xiaoping's second wife Jin Weiying
At that time, Yan'an was known as the holy land of revolution. Many female comrades came to Yan'an all the way to admire its reputation. There were North Shaanxi Public School and Women's University. Zhuo Lin came from Northern Shaanxi Public School. .
Deng Xiaoping took a fancy to Zhuo Lin. Zhuo Lin was twelve years younger than Deng Xiaoping. She was very young and had already graduated from Shaanxi Public School .
However, Zhuo Lin was a "hard nut to crack". She had sworn two oaths - first, she swore not to get married until the war of resistance was won; second, she swore not to marry a worker or peasant cadre.
In addition, Zhuo Lin lacked understanding of Deng Xiaoping at that time, so Deng Xiaoping asked people to mediate her twice, but both failed.
Zhuo Lin's vow not to get married until the war is won is easy to understand. She came to Yan'an to dedicate herself to the revolutionary cause. She was young and didn't want to think about getting married so early.
As for not marrying veteran workers and peasants cadres, the main reason is that they are afraid that workers and peasants cadres have no knowledge and cannot find a common language.
There was a joke circulating in Yan'an at that time - after a worker and peasant cadre married an intellectual, he walked by the river to look at the moon. The intellectual admired the moon emotionally and said, "Look, the moon is so beautiful." Unexpectedly, the worker and peasant cadre didn't notice the moon. It’s uninteresting. I can’t tell what’s so beautiful about the moon.
This story became a joke in Yan'an and sounded the alarm to many female intellectuals, so Zhuo Lin vowed never to marry a worker or peasant cadre.
However, facing these two mountains, Deng Xiaoping was not discouraged. Instead, he put aside his pretense as the political commissar of the 129th Division and actually talked to Zhuo Lin in person.
Faced with Zhuo Lin’s two oaths, Deng Xiaoping not only did not lose heart, but instead put down his pretense of being the political commissar of the 129th Division and actually went to Zhuo Lin to talk to him in person.
The conversation between the two was very consistent with the vigorous and resolute style of the Eighth Route Army. They did not delay and talked quickly. twice. The first time he introduced his situation, and the second time he talked about his hopes.
After these two conversations, Zhuo Lin had an intuitive understanding of Deng Xiaoping. The most important thing was that she felt that Deng Xiaoping had some knowledge and there should be no problem in sharing a common language.
Moreover, Deng Xiaoping did not have any airs of being a political commissar when he spoke, and he was very sincere to her.
"I'm old, and it's hard to fight on the front line. I want to marry you, but Zeng Xisheng talked to you, but you don't agree. I don't know how to speak. I hope you will consider this matter. I am older than you A few years older, this is my shortcoming, I hope to make up for it in other aspects."
These words touched Zhuo Lin. Zhuo Lin thought at that time that getting married would be a matter of time anyway, and she felt at ease marrying Deng Xiaoping, so she agreed.
The two got married very quickly, and the wedding was held in September of the same year. The reason why
is so anxious is that both of them have their own reasons.Deng Xiaoping was about to return to Yan'an, and he could only take Zhuo Lin away after getting married. Zhuo Lin, on the other hand, hoped to leave as soon as possible because of the "jokes" circulating in Yan'an.
Deng Xiaoping couldn't wait to return to Yan'an, and Zhuo Lin didn't want to become a "joke" in Yan'an.
The wedding ceremony of the two was quite simple. They simply set up a few tables outside Chairman Mao's Yangjialing cave dwelling.
The conditions were difficult at that time. There were no delicacies on the table, just some millet and red dates. The scrambled eggs on the table were already the greatest luxury.
However, this simple ceremony could not simplify the lively atmosphere. In addition to Deng Xiaoping and Zhuo Lin, the people getting married this time were also Kong Yuan and Xu Ming. The weddings of the two families were held together.
Everyone who came to attend the wedding was not an ordinary person. Most of the senior central leaders of Yan'an came.
Mao Zedong and his family, Zhang Wentian and his wife Liu Ying, Bogu, Liu Shaoqi, Li Fuchun and his wife Cai Chang, and Wang Shoudao, Secretary-General of the Central Committee, all came to express their congratulations.
It is a pity that Zhou Enlai did not come. Zhou Enlai was respected as his elder brother by Deng Xiaoping and he was bound to come. Unfortunately, he had been injured in a fall from a horse and went to the Soviet Union for treatment, so he missed this lively wedding.
Although these senior central officials wore patched military uniforms and plain cloth shoes, they were all full of energy, beaming with joy, and did not look shabby at all.
