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Recently, there is a news that has become popular all over the Internet, namely the news that Hua Chenyu and Zhang Bichen gave birth to unweds.
At the very beginning, a netizen posted a message on the Internet, claiming that a certain star in the entertainment industry already has a child. At that time, people didn't know who the star was, so many netizens were in the guessing stage.
But before long, Huahua (Hua Chenyu) claimed the news on his Weibo, saying that he was the star. When this statement was made, everyone was in an uproar. After all, Hua Chenyu has a lot of fans. , But no one has ever heard of this news, not even a little bit of clues.
However, although the fans of Huahua were shocked, they were still quite sensible, and there was no serious phenomenon of defloration. Instead, they gave Huahua a sincere blessing. After
, the other protagonist of the incident, Zhang Bichen, also posted a detailed summary of the matter on Weibo.
It is reported that in 2018, Zhang Bichen found out that she was pregnant, so she quietly broke up with Huahua, preparing to face this upcoming life alone.
She didn't tell Huahua the reason for breaking up, she just left quietly. She spent the entire pregnancy on her own and successfully completed the childbirth. The healthy birth of the child was in this world.
Later, Zhang Bichen realized his mistake. After all, the child was born in an incomplete family, which would definitely affect the growth of the child, so Zhang Bichen told Huahua the truth.
And Huahua didn't evade her responsibility in the slightest, but was very happy, so together with Zhang Bichen, she gave the child a household registration and made an appointment to make the child happy.
Indeed, although Huahua and Zhang Bichen are still unmarried ,But this child is loved by two people.
Not only that, the child's grandparents and grandparents also favor the child, and there is no strange emotion to the child because of the illegitimate birth.
Judging from the current situation, the growth environment of this child (it is said to be named Hua Yingchen) is relatively optimistic, although he did not come into contact with the father's love when he was born, but can only experience the mother's love.
However, the child's autonomy has not yet been established in infancy, so although it has a certain impact, the impact is not very large.
And now, the child has both parents, and the elderly from the two families are also doubly loved. It can be said that although the child gave birth out of wedlock, there is no lack of family warmth, and he will definitely grow up healthily.
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However, not all illegitimate children will have such an optimistic growth environment.
In ordinary real society, children born out of wedlock are not uncommon, but often these children cannot have the perfect growth environment like Hua Yingchen.
Normally, these ordinary illegitimate children can only live in single-parent families and cannot experience the complete family living environment, which will have a great impact on the children.
So, don't let an innocent little life easily pay for the mistakes of your parents.
Weakening the emotional trust of the child
Children born out of wedlock, mostly living in a fragile family environment, the child only has a mother but no father. Therefore, as children gradually become sensible, they will gradually develop a sense of distrust of sensibility.
Because in children’s minds, parents are actually the ones who trust and care about themselves the most. However, the living environment of single parents gradually makes children understand that even the fetters of life cannot stabilize their relationship.Then the child will lose hope in the relationship and become distrustful of the relationship.
This kind of distrust involves not only family relationships, but also friendship, love, and so on. Children will become distrustful of all their feelings because of their incomplete childhood.
This is actually a self-protection behavior of a child, because the child does not want to suffer emotional traps and trauma like a mother.
Prone to feeling of inferiority
Children living in a family with only mothers, and not being loved by their father, will gradually develop inferiority. Because my friends and classmates all have complete families.
Children will feel that they are not on the same starting line with others. They feel that without the support of their father, they will have no backing to rely on, and their heart will be full of panic and will be seriously insecure.
A sense of security is very important to the growth of a child. It is the foundation for supporting children’s various abilities and psychological development. Without a sense of security, children will cringe when they grow up. It is difficult to gain confidence and to be positive Treat external factors.
abnormal gender concept
In addition to the above problems, an important growth problem that children need to face is gender concept.
Because children often live with their mothers, and their fathers are not involved in their lives, they will lack a lot of father education links, which will lead to a wrong understanding and understanding of gender concepts.
For example, a boy has been living with his mother, and his daily life, speech behavior, etc. are all imitated and learned according to his mother's behavior.
and usually receive the mother's soft education, you may become feminine and lose the masculinity that a boy should have. This may cause a long-term negative impact on the child.
In order to prevent children from being affected by these problems,Therefore, parents of children born out of wedlock should take up their responsibilities, especially fathers who do not bear the task of giving birth.
illegitimate children must also have a complete family
In the treatment of illegitimate children, in fact, if possible, both parents of illegitimate children should be like Huahua and Zhang Bichen.
Although the two are not married, they are able to give the child enough love, and the older generations of both parties also agree with the child, so that the child can get complete love in the process of growing up and grow up healthily.
Of course, this situation is generally difficult to achieve, after all, two people do not get married, usually because of some unacceptable reasons.
However, although two people cannot treat their children like Huahua and Zhang Bichen, they can at least be raised together in stages, so that the children will not lack motherly or fatherly love as they grow up.
For example, parents can raise their children alternately, go out together on weekends, and participate in school-organized activities with their children.
Although parents do not live together, they can create a complete and healthy growth environment for their children. It may be lacking, but it is better than letting the child live in a single parent family.
And if the father of an illegitimate child is unwilling to take this responsibility, the last way is to find a suitable father for the child and re-organize a complete family so that the child can live in a happy family. In the atmosphere, so as to obtain healthy growth.
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