In some Qing palace dramas, the portrayal of marrying a princess is like picking up a treasure. Not only is it a beauty, but also fame, fortune and status are instantly acquired. Whoever becomes the concubine will be given a three-point thin face, but is this really the case? ?
However, this is not the case in real history. It is not a good job to marry a princess in all dynasties, especially a princess of the Qing Dynasty. After marrying, life is worse than death, and everyone regrets it. Why is it so? This is actually related to the management system of the princess in the Qing Dynasty.
The princes and nobles of the Qing Dynasty started between the white mountains and the black waters. Originally, they had no cultivation, but after entering the Central Plains, in order to appear more noble and cultivated than the royal family of the Ming Dynasty, they customized a series of cumbersome rules, especially for women, requiring almost harsh.
At the beginning of the Qing Dynasty, princesses at that time could only marry princes and sons of princes, which led to the drawbacks of consanguineous marriages, and gradually allowed princesses to marry the sons of ministers. is a chore.
For example, Qianlong once married his daughter Gu Lun and Princess Xiao to He Shen's son, but behind this honor, there is an embarrassing existence. Because of the high rank of the princess, her title is in Hou and Bozhi. According to the etiquette of the Qing Dynasty, the whole family of the concubine must kneel and worship the princess.
In the words of ordinary people, parents kowtow to their daughter-in-law. This is too inconsistent with traditional Chinese ethics. However, this rule was not abolished until Emperor Daoguang. Marrying a princess has both disadvantages and advantages. For example, the dowry brought by the princess is very Many, including a set of large villas.
In addition, after marrying the princess, the concubine will be given a title, and her value will skyrocket, so the hardships up front are nothing. After finally marrying the princess home, it is time for the bridal chamber, but if you want the bridal chamber, you need to wait, wait The princess summoned, but the princess could not call the shots.
It is incomprehensible that the husband and wife have to let the third person decide the time of the bridal chamber, but this is the rule. The time must be decided by the princess's nanny. Waiting outside, the princess is not allowed to enter unless she is summoned.
If the concubine wants to sleep with the princess, she has to work as a nanny first, and let the nanny agree. The best way is to reward money. The same is true for the concubine who wants to see the princess. If the two meet privately or go to bed, This is against the etiquette system.
The affairs of men and women in ancient times were difficult to talk about. In addition, the princess was thin-skinned, and all these things were controlled by the nanny. Under such pressure, many princesses rarely saw their concubines, and it was even difficult for the princess to become pregnant. It is said that there are also The princess resisted, such as the daughter of Emperor Daoguang.
Daoguang Emperor's daughter borrowed the opportunity to meet her parents in the palace to complain to Emperor Daoguang, and counted all kinds of oppression by the nanny. Finally, Emperor Daoguang decreed that the princess' concubine should be a real husband and wife, and gave birth to 8 children, so the ending seems to be good. But the reality is not so.
If the princess dies of illness or old age before the concubine, the concubine will be removed from the house after the expiry of the period of filial piety, and the dowry carried by the princess will also be taken back, which will result in a huge loss. It can be seen that marrying a princess is extremely hard. Too much risk is not a good thing.
