Yang Mi and Liu Kaiwei were married in 2014 and divorced in 2018. The couple had a joint property of 5 billion yuan, Yang Mi received 4.5 billion yuan, and Liu Kaiwei received 500 million yuan and his daughter's custody rights.
Wang Baoqiang and Ma Rong also ended their six-year marriage in 2018.
Every year in the entertainment industry, there are some celebrities’ divorce and cheating news. Love in the entertainment industry seems to have become "worthless". In the divorce declarations of those celebrities, most of the reasons for divorce are due to the fact that there is less gathering and more divorce, and the feelings are unfamiliar.
So the question is, is the time that husband and wife get together so important for the maintenance of the relationship?
"Gathering less" is not the main reason for relationship breakdown
The divorce of stars in the entertainment industry seems to attribute the cause to external gatherings Time is short, then, together with less time, is it really important to maintain the relationship between husband and wife?
The answer is yes, the reunion time is really important for the emotional maintenance of the husband and wife. The reason for their divorce is that their love is not complete. , Did not complete the conversion of love to "family affection", which is the main reason for their emotional breakdown, and getting together is the most effective way to complete this conversion. Because the love is incomplete and the emotional conversion is not completed, once their reunion time is reduced, there will be problems in their relationship, which will eventually lead to divorce.
In the field of psychology, psychologist Robert J. Sternberg put forward the ternary theory of love, also called " love triangle theory ".
Love Triangle Theory
The main content of this theoretical model is that "love" is composed of three basic components: passion, intimacy and commitment.These three components can be understood in popular discourse. Passion refers to the sexual desire in love, which is emotional fascination; intimacy refers to the warm experience that can be caused in a love relationship; commitment refers to the decision, expectation or guarantee of maintaining the relationship.
At the same time, passion, intimacy and commitment can form a perfect love. Without a certain ingredient, this kind of love is not perfect. If there is only intimacy and passion in love, this kind of love is a kind of "romantic love"; if there is only passion and commitment, it is a kind of "stupid love", if there is only intimacy and commitment, it is just a kind of "companion" Love". Only when the three are possessed at the same time, this is love, and this kind of love can last forever.
The theory also believes that with the development of time, the degree of these three components of love will change to a certain extent: with the passage of time, passion or enthusiasm will rise sharply, then decline rapidly, and then remain At a very low level; the intimacy will increase rapidly in the early stage, and then will continue to improve slowly; the commitment is not as strong as passion and intimacy in the early stage, but over time, the degree of commitment will exceed passion and intimacy.
When the passion dissipates, companionship becomes the longest confession, companionship becomes the most sincere love. This is what everyone often says, love becomes family affection, . But in fact, this kind of "family affection" itself is part of love .
Of course, in the context of our Chinese culture, love and marriage are often mixed with factors such as culture, interests, parents, etc. Let us ignore them for the time being.
Why can't love in the entertainment industry last forever?
The love of entertainment stars often originates from a cooperating love movie and TV series, and they are often the protagonists and heroines. In the play, the actors substitute themselves for the role and follow the role and each other Deducted a period of extraordinary romance, talked about a vigorous, earth-shaking, and unswerving love. But from the " ternary theory of love model",Love in film and television dramas is often just "romantic love" composed of passion and intimacy.
Some actors will bring the emotion of the character to reality, and they will fall in love with each other and get married, but this kind of love, this kind of marriage is often the same as the character, but it is composed of passion and intimacy. "Romantic love", few people can establish a long-term commitment during their relationship, because the commitment itself takes time, and what these celebrity couples lack is the time to spend with each other.
From the three-component change diagram of love above, it can be found that the establishment of commitment takes time, and commitment is often increased with the increase in intimacy during long-term companionship.
Therefore, once the gathering time is short, as the passion fades, it is difficult to increase intimacy and promise to increase. This kind of love and marriage will inevitably have problems. In addition, there will be an endless stream of handsome men and women in the entertainment industry. "Meet a good match again."
Of course, there are some epic loves in history. For example, Wang Baochai kept the cold kiln for Xue Pinggui for eighteen years, Deng Jiaxian still persisted in her disappearance in Deng Jiaxian.
But there are too few such characters, most people are ordinary people, and ordinary people need companionship, intimacy, and commitment to maintain their emotions.
Star couples in the entertainment circle are not short of money or names, but they lack time to spend with each other. Because there is little company, there is no time to build a commitment, and the relationship between each other will become fragile.
With a little external temptation, it is easy to empathize and derail. This is the article, Chen Sicheng is the same, and the final result is also a divorce.
Companionship is the longest confession
In life, some people complain that their partner always stays at home and does not go out for a while. It seems that staying by their side is the most useless "waste", but in fact, Accompanying is the longest confession.
So,Cherish those who are by your side, no matter men or women, companionship is the greatest love for you.
What do you think is the reason for the divorce of celebrities? Do you think that "gathering less and more divorce" is the main reason for couples' relationship breakup? Any tips for maintaining the relationship between couples? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area for discussion.
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