I saw a fashion blogger teaching everyone how to avoid lightning when it comes to dressing. What impressed me most was her views on cheongsam.
In ancient times, cheongsam had to be tailor-made according to size in a specialized store.
The reason why cheongsam is elegant is that it can fit the female body curve and show the soft oriental classical beauty.
However, some modern e-commerce companies sell tailor-made cheongsam through the Internet. In this way, the important step of taking measurements is missing.
The result may be ill-fitting, and the result of ill-fitting is that it cannot reflect the advantage of wearing a cheongsam to reflect the beauty of women's curves.
Therefore, merchants found another way. Since traditional clothing cannot reflect women's flesh, they started from other elements.
For example, superimposed lace, polka dots, etc., but this makes the cheongsam nondescript.
Because the cheongsam itself is to eliminate complexity and simplify it, allowing the simplest elements to reflect the simplest beauty. However, the accumulation of too many elements will only focus on the clothes instead of the person.
Therefore, some beauty and some functions need to be hidden in simplicity to be reflected.
The same principle can also be applied to the relationship between the sexes. If it is too complicated, it will not bring good results. Be a "subtractive" woman and let the man pretend to be you.
When it comes to swallowing your anger, you must learn to do subtraction.
The TV series "Come on!" Lin Xiaohan in "Mom" is looked down upon by her mother-in-law because her education is not as high as her husband's. No matter what she does, if it doesn't go as she wants, she will criticize Lin Xiaohan.
At this time, Lin Xiaohan felt that her husband would be on her side, but every time he would either make peace with her or pretend to be deaf and dumb.
's repeated inaction disappointed Lin Xiaohan, so she decided not to endure it anymore. At worst, she could move out and take care of the children by herself, and the two of them could live their own lives.
Now, the husband panicked because he was afraid of losing his wife. Only now did he understand the meaning of this sentence: Love never knows its own depth until it is about to lose it.
And her mother-in-law also knew that Lin Xiaohan was serious this time, so she humbled herself and hoped to be forgiven by Lin Xiaohan.
Sanmao once wrote in a book: "I believe that suffering is a blessing, but I get contempt. Being a person who defends myself earns respect."
Don't think that being tolerant can make the other party recover from their mistakes. The actual situation Most of the time, you are tolerant, while others are trying to take advantage of you.
Therefore, when it comes to swallowing your anger, you must learn to do subtraction.
Only when you learn to use anger to protect your boundaries and measure your own bottom line can you get the respect and care you deserve.
When it comes to being man-centered, we must learn to subtract.
In real life, many women become man-centered after being with men, and spend most of their time with men.
However, love is like water. When it reaches a boiling state in a short period of time and the temperature cannot continue to rise, the water will maintain a certain temperature or start to drop.
Because people have a threshold for how they feel about something. Once the threshold is reached, they will feel indifferent, even if it is very intense at the beginning.
Just as Marx wrote in a letter to his wife Haiyan: "Frequent contact will appear monotonous, and the trivial matters of daily life will grow out of it, while deep enthusiasm will appear as daily habits due to the closeness of the object."
Therefore, we will You cannot do this, but you must ensure that the glass of love can always maintain a slow and continuous warming state in the step-by-step process.
In the time that is not centered on men, we can invest in ourselves, binge-watch TV series, read books, go shopping with good friends, or just be in a daze quietly.
In short, love must be appropriately "cold" to achieve the desired warmth.
When it comes to trying to control emotions, you must learn to do subtraction.
Mr. Ji Xianlin once said: "In this life, people will inevitably waste some time and take some detours. Everyone is not one of God's lucky ones. , Only by walking down the road will you know the meaning of life. "
When we deal with relationships, we will inevitably take some detours.
For example, she is worried that a man will leave her, check his mobile phone, and make him report whatever he does, and he will be questioned when he comes back from get off work.
In fact, the more someone wants to enslave others, the more he will end up being imprisoned.
It’s right to care, it’s right to love, and it’s right to be afraid of losing, but this is not the reason why we want to control each other. These methods will only have a negative effect and push the people we love further away.
The best way to control a person is not to control him.
respect differences, respect each other's preferences, give each other the freedom they want, are not sticky together, can rely on each other, but can also be independent of each other.
In this way, love will give people a comfortable feeling and make people want to keep going.
