Me: When the weather is hot, I try " Summer Practice Three Volts of ", but I don't force myself to do it. It is too hot. When practicing yoga, I will turn on the dehumidification function of the air conditioner. Now I have been practicing yoga alone for more than a year, and it has become a habit. I have neither gained nor lost weight, and fitness and self-entertainment are more effective than body shaping. Of course, practicing yoga in this way is very helpful in training concentration. Mr.
: Whenever at a certain stage, the original method is improved and consistent, it is actually due to a change in mentality and the need to make adjustments.
Me: That’s right. Last weekend in the evening, Lao Yu and I rode to the lakeside of Huixie in Lingliu, Zhongshan. Suddenly there was a chirping of cicadas. There was a tree on the other side of the lake that had bent into the lake. Next to it, there was a little boy about three years old holding a tree. A toy water gun that is longer than his body is drawing water by the lake, and his mother is watching over him. . . . . Mr.
: Did this scene give you another inspiration for writing poetry? Ha ha.
Me: Oh. I really have no inspiration, but the words of Marshall Duchamp come to mind: "I hope every breath is art." Mr.
: Well, it does make some sense.
Me: Hey, some of the conversations I had with Lao Yu were mixed with scenes of past memories. It was really unforgettable. There was far more bitterness and pain than happiness and a sense of solidity. I think he and I have indeed become a reference point in each other's lives. and awakeners, but whether can be truly awakened and make his life richer and more meaningful is also a matter of personal destiny. Mr.
: Yes, I have always heard that your relationship is indeed not like the relationship in regular experience. It feels like a mock test given by God. However, I like yours.
Me: Haha, thank you. Indeed, he must be at the lowest point in his life now. His financial investment failed and he suffered heavy losses. It requires a lot of willpower, opportunity, and luck to turn things around again. After I communicated with him, he talked about his reflection on the current state of his life for more than 30 years. If you count the time he has truly entered society as an adult, it should have been nearly 20 years of personal entrepreneurship. He said this: My personality is dually contradictory, extremely rational and extremely emotional. I used to always feel like I was fighting internally and couldn't handle myself. Now I gradually feel that I can actually balance them. Going up is my ideal. (After I made money, I didn't. I don’t want to buy a good car or a house, but I don’t want to find a stable partner. I always feel that I still need to use them to add value, and then do what I once dreamed of doing, but there are still many personal desires and wishes that I have not yet realized), down It’s gratitude (in the current economic downturn, I have at least one professional skill of my own, which does not require much physical and time expenditure to maintain normal operations and earn some money. Compared to the same period, I am lucky) . After hearing this, I thought that he is very clear about his current state of life. It is really good that he can continue to maintain a certain fighting spirit. Mr.
: Hahaha, yes, I have suffered a major financial loss. The blow and impact of such external events may start a person's introspection mode, and may have a strong desire to change himself. However, this also varies from person to person.
Me: It’s true. When I saw him packing his repair tool box, he seemed to be slightly self-deprecating and said: " Do you remember? I bought this tool box with the money you gave me. You decorated it back then. At that time, I didn't help you much, and I even told you that I wanted to buy a tool box. You also noticed my hint. "Mr.
: Hey, you must have been in a very uncomfortable mood at that time. You weren't. Somewhat abused? Why is he so scheming?
Me: Because of his selfish nature, plus he doesn’t put me in a so-called relatively important position in his heart. But if I only express true feelings unilaterally, people will lose some of themselves and become fragile.At that time, I didn’t have a deep understanding of the complexity of human nature. Also, as the person who was sincere, I think most of them didn’t have a deep understanding of the complexity of human nature. The other party’s personality and temperament were not useful for this. They meet people to order food. We can indeed label a person as naive or selfish, but have you ever thought about why you have experienced this? This kind of encounter is bound to open up and awaken oneself. . . . . Mr.
: Well, you! When you say this, I think of the personal experience of private entrepreneur Cao Dewang. When he was young, he was bullied and kicked out of his village. Later, after he became successful and famous, he returned to the village to build roads and houses. This man also apologized to him. . He said, "When you are weak, it is normal for others to bully you. When you are strong, these can all be ignored."And I also believe that a truly strong person will not only be bullied when others show weakness, There will be no overflow of sympathy, and there will be no taking advantage of others. You are not a weakling, you just maintained good intentions, which I think is great. Now I don’t have any strong-willed mentality, I just really want to be someone or be close to someone. After I consciously set a goal and stick to it, everything will fall into place. But if I encounter bad luck or fate, I will not be obsessed with this thing, this person or this goal.
Me: Well, your kindness towards me has also infected me. Mr.
: This old acquaintance of yours, if he really wants to become more successful, he really needs to become stronger. This strength means not being violent or arrogant, being too self-interested and completely detrimental to others, or being altruistic is also a kind of If you control tools, you will lose more than you gain. To become more successful requires internal drive, but this drive is not universal. It belongs to a small number of people. This is a fact.
me: We need to recognize our own facts. Zen Buddhism believes that the Buddha's mind is in the one heart of all living beings, that everyone is perfect, and that practitioners can achieve absolute mental tranquility and clarity. What is true success? The standards are also different. If a person succeeds at the expense of his own physical and mental illness, I think the gain outweighs the gain. Mr.
: That’s just what you think. The temptation of worldly fame and fortune may indeed be stronger for some people than for others, but this is not wrong in itself. It’s just that trampling on the interests of others is evil.
Me: I understand what you mean. I don’t judge the right and wrong, right and wrong of various values. However, I am always clear in my heart. This clarity is not achieved by the moral norms established by society.. It comes from complete trust in oneself. It knows that doing good (goodwill) does not mean destroying the other party and completely eradicating malice (this is also impossible to achieve, because good and evil are interdependent), but that one can firmly not do evil. This is for liberation and peace. Realize true freedom. Mr.
: Hahaha! Great kindness! You expressed part of my feelings, although our personalities are quite different.
Me: And when I observed that Lao Yu was very focused on his hobby of handmade modification, he liked to recycle old things and make some practical gadgets by himself. He was very immersed in it and felt happy from the bottom of his heart. We communicated about this, and he He also said that he found a small sense of happiness in it, and no longer had to worry about life goals and money figures. Mr.
: How great is this!
Me: Yes, but I still believe that a person’s innate personality is like a biological DNA imprint, which cannot be changed. Mr.
: It’s wonderful. It’s completely unchangeable. You are who you are. You can accept your own shadows and flaws, instead of making excuses and pretending to be someone else.
Me: The day before yesterday, I drew a spiritual card. On the card were two elephants whispering. The name of this card is "Listen". When people are young, they always have a strong desire to express themselves. This strong desire comes from the desire to "be listened to", but the more anxious is, the more he feels that no one can hear him. Later, he slowly discovered that it is not that others are unwilling to listen to you, but that your way of expression is too childish. Impatience and emotions bring stress to others. The prerequisite for good communication is to be good at listening, just like what this card says-
Do you speak more than you listen? Will you pick up on what others say? True connection is about how we make others feel and whether we are open to others in the moment. Life is talking to you, and an important message is trying to be conveyed: let go of your fear of not being heard, and you will get opportunities. Mr.
: His words are wonderful and his person is wonderful.
Me: You and I both walk, and the road is long.
