Deng Chao and Sun Li can be described as celebrity couples in the entertainment industry. They not only love the loving daily life between them, but they are also very popular in the education of a pair of children.
Sun Li posted several "thank you" Weibo on his son's birthday, expressing his love for the child. Those who follow Sun Li will find that her son and so on are also veritable " little warm men ".
When he sees his father Deng Chao’s mouth blistering, he will carefully tell his father to eat pears to reduce the fire; his sister will also prepare surprises for the mother who comes home from get off work~
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He cares about the health of his parents. knows that his parents love him, he also understands the meaning of love, and expresses gratitude to his parents in practical actions.
Sun Li’s family of four is probably the most correct family education model- mutual gratitude .
We are grateful for the arrival of our children. At the same time, cultivates children to have a grateful heart, which is also a "compulsory course" for parents.
A child who knows how to be grateful, not only filial to his parents, but also considerate to others, always feels and embraces the whole world with humility;
, on the contrary, a child who does not know how to be grateful is the greatest sorrow of a family, which may be unknowingly Cultivated a "white-eyed wolf". The best education for
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is to teach children how to be grateful
Yin Jianli once told a warm story in the book "A Good Mother Is Better than a Good Teacher". Every Christmas at
, she and her husband prepare surprises and gifts from Santa Claus for her daughter Yuanyuan. This holiday has become another "Children's Day" for Yuanyuan.
Yuanyuan is both curious and looking forward to Christmas gifts every year. As he grows older, more and more clues remind him who Santa Claus is.
Children always grow up, and fairy tales always disappear. This secret has become a tacit joy between parents and children.
Santa Claus who comes every day also made Yuanyuan deeply feel the love of her parents and taught her how to bring happiness and surprise to others. On the birthday of a good friend of
, she will carefully choose gifts;
will occasionally create a little romantic mood to give dad surprises;
’s mother’s birthday, she will deliberately take the bus to buy a bunch of carnations as a gift for her mother. The best education of
is not to teach children how to win, but how to love and how to give back to others with gratitude.
Just like a heart-warming video on Weibo a few days ago, a mother took two children across the road, and the bus captain showed courtesy to pedestrians. When
walked to the middle of the road, my mother bowed to the driver and thanked the driver. One of the little boys bowed to thank the driver like an adult. The small appearance made people warm across the screen.
We often say: Education is that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul awakens another soul.
Parents who know how to be grateful are the best guides for their children. A child who knows how to be grateful is like a beam of warm light, always comforting and comforting the parents every day and night.
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give
blindly to give birth to a grateful child
Shakespeare wrote in "King Lear": " ungrateful children, more painful than the teeth of a viper. "
reality is as Shakespeare said. , The behavior of some children is really chilling. Some time ago, some netizens broke the news that a girl at might kick her mother six feet because of the wrong subway ride. In the video, the mother carried her luggage in large and small bags, while the girl beside her with empty hands repeatedly kicked the suitcase with her feet, and then kicked her mother many times. The passerby on the side of
couldn't stand it, and stepped forward to block it. The girl actually tried to beat the passerby. What's even more frustrating is that the mother on the side kept saying "I'm sorry" to the child throughout the whole process to calm her emotions.
We often say that kneeling parents cannot teach standing children. Giving blindly will only raise selfish children.
Parents are blindly pampered, not in exchange for the gratitude of the children, but more intensified to ask for it.
A middle-aged couple in a neighbor’s family got a son, and they hurt the childLove is superfluous and obedient. The meal is always blown cold and delivered to the child's mouth, and the meat is always picked from the tenderest part and served separately to the child.
once went to the neighbor's house to catch up with the meal, and the mother finally coaxed the child to the dinner table.
Who knows that the child spit out a bite of the dish immediately, and fell into a rage: " is this dish so hot! "
The mother next to
quickly apologized and comforted the child to sit down, her face bursts of embarrassment and sadness It hasn't faded for a long time.
"Parents in the world, if you love your child, you must let him start to love you and the people around you when he can do his best. This is by no means selfishness of adults, but a vision for the sake of your child."-Bi Shumin
The greatest sorrow of the family is not poverty or quarreling, but raising a child who does not understand gratitude.
Don't treat spoiling as affection, don't treat pampering as nurturing.
Your so-called hard work is just what you deserve to pay. Love without a "scale" can not teach children to be grateful, but just endless "requests."
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Parents are the mirror of their children
Nietzsche said: "Gratefulness is the health of the soul." Behind every child who knows how to be grateful, there are parents who know how to educate. Let children learn to be grateful, what can parents do?
1. It is better to teach by example
. Everyone’s childhood memories include a short film called "Washing the Feet for Mother".
Mom washes his son's feet before going to bed, and then washes his mother's feet again. This plot makes the child see. At a young age, he called his mother a basin of footwashing water, and the childish voice "Mom, wash your feet", the child also washed his mother's feet for the first time. Although
is a short film nearly 20 years ago, it still seems to be moving.
Love and gratitude are energy that can be transmitted to each other. No matter how much you speak, it can only fall into the child's ears. Only by doing it yourself can it be portrayed into the child's eyes. When parents say and do, their children are fascinated.
2. Make full use of festivals to create a sense of ceremony
In the Weibo of Deng Chao and Sun Li, there are gifts for New Year, Valentine's Day, Christmas, anniversaries, as well as the birthdays of every family member, and every big and small holiday.
In such a loving atmosphere, the children have gradually learned to express their love to their parents without hesitation.
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Sun Li’s birthday, and so on, I didn’t miss all the places where I could write blessings, and generously gave the pocket money I saved to my mother; my sister drew a lot of pictures for her, and put on her favorite Clothes accompany mom to dinner.
In family education, the "sense of ceremony" is a very important thing. We want our children to know: because of love, we are together; because of gratitude, we are so happy.
3. Learn to let go
"You just need to study hard, and everything else will be arranged for you." Words like this can often be heard from parents.
The beloved son of parents, the most detailed. As everyone knows, the blindly arranged party kidnapped the child invisibly, making him take it all "for granted."
Blindly sacrifice is not love. The real education is to learn to let go and cultivate children's independence.
Let the child do some things, such as simply taking care of his daily life, such as doing housework within his capacity.
Another "parenting master" Ying Cai'er revealed in the show that Jasper has been helping with housework since he was a child: washing his underwear when he was young, helping with dishes, lay hands and so on when he grew up.
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realizes the difficulty of parents in practice, and lets children learn to be grateful in details.
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The purpose of gratitude is not to repay
100 years ago, Mr. Hu Shi once reflected in the letter: "We gave birth to him, only sorry, how can we talk about kindness." Z1z
really good parents, never need to be sensible and filial to kidnap children. The most important thing for parents and children is a journey of "accompaniment."
In the fading back view, what parents can do is not kidnap the child and keep him with him; not make him feel ashamedGuilt, how to repay the kindness of parenting.
Parents should give their children unlimited love. Let him know how to be grateful, know how to cherish, be kind to himself, and be kind to others.
Only in this way, children can enjoy love and be loved freely, and become a warm person in the complex and ordinary world.
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