He was obviously kind to support poor college students, but the other party said that he was not even as good as a pet dog in Sun Li's mouth. Then a 6,000-word indictment pushed Sun Li to the forefront.

As the saying goes, " liter Mien, Doumi Qiu ".

: Something happened to Sun Li and , which well confirms this sentence.

was obviously kind to support poor college students, but the other party said that he was not even as good as in Sun Li's mouth. Then a 6,000-word indictment pushed Sun Li to the forefront.

Han Han also posted: " Ordinary people in the city are not allowed to raise large dogs . Why can Sun Li raise wolves in Shanghai? " After the incident of

was exposed, there were many different opinions, and people would also question whether kindness is worth it? Why do these people accept the help but are not grateful?

The starting point of things was in 2002.

That year, Sun Li was less than 20 years old and was a young man. She was still a little transparent in the entertainment industry.

But she accidentally saw a TV program called "Hope in the Mountains" . In it, a boy who looked over teenagers said shyly to the camera: " I want to continue studying and want to get out of the mountains! "

Their family's poverty is visible to the naked eye, and it is no exaggeration to say that it is penniless, but in such an empty room, the award full of walls is very shocking.

This boy is Xiang Haiqing, who comes from a mountainous area in Chongqing. It is difficult for poor families to support the medical expenses of a bedridden patient all year round, and the tuition fees of a student who has just been in the first year of high school.

Good luck seems to have finally favored their family. Sun Li, who was deeply moved, decided to sponsor Xiang Haiqing's learning, even if she is only 2 years older than Xiang Haiqing.

made this decision because she saw her from Xiang Haiqing's experience .

Sun Li was born in an ordinary working family in Shanghai. The family's conditions are pretty good. She has a good time to study, eats a lot, and can support her in learning dance.

The endless quarrel between parents made Sun Li feel scared, afraid that they would separate, and afraid that they would not want themselves.

But not long after, Sun Li's parents divorced and she was sentenced to her mother.

How difficult is a single mother? You can imagine how difficult it is. A person has to work to support his family and take care of his daughter.

In order to allow her daughter to continue her studies, Sun Li's mother had to work several jobs alone, working as a salesperson during the day and a cleaner at night.

The tired figure of her mother has also become the driving force for Sun Li to work hard. She must let her mother live a better life.

Later, she entered the entertainment industry and became an unknown young actor, and her mother finally did not have to work so hard.

And she sponsored Xiang Haiqing, which can also be said to sponsor the self who once depended on her mother. Because she had been wet from the rain, she had to hold an umbrella for others.

Sun Li had just debuted at the time, and her mother was still responsible for everything. She called her mother: "Mom, I want to sponsor a student to go to school."

Mom was very supportive of her daughter's decision. After all, this was a good thing to do good and accumulate virtue. She contacted the TV station in her own name and asked Xiang Haiqing's contact information.

However, what they did not expect was that a kind-hearted act would actually cause Sun Li to fall into a storm of public opinion. Xiang Haiqing openly shouted: " is going to destroy Sun Li ."

In 2006, Qiu Chaoju, the documentary reporter who once filmed "Hope in the Mountains", published a letter in his blog.

The author of this letter is Xiang Haiqing, a poor college student from the mountainous area. In the letter, he explained the ins and outs of his funding in detail, but the lines are filled with dissatisfaction with the sponsors , and he feels that the sponsors are too stingy.

He also said: "A star mother and daughter who once funded me stopped funding after I went to college and hurt me with words like "I only know how to reach out for money", "You are not as good as a pet dog"."

Xiang Haiqing did not name Sun Li's name in the letter, but used words such as "SL", " is in the rising period of career ", " is from Shanghai ", etc. to suggest the true identity of this "bends" female star.

This blog aroused heated discussions among netizens as soon as it was posted. There were more than 3,000 comments within 14 hours, and the identity of Sun Li and her daughter. Under Xiang Haiqing's intentional hint, it was naturally also revealed.

Can the big stars insult people like this? Netizens began to criticize Sun Li, scolded her for being petty and fake charity , and asked her to come out to give an explanation.

