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sing singer Cong Fei
"No one remembers the bones in the spring anymore, only the world loves forever." has no standard, but singer Cong Fei gave the world a vivid interpretation with his 32-year short life.
He is from Shenyang, Liaoning Province. He became famous in 1994. He has many fans but is indifferent to fame and fortune. He is with charity for his whole life. However, when his career was at its peak, he was diagnosed with gastric cancer .
Five years later, his wife Xing Dan was unexpectedly left with him. Both the couple passed away, leaving only a pair of children and young.
How did they meet in the first place? Now that 16 years have passed, what happened to their children?
Cong Fei and Xing Dan
Booming the blue
When she received the word "stomach cancer" on Cong Fei's condition report, Xing Dan was already four months pregnant. Her hand holding the report list was trembling continuously.
stared at the four words "latest stage of gastric cancer" on the white paper, Xing Dan remained motionless, as if his soul had been withdrawn.
The doctor looked at Xing Dan nervously, afraid that she would be too excited and hurt her body. The staff next to
also held her arms tightly to maintain balance and prevent her from falling down with weak legs. There is already a bad news that pregnant women can’t have any more accidents.
In fact, considering Xing Dan's physical condition, the hospital has tried its best to conceal this news.
She asked, and the attending physician only said it was an ordinary gastric ulcer . However, the condition suddenly worsened and could no longer hide it, so she had to tell the truth.
Xing Dan pushed the staff away and said with a numb face that he wanted to look at Cong Fei alone. She walked slowly to the ward and saw Cong Fei was asleep before quietly entering.
sat beside him, remembering that when Cong Fei just learned that she had a baby, he said that he would take time to spend a honeymoon with her. He has ignored her in the past few years of busyness, hoping that he could have a time for two people who only belong to each other and make up for the apology that he could not be with him all the time.
Thinking of this, Xing Dan stroked Cong Fei's pale and thin face, and tears poured down instantly. Xing Dan buried his head many times to stabilize his emotions, but they all ended in failure. But she was afraid that Cong Fei would hear it and did not let out a sob.
Cong Fei slowly opened his eyes, and then raised his eyes and saw his wife crying in front of him.
She quickly wiped away her tears: "It's okay, maybe it's because of the unstable mood during pregnancy. I remembered a lot of the past, so I was sad for a while."
Cong Fei laughed when he heard her say this: "I guess I'm about to be discharged from the hospital. I'll be with you. Cook for you."
Xing Dan held the corner of his mouth, buried his head again, feeling the thick palm of his husband on his head, and the tears collapsed.
This is how life is. There are not many things that go against your wishes, but many things go against your wishes.
Before meeting Xing Dan, Cong Fei was a professional singer with strong professional ability and great singing skills. He was liked by the audience in every performance. When it comes to him, people always give him a thumbs up and praise him for his talent in singing.
However, Cong Fei did not use people's love for him to make money, but instead focused his energy on charity, which is also one of the reasons why Xing Dan liked him.
Why can’t fate be nicer to him? Xing Dan felt wronged for him.
Cong Fei started charity in the spring of 1994. He went to Chengdu to participate in a voluntary performance with the theme of "Children Out of School Return to School", which coincided with the organizer at that time conducting a fundraising event.
After learning about the situation, Cong Fei donated all the 2,400 yuan hesitantly to the local out-of-school children.
When he sees the out-of-school children returning to school and the life problems of those with disabilities are solved, he will be sincerely happy, more satisfied than using them for himself.
Others have money to do charity, Cong Fei is different. He worked hard to make money for charity.
With the development of charity, Cong Fei's frequency of participating in performances is gradually increasing. Everyone always says that he wants to make a quick money while he is famous and popular. Faced with everyone's doubts, he did not make any statement or explanation.
He wrote in his diary:
"In the face of everyone's misunderstandings, I can't say anything, because what I do is not for hype, nor is it to attract popularity and gain fame. I just hope that more children can get help. Whether they know or not or not, it doesn't matter."
Fortunately, there are sober spectators in the rumors. Some people have noticed that according to Cong Fei's performance frequency at that time, his annual income is about 100,000. But every time I see him, I feel that he is still very poor.
The clothes are very neat, but it can be seen that they have faded due to excessive cleaning times, and the shoes have not been replaced for a long time.
Everyone saw it and was puzzled in their hearts. Only the staff around Cong Fei knew that Cong Fei seemed to have a lot of income whenever he participated in the performance, but in fact the money did not improve his personal living conditions.
Among the people who received Cong Fei's help, the disabled person Hu Shici really gained a different life because of him.
seeds grew flowers
Cong Fei and Hu Shici came from a coincidence.
