Two days ago, Marie Claire Women's Influence Night, Liu Shishi , Yang Mi , Tang Yan were rarely on the same stage, many people felt that the three beauties were beautiful in their own way, but when it comes to temperament, I have to say that Liu Shishi is really yyds!
In terms of appearance, the standard , three courts and five eyes, , is a beautiful woman, but in a circle of beautiful women, it may not be easy for you to see her beauty at first glance, but at first glance you are in the crowd. You must be able to feel her outstanding temperament. Just the walking posture has made several hot searches. Let's take a look at a few moving pictures to experience what swaying looks like, graceful, elegant and confident.
This one is really elegant and atmospheric, too queen-like!
Of course, her temperament attributes are not only elegant, but she is so handsome that many girls call him my husband!
After reading this temperament, it's really unparalleled. After all, not all stars have such outstanding temperament. In addition to having an enviable swan neck , the body and demeanor is really a model.
Can we ordinary people also have such a temperament? Of course the answer is yes!
explains from the very bottom what all "temperaments" have in common, I think:
"Have a sense of control over 's self-awareness display"
You may have a hard time understanding this sentence, for example, look at the photo below, Gao Yuanyuan's temperament is obviously better than the person next to him.Is
just a difference in appearance?
Take a closer look, the tall and round face has strength, the middle of the face is bulging and not loose, the back is tall and straight, the posture is moderate, there is a sense of control injected by consciousness; the person next to
, there is a kind of unconscious loose, the face has no strength to support Muscle ups and downs, pushed by life. Does
grow into a different appearance?
This is actually the difference between "unconscious" control of the face and "conscious" control. The same is true for
Faye Wong and photos of passers-by, I can't see the details of facial features, and even passers-by's dress is more eye-catching.
But Faye Wong's conscious control makes her "willed", and passersby have "low will".
Another example is the easy-to-recognize walking posture:
cannot control its body coordination, the core is unstable, the walking posture is swaying, and it appears to have no temperament; Movement, spine stable and temperamental.
Let's look at the "consciousness of control" in detail.
Dong Qing has an extraordinary temperament, but once the expression loses the sense of control, the temperament will be damaged; if the movement of each facial muscle is well controlled, within the boundary, all express happiness, but the left side has more temperament.
This is why comedian is difficult to be called temperament, because the expression must be more exaggerated and larger in order to be expressive.
Yao Chen went the " comedian " line before, and when he laughed, he let himself go.
laughs as well, with more control on the left than on the right, and less dramatic eyebrows and eyes.When
played the role of "Su Mingyu", the whole body was injected with a sense of control, gestures, expressions, smiles, have a clear feeling of "being under their own control". The cuteness that
wants to express is also just right, and it will not break away from its own conditions.
After reading this, you will feel that the opposite of control is "unlimited, free yourself".
In fact, there is a negative side of "over-control", control is closed, showing inferiority complex, not to mention temperament.
Take Ni Ni as an example. When she first debuted, she was cautious, her gestures and expressions were very controlled, the amplitude was very small, her face was tense, her eyes and the angle of looking at people were all "daring", "vigilant" or "pleasant". .
Seeing that Ni Ni's face is not tense and flexible, she can control her expressions and express her multi-faceted self.
has the final say and is no longer dominated by the outside world.
To sum up, many people lose their temperament, that is, they grasp the boundaries that are not well controlled.
And everyone's moderation is different, stop believing in the same standard, how to stand, how to laugh, be elegant and dignified...
You have to find your own "consciousness" and draw a boundary for yourself.
(degree of control: intentional and natural)
So the deepest temperament:
Self-awareness - Can you recognize yourself, from the inside out; control.
The sense of control is reflected in the temperament, and we are most likely to perceive it. For example, if the appearance and conditions are similar, then:
Those who speak brains are more temperamental than those who are not brainy. The difference lies in whether they can control emotions and impulses; Those with dialects have more temperament, the difference lies in whether they can control the accuracy of the phonetic standard;
The calm people have more temperament than those who are in a hurry, the difference lies in whether they can control their mentality and evaluate the reality.
and those who have the same control ability, compares who has higher control precision and less unconscious state.
For example, Liu Shishi has always been praised for her outstanding body, because she can control each of her body muscles more delicately.
And most of us can only control the spine .
is the most difficult to understand and the most difficult to perceive, or the place where most people get stuck is actually "human consciousness": can recognize and start from itself.
For example, Yao Chen, who wears a striped suspender skirt if she wants to be cute as a girl, thinks she is wearing something and has no sense of self-existence;
"Not knowing" is the most degrading temperament.
I don’t know what hardware I have, how I feel to others, I don’t understand ’s body proportions, temperament type...
If you want to be cute, you are better than scissors.
goes further: know that you exist. For example,
is also sexy, you can see "self" on the left, and "external seeking" on the right.
This is a picture of an orphan adopted by an American couple, before and after. What has changed? It's just that you know that you "exist", and you no longer look to the outside world for "evidence" of existence. The topic of
is "too deep" when it is launched. Let's go back to the topic of temperament. How can make you more temperamental?
The best thing to start with is a "sense of control". But don't try to control your gestures and expressions right away.
Instead, the "unconscious" becomes the "conscious".
First, take a 5-minute daily
video for yourself, and observe yourself: Does
have any: Unconscious eyebrow raising, frowning, face moving when laughing, mouth not closing, or mouth too hard when speaking?
Is there any: Unconscious slumping, knees exerting force, walking shoulders, legs shaking?
Find these "unconsciousness", and observe and train in the mirror. During this process, you will be aware of your more subtle muscles, such as the frown muscles, the nasal muscles, and the spine section by section.
Awareness is the beginning of control. The specific training of
varies from person to person, so I won't go into details here. Below, Miss J lists the "sense of loss of control" that you must be vigilant about that damages your temperament:
, Ge You's paralysis , no spine, facial paralysis, and other overall weak "sense of laxity", inject a little strength into one's body, support oneself, this is the most basic sense of existence.
. If you change it, just say it, ask it when you speak, think for yourself, analyze it, slow down, and speak from your head; only in this way can you show the human consciousness that is not dominated by instinct.
After talking about the sense of control, I will write a special article about "self-awareness" next time, here is a brief description:
How to see and recognize yourself, the easiest way is:
Talk to yourself in the mirror and feel your own breath , skin, bones, intentions...
Tell yourself that no matter how tall or thin you are, or what your situation is, you exist in this world, you can smell flowers, hear birdsong, and close your eyes when the sun is shining.
You don't need to prove your existence through loud emphasis, flashy stuffing, prickly, courting, etc. You really exist!
I hope that from today, you will have a direction to improve your temperament, and stop focusing on the appearance and decoration, and don't focus on poetry and books.
is instead:
External repair Body, posture, expression, makeup, hair and wear, how to make your own recognition based on yourself; Your self" shines on your exterior.
Upright, calm, transparent, loving, active...Inner and outer have never been separated!
Then, start practicing, from "unconscious" to "conscious", "uncontrollable" to "controllable", "invisible" to "seeing yourself", "not knowing yourself" to "understanding yourself" .
(this is how consciousness illuminates oneself)
There are so many beauties in this world, there are always people who can easily be more beautiful and more temperamental than you, but you must also know that "you exist"!
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