Sun Li's mother was directly angry and hospitalized after learning about this. Sun Li was also very painful: " I have been unable to figure it out, I really can't figure it out, I am helpless, my mother has insomnia, and I have insomnia too. "

Later, after fermentation, the matter became popular on the Internet, and even CCTV conducted two special reports to talk about this.

The famous writer Han Han directly posted: "Ordinary people are not allowed to raise large dogs in the city. Why can Sun Li raise wolves in Shanghai? " directly compared Xiang Haiqing to a white-eyed wolf.

Not long after, some people who claimed to be classmates at Xiang Haiqing University stood up and said: Xiang Haiqing's daily life does not look like someone who needs funding.

After many questions from reporters, Sun Li finally responded to this matter, and the matter of the two becoming enemies was finally revealed.

In 2002, Sun Li's mother Deng's mother personally contacted the program team and sent Xiang Haiqing 500 yuan. Living expenses. After

got the money, Xiang Haiqing's eyes became wet. He personally felt that "there is true love in the world" and vowed to study hard and never let down the hope of kind-hearted people.

then wrote a thank-you letter and sent it to Deng's mother, expressing his gratitude in the letter: " Thank you Aunt Deng for your support to me. This 500 yuan donation is a great support for me. From then on, I will not have to study while working, and finally have an environment where I can study seriously like other classmates. Thank you very much. "

Deng's mother and Sun Li read this letter together. They were moved by Xiang Hai's halal expression and thought he was really a good child. After

, in addition to 500 yuan per month, Deng's mother and Sun Li learned that Xiang Haiqing's mother suffered from asthma , so they often bought good-effect asthma medicines, clothes and other daily necessities from Shanghai and sent him one by one.

High school students have a lot of pressure to study, Sun Li and My mother was worried that Xiang Huaqing was nervous, so she often wrote letters to comfort him, encouraging him to apply for a university in a big city, and promised him to that he would bear all the tuition and miscellaneous fees of his university, , so that he could study with peace of mind to try to get a good grade.

may be too nervous, but perhaps it was other reasons. Xiang Huaqing failed the first college entrance examination and had no university to go to.

Just when he was discouraged, Sun Li and Deng's mother wrote letters to comfort him: "It doesn't matter if you fail once, it's good to come back again, but you have to go to school and have to walk out of the mountains. ”

and asked him about his well-being, he often sent him some learning materials that could not be bought in the mountains.

Even Qiu Chaoju had to admit that Sun Li and Deng's mother were really concerned about Xiang Haiqing. When he was taking the college entrance examination, Deng's mother could make 6 calls to him a day to care about his situation.

The second year, Xiang Huaqing successfully got into Shanghai Fisheries University .

Sun Li and Deng's mother were very happy when they found out. In order to facilitate his contact with his family, they specially bought him a mobile phone for him as his university gift.

After Xiang Haiqing came to Shanghai from home, Sun Li felt that it was time to meet this student who had sponsored for two or three years.The moment we met

, Xiang Haiqing finally realized that the one who had been sponsoring him was actually a big star! After

, Sun Li and Deng's mother took him to buy clothes and took him to visit Shanghai. On the day of school, Deng's mother sent him to the school. When they were separated, they said to him: " study hard, and after spending their living expenses, tell me ."

Sun Li did fulfill her promise and paid him tuition. She still had ,500 yuan in living expenses per month. Although the money was not much, it was indeed enough for a college student to spend at that time.

But slowly, a poor guy who came out of the countryside was fascinated by the big city with bright lights and wine, and was dissatisfied with the fact that he only had such a little living expenses a month.

After all, his sponsor is a big star and he is very rich. It is also worth spending more money on .

When the school started, Xiang Haiqing was appointed as the class monitor by the counselor, and later joined the student union for his good performance.

At that time, the classmates were relatively unfamiliar. Xiang Haiqing, as a student cadre, needed to contact classmates more and more times, and the corresponding phone calls were getting higher and higher. could even spend 90 yuan per month .

plus he spent 175 yuan to get the hepatitis B vaccine according to the school's requirements, and the 500 yuan was quickly spent. Xiang Haiqing called Aunt Deng nervously and asked her for some living expenses.

