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Yang Jiang in "A New Year's Eve", "God will not concentrate all happiness on someone. Getting love may not necessarily have money; having money may not necessarily get happiness; getting happiness may not necessarily have health; having health may not necessarily get everything will come true."
After the age of fifty, look down on gains and losses, look down on gatherings and separations, look forward to life's success or failure, look forward to life's ups and downs, keep a contented mentality, live well, and stop begging yourself.
Happiness is actually very simple, that is, keep a happy mood, learn to please yourself, make yourself happy every day, face everything in life with a tolerant heart, be calm in your heart, and be cheerful in your life.
Life is short, and it will grow old in a flash. We must live our lives and be determined. Don’t let ourselves be wronged.
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2 years ago, an aunt in her fifties named Su Min.
She has not felt happy at home for a long time, and has even suffered from cold violence from her husband for a long time, etc. The reason why she did not divorce was because of her children.
Until her fifties, her daughter got married, and then she bravely chose to escape from her marriage and start her new life.
She saved money silently, bought a car, and then started her journey alone, feeling unprecedented ease and happiness.
please others at home, suffers so much grievances, but still doesn't take it seriously. I have suppressed myself for a long time, and only after I was fifty, I chose to live for myself.
She drove alone and went to many places, filmed videos and received advertisements by herself, and made money while traveling, and lived a free and easy life.
Once, at the invitation of her daughter, her husband still didn't give her a good face, and even looked down on her, and even threw bowls and chopsticks in front of her daughter's grandchildren.
Su Min left home for two years and went home for the first time. The man still had no change. He was extremely desperate. After thinking for a long time, he chose to file for divorce.
Some people can never change, and you don’t have to try to change it. It doesn’t matter if you live to this age. It’s quite nourishing to live by yourself. If you really can’t live, don’t be wronged.
Those who cherish you will definitely not abuse you, and those who truly love you will definitely not let you suffer grievances. For those who cannot change, forget it, whether it is your lover or your relatives and friends, if you suffer all your grievances, you should stay away as soon as possible.
After the age of fifty, we don’t know how long there is to go on for the rest of our lives. However, we must live for ourselves for the rest of our lives. Don’t shed tears for the unworthy people, don’t be entangled for bad people, stay away from right and wrong, don’t please others, but live for yourself once.
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0 Life is just spring, summer, autumn and winter. Half of your life has passed in a blink of an eye. Life is just a few decades. After decades, we all return to the dust and the soil. So, don’t be too wronged when you live, live as you are happy, live well, take every step of your life, live in the present, don’t think too much, and the others will go with the wind.
"Forrest Gump " says: "I don't think that mental maturity is becoming more and more tolerant, and everything is acceptable. On the contrary, I think that should be a process of gradual elimination. Knowing what is most important to you, what is not important, and then being a simple person."
After the age of fifty, we have all entered middle age, experienced many things, and have seen many people clearly. When people live, they gradually understand a lot of the truth of life. No longer act passionately to please others, and no longer let ourselves live wronged. In fact, the most advanced way of living in life.
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, why do people live so unhappy and so aggrieved? It's just that I'm too contented, caring too much, and cater to it.
We often overestimate our relationship with others and think that others will be really good to us, but after we give our hearts with enthusiasm, we can't get sincerity, and then we gradually see clearly.
We often feel good to others because we are good to others, but the greater the expectations, the easier it is to feel wronged.
We often give love and efforts to others, and always think about others, but others have not considered themselves, and then we realize that it turns out that it is just a self-indulgent.
People come and go, and living for themselves is the most important thing. Don’t overestimate any relationship, even if it’s your pillow.
I remembered a word called "middle-aged girl", which means that middle-aged women still maintain their love for life in their busy lives, know how to love themselves, please themselves, heal themselves, and live in the way they like.
In fact, when people reach middle age, they have lost their youthful aging and their personality has gradually matured. They have entered the second half of their lives through ups and downs. On the road to getting older, we must treat ourselves kindly and live confidently and calmly.
As Mr. Yang Jiang said, the most graceful scenery in life is the calmness and calmness in the heart.
So, after the age of fifty, we should stop giving in, stop begging ourselves, treat ourselves kindly, and live well.
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