The wedding was so lively that Kong Yuan got so excited that he got drunk. But Deng Xiaoping was different. He would not refuse anyone who came, and he would swallow cup after cup without feeling drunk at all.
At that time, Liu Ying, an old acquaintance of Deng Xiaoping, was wondering: Deng Xiaoping never drank alcohol at all, so how could he still be so sober today after being toasted with so much wine?
So Zhang Wentian revealed the secret to Liu Ying - it turned out that before the wedding, Deng Fa and Li Fuchun secretly "faked" for him and used plain water to make drinks for Deng Xiaoping.
The reason why Deng Xiaoping was not "drunk" was because before the wedding, Deng Fa and Li Fuchun secretly "faked" for him and used plain water to make drinks for Deng Xiaoping
At the wedding, the bride and groom stood side by side and took photos. This is a rare treatment in the Eighth Route Army, but due to the conditions at the time, the face in the photo does not look so clear.
But through the smiles on the faces of these four newcomers, we can still feel the happiness overflowing in their hearts. In those difficult times, such happiness had endless meaning for them.
2. From mutual understanding to sharing the same boat through thick and thin
Within a few days, Deng Xiaoping and Zhuo Lin went to Wangjiayu, the frontline of Taihang Mountains.
However, the two did not stay together immediately. Deng Xiaoping first returned to the 129th Division headquarters in Tongyu Village, Liao County, while Zhuo Lin stayed at the Eighth Route Army headquarters as the captain of the women's training class.
Shortly after her marriage, Zhuo Lin returned to the anti-Japanese front line in the Taihang Mountains with Deng Xiaoping, and was ceremoniously received by Peng Dehuai.
When they first arrived in Wangjiayu, Peng Dehuai and Liu Bocheng warmly received the couple with sumptuous meals.
Looking at Zhuo Lin, who came from Yan'an's "parental family", Peng Dehuai praised Deng Xiaoping's wife and he were like brothers and sisters. In fact, he meant that the two of them had a "husband and wife look".
The time of separation was difficult. The two of them got together less and separated more. Deng Xiaoping could only meet Zhuo Lin occasionally when he went to the headquarters for meetings. So Zhuo Lin suggested to Deng Xiaoping: "Why don't you write me a letter."
Deng Xiaoping asked her what to write, and Zhuo Lin said that she could write about what he did every day. However, Deng Xiaoping's daily routine was all about work, and writing letters was equivalent to work reports, and there was no point in writing them.
After a year, Zhuo Lin finally couldn't stand the days when the two of them didn't even have letters, so they came to the 129th Division Headquarters, and the couple really started their lives.
It was also from this time that Zhuo Lin gradually got to know her husband.
Deng Xiaoping was very considerate to Zhuo Lin. Zhuo Lin had trachoma, so Deng Xiaoping kept it in mind and reminded her to use some eye drops when the time came.
Zhuo Lin's personality is the opposite of Deng Xiaoping. She is a lively and laughing person, but Deng Xiaoping made her deeply feel what it means to "not be able to speak."
at the beginning. She was still a little uncomfortable with Deng Xiaoping's silence, so Deng Xiaoping said that she was such a talkative person, and if Deng Xiaoping didn't listen to her, there would be no one to talk to.
But Deng Xiaoping remained silent, even though Zhuo Lin was very anxious about him.
He just said dryly: "That's the kind of temper I have. If you want to talk, just talk. If I have an opinion, I'll mention it. If I don't have an opinion, let it go."
But slowly, Zhuo Lin I feel that Deng Xiaoping's silence was largely due to his work, and I could hardly change it. At that time, our party not only had to fight against Japan in a difficult environment, but also had to always be on guard against the Kuomintang's plots. All our minds were occupied with official business and there was no time for chatting.
Especially after Deng Xiaoping finished a big job or task, he entered meditation time, and no one could disturb him.
During this period, he will conduct a comprehensive and detailed review of the entire incident, check for omissions, learn lessons, and make careful plans for the future.
This habit ensures the accuracy and thoughtfulness of his judgment, but it also prevents him from being distracted by his relationship with Zhuo Lin.
So Zhuo Lin slowly looked away - this veteran cadre was just such a person, and she couldn't ask him to put down his work to accompany her. She had better be more tolerant and understanding.
During the Anti-Japanese War, Deng Xiaoping was either busy with official duties or meditating alone. Zhuo Lin also gradually understood her husband and was willing to be more tolerant to him.
Zhuo Lin was also a revolutionary worker after all, so she gradually understood and adapted to Deng Xiaoping's temperament. , and became a close supporter of Deng Xiaoping.