Considering the consumption level in big cities and the fact that it really needs to buy things just after school starts, Deng’s mother gave him another sum of money.

But slowly, Xiang Haiqing called to ask for money more and more frequently. Deng’s mother became suspicious and asked him: “ Have you encountered any difficulties? Why have you spent more and more money recently? ”

Xiang Haiqing confessed to her that he was a student cadre, and the phone bill was as high as 90 yuan per month. He thought the kind Aunt Deng would support him.

Unexpectedly, she said: " Since this work has affected your normal life, don't do it anymore. Let others do it. The most important thing you have to learn now. "

Xiang Haiqing complained a little about Aunt Deng and Sun Li. He slowly called them to report their learning situation much less, and then they asked for money.

Deng's mother gradually felt something was wrong, so she came to the school in person to check it out and asked the teacher Xiang Haiqing's specific situation. This time she went there, and only then did Deng's mother know what kind of life Xiang Haiqing lived in school.

At the beginning, Sun Li handed over 5,000 yuan of tuition fees to Xiang Haiqing, but he applied for a student loan of and a subsidy for poor students in . He also worked part-time at school every month.

In this way, plus the 500 yuan living expenses given by Sun Li are completely enough, but these are not enough for Xiang Hai Qinghua.

Xiang Haiqing called the tuition fee of 5,000 yuan given by Sun Li to the elderly and sick parents at home, hoping to do a little filial. Although he has a good heart, it is a bit inappropriate to take the money from others to help him go to school.

Deng's mother found out after inquiring again that he had made a girlfriend at in school, and was willing to spend money on his girlfriend. He only bought famous brands such as Adi Nike.

Only then did Deng's mother realize that the hard-working and motivated boy no longer existed. She tried to educate Xiang Haiqing as an elder, so that he could know that money is hard-won and that he should study hard.

But Xiang Haiqing had been blinded by money and could not listen at all. In early October, Sun Li called him 500 yuan, but he called him again 410 days later to ask for money .

In November 2005, Sun Li and her mother decided not to give Xiang Haiqing any funding in addition to tuition fees.

If you really let Xiang Haiqing ask for infinite demands for a promise, it will definitely cause him the illusion of being rich if you reach out, and this is really hurting him.

Xiang Haiqing felt that as a big star, he should unconditionally support me to finish college and bear all the expenses I spent during my college years.

After learning that he could no longer contact Sun Li and his daughter, Xiang Haiqing was completely panicked. He told all the difficulties he faced to the kind-hearted reporter Qiu Chaoju.

Qiu Chaoju did not want to use this incident to attract attention. Since 1997, he has been committed to public welfare and people's livelihood poverty alleviation projects , and often reports on the theme of mountains, calling on people to care more about people in the mountains.

In the documentary "Hope in the Mountains", Qiu Chaoju reported a total of 51 children, and Xiang Haiqing was one of the two sons who had always been in contact with him.

In his eyes, Sun Li and her daughter are both very caring and respectable, while Xiang Haiqing is polite but has strong self-esteem .

When I got the 6,000-word long letter written by Xiang Haiqing, Qiu Chaoju sighed and decided to put the letter on the Internet, hoping that this incident would arouse people's thinking:

"Why are the seeds of kindness borne by mutated fruits? How should a child in a child in a mountainous area treat social love? What kind of kindness is the best ending? Should love be paid be subject to conditions?

When Sun Li announced that she would stop funding for Xiang Haiqing in addition to tuition, there was a huge discussion on the Internet.

Some people think that Xiang Haiqing is a jealous wolf and is not worthy of continuing to fund, otherwise it would be harmful to him.

But also Some people think that charitable donations should not only stay at the material level, but should help him get out of trouble spiritually. Charitable donations should be a responsibility, not a very short-term behavior, and stop when encountering a flaw or negative feedback.

Some people also think that no matter what kind of character Xiang Haiqing's behavior and how much money he spends, since Sun Li decided to fund him, he should always fund him until graduation.

But donations are a personal choice. No matter how much money a person has, he has no obligation to help others indefinitely; no one is qualified to seek help from others without restrictions.

Sun Li later responded again: " I hope he can focus on his studies, and I hope the media will not promote this matter too much. ”