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A girl talked about her coming-of-age ceremony for her senior year of high school.
Teachers have no special requirements for clothing, just a uniform color. Girls wear white skirts and boys wear black suits.
So the girl went to the mall with her friends to pick out a skirt. It was an ordinary style and not expensive. When I got home and showed it to my mother, she sneered: "This skirt is too loose and too casual."
The girl was unhappy and said back: "Then you go shopping with me." I thought my mother wouldn't go, but she didn't expect her to eat it. promise.
Her mother really took her to the mall. The mother and daughter visited many stores and looked at various styles of skirts, but none of them were satisfactory. I wandered from noon to evening.
Finally, in a store, I saw a dress that both mother and daughter were satisfied with.
When the girl first saw it, she thought it was a dress only worn by princesses in TV dramas. Just a skirt that didn't speak or had any expression suddenly reminded the girl of the acne on her face, her hair that was neither long nor short and a little greasy, her body that was a bit fat... she felt an inferiority complex inexplicably. Feeling unworthy of it.
Mom asked the teller to find a suitable code for her to try. She carefully carried the dress into the fitting room. When I came out, my mother said: It looks very good.
Then my mother was satisfied and asked the teller to issue a ticket.
The astonishing number on the clothing label flashed in the girl's mind, and she whispered to her mother: "Do you know how much this skirt costs?"
Her mother replied to her: "Yes."
The girl asked her mother tangledly: "This is too expensive. Otherwise, let’s find another one.”
Her mother said something that she will remember for the rest of her life: “This is a once-in-a-lifetime coming-of-age gift . I bought it for you because it suits you. If you think it’s expensive, remember it.” Live with the feeling of having it, and then work hard to create and have this feeling. "
"My daughter is so beautiful, she should wear such a beautiful dress to attend the coming-of-age ceremony. "
That dress cost more than 3,000 yuan, and she is still a girl after many years. The most expensive piece in the wardrobe. She kept it under a dust cover and cherished it very much. When I see this dress, I think of my mother’s words and thoughts. For the rest of her life, she felt that no matter how bad and hopeless her life was, in her mother's eyes, she was a pearl that was temporarily covered in dust.
She has the courage to move forward at any time, just to become what her mother wants. What the girl’s mother gave her was not a dress worth three thousand yuan, but a deep love.
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A person’s best armor is to be loved well.
Because I have been loved well, I know that I am precious and a treasure in the hearts of those who love me, so I will not despise myself.
Because I have been loved well, I have the confidence and courage to face everything in the world with strength.
Because he has been loved well, he will be confident and feel that he deserves the best and deserves the best.
I have read the story of another girl. Because her parents favored sons over daughters, her mother always vented her dissatisfaction with the marriage on her: "What did I do to give birth to you, a bastard like you?" , while her grandparents were preoccupied with her cousin and turned a blind eye to her.
Later, my mother became pregnant again. Since she had no one to take care of her during the pregnancy, she was emotionally unstable and the treatment became even more severe. She would be beaten and scolded, which made her feel uncomfortable no matter what.
When she was 8 years old, she had thoughts of suicide for the first time. She often huddled in the corner of the stairs alone, secretly wiping her tears and never daring to cry out.
When she was in her senior year of high school, one day a classmate committed suicide by jumping off a building. This incident shocked her. She felt that she saw her own shadow in that classmate. Maybe she would be the next one...
Children who have been hurt by their original families are mostly full of low self-esteem and do not know the meaning of their lives. Because I have never been loved well, I never know that I am worthy of being loved.
When someone gives them a candy, they feel that this is the best thing and the best person in the world.
That’s why there are girls who are coaxed by small favors. They have never experienced the feeling of being truly loved, and it is difficult for them to confirm whether others love them.
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A writer once said: "Girls who have not been well loved by their parents are born desperadoes. Even if they are rich and noble, they still have nothing in their hearts."
Lu Yi once posted a blog post, in which there is a passage that says this : The meaning of parents' existence is not to give their children a comfortable and wealthy life, but when you think of your parents, your heart will be full of strength, you will feel the warmth, and you will have the courage and ability to overcome difficulties, so as to obtain True courage and freedom in life.
I hope all parents can have this kind of awareness, love their children well, and give them the best armor in life, so that they can live a happy life without fear of the wind and rain of life.
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