Zhuo Lin came from a wealthy family. She had been pampered since she was a child, and she was originally somewhat delicate and girlish.
After spending time with Deng Xiaoping over the years, Zhuo Lin gradually transformed and improved her revolutionary consciousness. She also gradually adapted to her role in the family and became a good wife and mother.
Zhuo Lin learned how to be a female celebrity, and even the strenuous work of clearing wasteland and farming, Zhuo Lin gradually got used to it.
Although Deng Xiaoping did not have much time to chat with Zhuo Lin, he would take time out to care for his wife while he was busy with military affairs, and would personally boil water to wash her hair.
Regarding this, even the comrades around him lamented that Deng Xiaoping was always aggressive and decisive in the army, making everyone afraid of him. They did not expect that after he returned home, he would show such a gentle side to his wife.
three. A good wife and a good mother
In the family, Zhuo Lin is the core.
However, although this family has four generations under one roof, there is no feudal patriarchal atmosphere. The whole family is equal and harmonious, and there is a happy atmosphere. When dinner comes, everyone can communicate equally with each other.
In the family, Zhuo Lin is the core. Although the family has four generations living under one roof, it has no feudal patriarchal atmosphere and is full of an atmosphere of freedom and equality.
Such an atmosphere made Deng Xiaoping feel more comfortable when he returned home. Comfortable and relieved his work fatigue. It can be said that Zhuo Lin created a warm harbor for him.
Of course, although Zhuo Lin arranged the family affairs, it was Deng Xiaoping who made the final decision. Zhuo Lin sent a message to the children -
"What dad wants to do is the biggest truth in the family."
And Zhuo Lin's consideration for Deng Xiaoping can be said to be the envy of many comrades of Deng Xiaoping. What Deng Xiaoping ate, what he wore throughout the year, what medicine he took and how many pills he took at a time were all carefully arranged by Zhuo Lin.
And Deng Xiaoping's love for Zhuo Lin is also touching. One time, Zhuo Lin had a severe cold. The staff around her advised Deng Xiaoping not to approach her sister-in-law at this time to prevent infection. However, Deng Xiaoping did not listen at all and continued to go to Zhuo Lin's room to greet her as usual.
Although Deng Xiaoping and Zhuo Lin have different personalities, they have been considerate and tolerant of each other throughout their lives. They are an enviable and loving couple.
In 1946, just one year after the end of the Anti-Japanese War, the country was once again in the midst of civil war. In order to ensure the safety of his wife and children, Deng Xiaoping wanted to leave Zhuo Lin and her children behind.
But Zhuo Lin firmly refused: "I won't do it without your family. You always leave us alone. This time I must go with you. I am a member of the Communist Party. Even if you chop off my head, I will do it." Follow you."
From then on, Zhuo Lin stayed by Deng Xiaoping's side, taking care of his life and assisting him in his revolutionary work, without any complaints. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, the country was in dire need of development, and cadres including Deng Xiaoping had to go to the countryside to work. But what would happen to the children's education?
Ever since Zhuo Lin refused to take her children back to the rear during the Liberation War, Deng Xiaoping and Zhuo Lin had never left each other.
You must know that at this time, the country had just been liberated, and there were still a large number of enemy agents remaining in the country, especially in Chongqing. Deng Xiaoping If the children of cadres go to ordinary schools, they are at risk of being abducted.
In this regard, Zhuo Lin came up with a clever idea - she would be the principal.
Zhuo Lin proposed to establish Chongqing Zengjiayan People's Primary School and let the children of cadres come to school. With her as the principal watching, what else is there to be afraid of?
So Zhuo Lin did what she said and divided the school into high school and lower grades. The school was responsible for the children's food, clothing, housing, transportation, food, drink, and toilet.
However, these children of cadres are no different than children from ordinary families. They all have bad tempers, are not easy to mess with, and are also naughty. So Zhuo Lin planned to "kill the chicken to scare the monkeys", and she also started with her own children.
For example, when taking a nap, Deng Pufang was very restless. When Zhuo Lin looked at him, he seemed obedient, as if he was sleeping there, but in fact he was pretending to sleep. When Zhuo Lin was not around, he started dancing.
Then Zhuo Lin made a cruel move - she held down the child's arms, covered his face with a towel, and threatened him that as long as he didn't sleep, she would not leave.
This trick really worked. Not only was Deng Pufang obedient, but the other children did not dare to "make mistakes" when they saw that Zhuo Lin was so cruel to her own children. During the time when
was the principal, he was very effective in educating the children. Although he was a little tired, he was deeply pleased. Although Deng Xiaoping was also very concerned about the education of his children, he was too busy with work and could not spare time to educate them specifically, so this burden also fell on Zhuo Lin.
