A few days ago, my wife visited a clothing store all morning and finally bought some clothes. After she got home, she put it on and asked me, what do you think of the clothes I bought? Does it look good? I thought to myself, I'm not that stupid. You've already bought it, so why would you ask for my opinion again? In fact, she wants to get my compliments, saying that she has good taste and knows how to match clothes. If I say it is not good, she may buy another one, and then this dress may have to be placed in the closet and never see the light of day. In the past, I would have stupidly told the truth that it was not good, the color was too tender, the style was average, and I would tell a lot of problems. Slowly, I figured it out. She was not asking for my opinion, but wanted to I praised her for her unique vision. This kind of asking for advice is indeed meaningless, but I still have to take it seriously and can't fool her casually.
There are many such things in life. Unit leaders solicit opinions from team members during meetings. This is just a formality and routine. Small things must be discussed in meetings, and major issues must be discussed later. However, the real solicitation of opinions is done through individual exchanges before the meeting. You must not foolishly put forward opinions and suggestions at meetings. The correct attitude is to support and approve, and the opinions are just right and you should sing praises. If you speak out and really express your opinions at a meeting, it would be a big mistake. After a few times, you will be embarrassed. Either they won't speak to you, or the leader will ignore your words, let alone respond to you. This is the attitude of soliciting opinions from leaders.
I have a relative. Her child was facing the high school entrance examination last year, and his grades were not very satisfactory. It was estimated that he could only go to vocational school . She asked me how to fill out the application form, and I repeatedly told her, "All schools will not admit anyone who has no choice." Be sure to fill in the application form. When the results of the high school entrance examination came out, it turned out that the results were not ideal and she could only go to a vocational school. However, her child did not apply for a vocational school, so she came to me to find a solution. Didn't I ask you to fill in your application no matter what? She said she forgot to tell her child at the time. In fact, she didn't want to go to a vocational school. If her grades were really bad, she could come to me to find a solution. Unexpectedly, I really had no choice but to go to a private technical school. Acquaintances are used to take advantage of them. Afterward, he said to others, "If I apply for a volunteer, why should I contact him?" This is human nature. I didn't really want to do anything with you at first, you were just a spare tire, but in the end I had no choice but to come to you again. You don't need to take this kind of person seriously. If you offend someone, you'll be offended.
Don't hold an umbrella for others and get yourself wet. In today's society, trustworthy men and trustworthy women are everywhere, and people are accustomed to relying on connections to find acquaintances for all matters. When people ask you something, sometimes they just ask casually to understand the situation. There is no need to feel pressure in this kind of situation, because you are not asked to do it, you only need to point out the way and tell them what to do. There is also a situation where you have to do it. Some of it can be done by yourself, and some require someone to do it. This is more troublesome. If you just call someone, you may have to be busy for several days, and you may not be able to get it done. Those who break laws, disciplines and regulations cannot be handled, and those who do well cannot be rewarded with gifts. Only by protecting oneself wisely and following the rules can we achieve steady and long-term progress.