The performance held in Hanshou County in 1998 was not originally within his work plan, but because the original person refused to give up the performance, Cong Fei temporarily arranged for Hanshou .
Here he met Hu Shici, who was unable to walk on his legs due to illness when he was young. Seeing that he had to beg for a living due to difficulties in life, Cong Fei took out tens of thousands of yuan in cash on the spot, encouraging him to insist on literary creation and not give up halfway.
His vision is right. Many years later, Hu Shici really made great achievements in literature. He became the editor-in-chief of the magazine "Character Changde" and also became the chairman of the advertising planning company.
Hu Shici
But when Hu Shici went to this friend who was very kind and wanted to say thank you, the old friend had already passed away due to illness. Those words of encouragement dissipated in the wind.
Hu Shici is not the only disabled person that Cong Fei has helped. After returning from Hanshou, Cong Fei performed many charity performances and donated all the 200,000 ticket revenue.
He also turned down the scheduled performance in order to prepare for the fundraising event, and even paid the organizer a huge liquidated damages. He never regretted this.
A successful career age, in early spring of 2003, Xing Dan met Cong Fei.
At that time, Xing Dan had just graduated and worked at the branch of China Southern Airlines in Shenzhen. Xing Dan is straightforward and enthusiastic, has a wealthy family, tall and beautiful person. Many men around her admire her, and even more so, they pursue her hard.
But Xing Dan didn't take these people seriously. Everyone in the family hoped that she could find her "Prince Charming" soon, but she never thought it was until she met Cong Fei.
Due to work reasons, Cong Fei often travels on business trips and mostly takes China Southern Airlines planes, so he and Xing Dan also met because of this.
The first time he saw her, Cong Fei was deeply attracted, but he felt very inferior.
One because he divorced his first wife and took a child, and the other is that he is a few years older than Xing Dan, so he dare not show his love when he met many times.
In fact, Xing Dan had known him for a long time. After several contacts, Xing Dan discovered that Mr. Cong Fei is not only talented in music, but also a very caring and socially responsible person.
He often participates in charity activities and charity performances. This kind of personality charm made Xing Dan gradually move his heart. Unexpectedly, the person who was in love with each other and finally opened his mouth to poke the window paper first was Xing Dan.
The moment he heard her confession, Cong Fei was initially excited, and then it became a worry that could not be ignored. This time he did not accept Xing Dan's confession.
But then Cong Fei was confused. He thought of Xing Dan's shy expression when he spoke, and he secretly regretted it. He said it against his will.
Later, Cong Fei mustered up the courage to call Xing Dan. Unexpectedly, after he confessed everything, Xing Dan did not dislike him and said that he would treat Ruirui as his own.
Cong Fei held the phone in his hand and felt overjoyed. He had been walking on the road of spreading love, and now he finally got love.
At first, Xing Dan's parents did not agree with this union. They could not understand why a young girl chose a married man. However, due to Xing Dan's persistence, after contacting him, he found that Cong Fei had a very good character, so he agreed.
After the two got married, Xing Dan became the virtuous support behind Cong Fei, and Cong Fei was able to devote more energy to charity performances and charity.
2003 SARS was raging in Guangdong, and Cong Fei's income dropped sharply, and even the charity that had been carried out was once terminated.
But the tuition fees for children cannot be cut off, so Cong Fei will perform a lot as soon as he seizes the performance opportunities in other regions, in order to prepare more tuition fees for children.
During his work, he often went on stage to perform hard without eating, which also laid the root of his "stomach cancer".
Since then, Cong Fei has visited poor mountainous areas in Yunnan, Guizhou, Sichuan and other places more than 20 times, adopting multiple children who cannot go to school, with a total donation of more than 3 million yuan. Many children affectionately call him "Dad Cong".
He thought of all the poor children, but fell on the eve of seeing his children grow up.
Leave
In 2004, Cong Fei fell ill and went to the hospital due to overwork. He stayed in the hospital for more than 20 days before he recovered. Before he was discharged from the hospital, the doctor told Cong Fei not to consume his body anymore and to pay attention to rest.
But after he went back, he did not listen to the doctor and still worked hard as usual.
helps more and more people, and the outflow of funds is getting bigger and bigger. He even owes a lot of foreign debts and donates all the income from commercial performances.
Sometimes when he has dinner with his friends, he will calculate how long this meal will last for a child. Friends all say that he is "infatuated" in charity.
In just one year, Cong Fei was diagnosed with gastric cancer and was admitted to the hospital again.
Cong Fei was also worried about the children in the mountains in the hospital, tossing and turning, worried day and night. At this time, he only knew that he was sick and did not know that he had been diagnosed with gastric cancer.