Zhuo Lin takes care of the children's schooling and education, and trains the five children to become better than the last. It can be said that they have both good character and academic excellence.
Deng Pufang once recalled: "They have one thing in common: they don't have any curse words in their mouths, and they have never used any curse words in their mouths. I didn't find this problem before, but a friend of mine told me, he said Pufang, I found out I have been with you for so many years, and I have never heard of you using curse words.”
After careful reflection, Deng Pufang believed that his good habit of not using curse words in his mouth should have been learned from his parents. After all, his parents And never say bad words.
After carefully returning to his hometown, Deng Pufang believed that the reason why he never uttered curse words was because his parents had always done so, and they had been subtly influenced.
Although Deng Xiaoping did not have much time to care about his children, in principle, he never Clear boundaries are set for the children.
Let’s talk about going to school. The primary school that Deng Lin, Deng Pufang, and Deng Nan went to was a boarding school located in the suburbs of Beijing, far away from their homes.
Even so, he did not give the children any special opportunities and refused to let the driver pick them up or drop them off.
So whether they go to school every Monday or go home on weekends, the children take the bus to and from school like other students.
And in middle school, children have to ride bicycles to and from school by themselves.
In this family, the division of labor between Deng Xiaoping and Zhuo Lin is very harmonious. Because Deng Xiaoping was usually busy, Zhuo Lin could safely handle the children's education.
However, Deng Xiaoping was not unconcerned. If he saw anything inappropriate in Zhuo Lin's care of her children, he would give her a few words of warning. This couple has been through ups and downs for decades and has a tacit understanding for a long time, and they understand each other almost instantly.
Later, the Party Central Committee entrusted Deng Xiaoping with important responsibilities. Deng Xiaoping was appointed as the Deputy Prime Minister of the Government Affairs Council of the Central People's Government and went to work in Beijing. He gradually became an important member of the first generation leadership group of the Party Central Committee.
After entering Beijing, Deng Xiaoping was gradually entrusted with important responsibilities and entered the leadership core. At this time, he was busy with work and needed the support of his wife even more.
From then on, Deng Xiaoping became even busier at work, and Zhuo Lin became even more complicated at home. Lifting his shoulders gave Deng Xiaoping no worries.
However, Zhuo Lin also had her own job, so it was not an option to do this all the time, so Deng Xiaoping discussed with Zhuo Lin that it would be better to help him manage the files at home, so that it would be easier to keep an eye on the children.
Zhuo Lin understands her husband's thoughts and understands the current situation. Apart from this, it is difficult to find a way to balance work and children. She is an easy-going person. After following Deng Xiaoping for so many years, she has a clearer and clearer understanding of her own position, so she agreed to Deng Xiaoping's proposal without hesitation.
Deng Xiaoping’s family not only had many children, but also had many children from relatives and friends living there, which meant that there were more than a dozen mouths in the family at the same time.
After being bound by the wedding, Zhuo Lin and Deng Xiaoping developed the spark of their relationship, and narrated a story of overlapping love and family ties.
Zhuo Lin often had problems with this - the family provided a little more oil and meat. , if you share it with everyone, it will definitely not be enough. It is better to let this person in the family eat Xiaozao alone. Besides, he is so busy and tired from work, so I guarantee that his health is also what it should be.
But after Zhuo Lin told Deng Xiaoping this idea, Deng Xiaoping firmly disagreed. After much deliberation, Zhuo Lin came up with a compromise: find someone to eat with him, and Deng Xiaoping reluctantly agreed.
But after only a few days of trying it, Deng Xiaoping became unwilling again, saying that he did not want to eat Xiaozao alone. Zhuo Lin had no choice but to take a step back and agreed to let him eat with everyone, but there was one thing: she had to add an extra dish for him.
Although Deng Xiaoping did not refuse, as soon as the meal arrived at the dinner table, he shared the dishes specially made for him with the others at the table. When it came to him, there was nothing left, and on the contrary, everyone ate less.
In general, Deng Xiaoping and Zhuo Lin came together because of the revolution. They were revolutionary comrades and comrades-in-arms outside their homes, but they were a loving couple behind closed doors. They had differences and even inappropriate places.
There is no perfect couple in this world from the beginning. Only if they are willing to tolerate and adapt to each other can they have a beautiful relationship that will eventually be together through thick and thin.
However, there is no jade in the world that is polished right from the beginning, and no one is completely suitable from the beginning. couple.
This couple relies on their mutual understanding and tolerance. In the end, they have a beautiful relationship that they can endure even through ups and downs.
