, chairman of the Compassionate Women's Growth Reading Club, Wei Na pays tribute:
has a topic often discussed: that is, how to know yourself? In fact, from women’s reproductive autonomy, the right to education, housework to women’s gender discrimination in the workplace, you will find that sometimes not dragging women down is actually giving them wings to fly. To enhance women's cognition is to enhance human cognition.
The best way to find yourself is to enhance your cognition, which is to read, travel, see, and think. It is difficult for us to define who we are, but we can continue to meet ourselves as we grow.
At first, he might be vague. But on the road of exploration, our difficulties, pains, and ups and downs are all ways to meet ourselves. When you encounter real life heavily, it will make you know yourself better.
Therefore, there is no need to be afraid of bumps, no need to worry about fear. Go forward and you will meet a better you.
Author: cornices
long ago, "Dear own," ushered in the finale.
Li Siyu finally succeeded in starting a business, but she and Chen Yiming did not get back together;
Zhang Zhizhi finally chose to be independent and successful in her career. She still did not agree to the request of her ex-husband to remarry; the
sisters finally became themselves.
saw this ending, netizens shouted: "The screenwriter is amazing!"
"Dear Myself" shows the confusion of women in the workplace and love to the fullest, but as a result, there is no pair of lovers who are happy. That's why the audience feels "unreasonable".
And actors Liu Shishi and Kan Qingzi also posted "Farewell" on Weibo:
hopes that each of us will take good care of our "dear selves" and be relieved of the past to have the courage to start again.
This drama is not sweet, but a bit bitter, but very real.
From them, we see ourselves more or less, and the inner hearts we didn't express are all explained by this drama. After savoring
carefully, we will find that, in fact, their decisions have reached the same goal by different paths: people are on the way to find themselves throughout their lives.
Choosing oneself is not to choose loneliness, but
is the first step on the road to consummation.
In "Dear Myself", how cowardly Zhang Zhizhi is in the front, how hearty Zhang Zhizhi is in the back.
The transformation she can see with the naked eye tells us a truth: in an unequal marriage, the lower a woman is in the dust, the harder it is to stand up. When
first appeared on the stage, Zhang Zhizhi was a "gentle and forbearing" woman image:
took care of her husband, tolerated her mother-in-law, worked hard for the children, and at the same time took care of her own work, so busy that she had no time for her own, let alone Say that you pay attention to your heart.
And her husband Liu Yang not only doesn't care about anything, but also accuses Zhang Zhizhi of improperly doing things. What's more, not only does not repent after being derailed, but also waved her in front of Xiaosan.
Faced with her husband's disgust and betrayal, Zhizhi did not have the courage to resist, and could only endure silently, and continued to wrong herself in this sick marriage.
Fortunately, after experiencing the torment in her heart and the tempering of life, she finally understands that only by being strong and not dependent on anyone financially and spiritually can she lead a happy life.
has a good saying:
"We are to get rid of the expectations of others throughout our lives and find who we are."
Zhang Zhizhi, who has experienced a failed marriage, finally sees this point clearly, and finally bravely faces her heart. , Began to break through the cocoon and rebirth:
when Liu Yang whispered to her to change her mind, she chose to turn around;
she found a career that fully demonstrated her abilities, became a sales manager, and was also the boss of the junior, she could express herself confidently Likes, dislikes and dislikes, you can choose freely, willing to let yourself go, or forgive others...
But these are not more important, the most important thing is that she has recovered her inner strength.
That is the key to a woman's happiness, and it is also the beginning of her consummation.
This is an awakened woman. From the beginning she was willing to be a housewife until her husband cheated.No less than marriage, and then finally realized that "women must be themselves", Zhang Zhizhi successfully embraced "dear self".
You will be lonely only when the embrace cannot replace the embrace of the soul, but Zhang Zhizhi will not.
In this world, there should not be only men and marriage as the only choice. A woman with a lack of heart sees only housework, husband and children in the world.
is full of heart and spirit, only then has the courage to start at any time and the confidence to say "no" at any time.