Some parents who don’t understand the inside story even called the hospital and questioned Cong Fei:
"You promised that we will always support our children. Do you want to regret it halfway?"
Cong Fei listened to the parents’ anxious tone and said apologetically:
"I’m sorry, I’m sick. Now in the hospital, I really can’t raise money for you."
Cong Fei finished speaking, the parents immediately hung up the phone, and the cold calling was heartbreaking.
Time passed day by day, Cong Fei's physical condition has not improved, but has become weaker and weaker. Cong Fei still thought that after he was discharged from the hospital, he would have to save tuition for the children.
But the news cannot be hidden. He finally realized that he had "stomach cancer".
At this time, he was still immersed in the joy of becoming a father every day and wanted to be a father. When he heard this news, his first reaction was: Xing Dan's child could not be born.
If he leaves, Xing Dan can marry a good man without children. If she has children, she will have to live with her children alone. It's so hard.
Xing Dan heard his suggestion and firmly disagreed. She insisted on giving birth to the child. Many friends around her advised her to give up her child out of kindness, but Xing Dan didn't listen to anyone.
"We love each other in this life. This child is the trace of me who left it on the earth for you."
Every day since then, Xing Dan is looking forward to his lover Cong Fei who can persist in seeing the birth of the child. Finally, at the end of 2005, their daughter Xiao Feifei was born.
Cong Fei lay on the hospital bed, looking at the daughter in his wife's arms, rubbing the child's face with regret, gratitude and happiness were beyond words.
One day after Xiao Feifei was half a year old, Cong Fei seemed to have a sense of emotion, knowing that his deadline was approaching, and he couldn't bear to let his lover face such a scene of separation from life and death.
So that morning he told Xing Dan that he really wanted to eat canned food, but Xing Dan said without hesitation: "Okay, you wait for me to buy it."
He looked at his wife's back and closed his eyes.
"I love you, you have to remember me." This is the last sentence in Cong Fei's suicide note.
Dead people bring great sorrow to the living, stacking like waves. Memories are always the most tormenting.
After handling Cong Fei's aftermath, Xing Dan took over Cong Fei's volunteer number "2478", continuing the charity he fought for throughout his life.
2011 is the fifth year of Cong Fei's death. On the way back to Shenzhen from Huizhou , Xing Dan was riding in a car hit by three unemployed people with stones. He died of intracranial injuries and failed rescue.
The rose that once bloomed in Cong Fei's heart withered unexpectedly.
Xing Dan's death brought about a huge social response, and the two children became orphans.
Everyone was worried about where the child would go in the future. In the end, Xing Dan's friend Feng Changhong decided to adopt Xiao Feifei. The Shenzhen authorities also launched the "Orphan Care Plan" and decided to raise Cong Fei's daughter until she was 22 years old.
The writer Hu Shici, who Cong Fei once sponsored, often visited his old friend's beloved daughter after becoming the editor-in-chief and gave a lot of money to Xiao Feifei.
"Whoever loves comes back, and those who go blessings come back." Everything Cong Fei and Xing Dan gave never dissipated.
Now, Xiao Feifei has grown into a graceful little girl, looking very much like her mother Xing Dan, and she works very hard in her studies. Her teachers and classmates like her very much. Feng Changhong also often shares Xiao Feifei’s recent situation on social media.
Speaking of her wishes when she grew up, Xiao Feifei said that she wanted to be an interpreter in the future, go to more places and see a bigger world.
Feng Changhong faces the attention of reporters, she said that the child is still young and wants her to focus more experience on learning, develop herself well, and cultivate good habits. She does not want the media to pay too much attention and exposure to him.
htmlAfter his 117th birthday, Feng Changhong took Xiao Feifei to the tomb where Cong Fei and his wife were buried together, and the child cried gently while caressing the cold tombstone. Even if yin and yang are separated, love can be expressed.
"Questions on past wishes, peace and joy, family reunion, and acquaintance of lights."
Everyone has different understandings and pursuits of life. How to live life to be meaningful? Maybe everyone thinks about this profound question when tossing and turning at night, but what you need to really become the kind of person you want to be is a huge courage.
Love is like a mountain wind blowing across a stone tablet, with unknown courage and fearlessness. Cong Fei and his wife Xing Dan's life was not a success or fame in the traditional sense, but they used their lives to make their existence profound and long-lasting.
We should also engrave this touching spirit in our hearts and carry it forward at all times, so that the world not only has the exquisite selfishness in the cold night, but also the mutual achievements in the sun.
"Good" is a cycle of reincarnation.
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