Consummation in life is given by myself.
The courage to start again without disturbing the past
Zhang Zhizhi reminded me of a former colleague who also experienced the pain and hesitation of losing love, and finally chose to turn against the wind.
She graduated from university, was assigned to a state-owned unit, has a stable job, and a boyfriend who talks about marriage. If nothing else, she will continue her stable life along this path.
did not expect that when he was about to get married, his boyfriend suddenly changed his mind.
Not reconciled, she ran to her boyfriend's unit to find trouble. Particularly persistent, we must ask clearly: why? What's wrong with me!
Everyone persuade her, what can we do if you ask clearly? Do you expect a man who has decided to turn his head back?
She didn't listen, so many tears shed at night, and how much hostility she quarreled during the day. That kind of unwillingness can't be resolved anyway. The ex-boyfriend of
avoided seeing him at first, then he avoided it for fear.
struggled for a long time, her mother came all the way from her hometown to persuade her daughter, saying:
"What you have to do now is to gnash your teeth and live out yourself. Instead of pinning your hopes on a man."
is plain and straightforward. , But like a divine initiation, awakened her.
she finally calmed down, she wrote something like this in the circle of friends:
I can no longer let sadness lead me by the nose, no longer entangled, but also can not go back to the past, the invisible future, I will renew Start.
Finally, she resolutely left her stable position, chose the business she had always liked, and started her own business.
She found a product that was relatively lacking on the market at that time, and made it herself in a small factory. At first, I could only lease counters in large shopping malls for consignment. As my economic capacity increased, I opened my own small shop. In the past ten years, it has developed steadily. The small shop has expanded into a large shop, and the large shop has opened branches.
She succeeded in achieving financial freedom. All the past events, all the sadness, embarrassment, and dissatisfaction, all turned into soft white wings behind her, shining brightly.
It turns out that everything that makes you painful in life will show its meaning later.
Just as Kan Qingzi said: "All the ups and downs and experiences are the talk of living today."
bid farewell to the bad self, and don't disturb the past, only then can I have the courage to start again.
people really yearn for,
has been constantly surpassing themselves
Huang Yi has been frequently searched recently. As an actor,
hasn't produced any work for a long time. In the past period, the audience seemed to pay more attention to her private life, but now, she wants to continue "walking this way", so she came to the stage of "Actors Please Take Your Place". Among the instructors under the
stage, Zhao Wei, the first generation of "Little Swallow" of "Huanzhugege" is sitting.
The audience sighed: The two generations of "Little Swallows" are rarely in the same frame. One is a mentor off the stage and the other is a player on the stage. Their status is very different.
However, what we applaud for Huang Yi is not only her strength and acting skills, but also her courage to move forward in a difficult and hopeless life and constantly surpass her.
As everyone knows, Huang Yi has experienced two unsatisfactory marriages. Because of her ex-husband's constant harassment, her reputation was damaged, her career was "dragged", and she lost many appointments and cooperation. In the eyes of many people, the representative of "a good hand is broken".
Now she is back on the stage, trying to win back the broken cards again and again. Huang Yi himself also said:
has missed the wedding on
, and has hit the south wall, but I don’t want to be the first waveOn the beach, so I want to make waves with you on this stage.
Everyone is working hard for their dreams; there are different possibilities in life, as long as you believe and you do it, this process is something that you will not regret.
is just as she said: If you are not satisfied, life may be born again from despair. The deepest regret of
is not that he failed to get what he wanted, but that he never did what he wanted and kept surpassing himself.
The so-called living up to this life,
is never to find someone you can rely on,
is to find the best self.
Each of us wants to find our own meaning in this world.
Many people are tired of rushing, but they never look into their hearts, where they want to go.
But no matter the road is rugged or unobstructed, no matter the world is rough or smooth, the scenery we most want to encounter is actually the strong and best self.
first find yourself before you can find the world.
For the rest of your life, I hope you will be a person with abundance of soul, full of energy, and a clear heart, with light in your eyes, love in your heart, and never forget yourself.
