Many people say that she and Gao Yuanyuan are in the same face.
She responded humorously, "I am not Gao Yuanyuan, I am Gao Lulu."
She is the actor Gao Lu , the elegant and independent sister Li Zi in "Handling the N power of ", the scheming Lin Xiaoniang in "Handling the Death", and the realistic and rational sister-in-law Wu Fei in "Handling the Death"... Every role is deeply rooted in people's hearts.
And Gao Lu in reality is far more exciting than TV series.
Netizen commented on her, "It's like opening a blind box, I never know what surprises there are."
But this treasure sister said that her dream is to be a child-like adult.
Good kid in the art family,
Dreaming of being a beast trainer
At first sight, many people think she is a southern girl. Speak softly and do things slowly. The years flow all over my body.
But in fact, she is a straightforward Beijing girl and treats people happily.
A reporter once interviewed her: "It is rumored that you worked with Su Youpeng in "The Princess ". He pursued you for three years, but you rejected it?"
She laughed, "He is so handsome, why are you chasing me?"
Such a straightforward personality is inseparable from her family environment.
982, Gao Lu was born in a courtyard with a strong artistic atmosphere in Beijing. His father is a technical figure and his mother is a drama actor.
or 5 years old, in order to train her daughter's courage, her mother took her to perform dramas and experience stage and performance.
For the first time, the little girl performed well, but unexpectedly, Xiao Gaolu had a completely different dream from her parents: Become a trainer.
Gao Lu's parents learned of their daughter's dream, but did not force her to make a choice, but respected her daughter's ideas. Later, Gao Lu fell in love with painting again and had the idea of going abroad to study art.
Actor's talent and dream of painting, Gao Lu is a little embarrassed when facing the choice of life.
At this time, my mother gave a suggestion, leaving the choice to "destiny". The two agreed that Gao Lu would take the exam for Central Academy of Drama first, and if she failed, she would learn art.
Unexpectedly, after three months of sudden attack on the sound stage, Gao Lu actually successfully "gets ashore" and starts her career as an actor.
Many years later, she laughed in an interview and said, "I am a mother's girl. I listen to my parents very much. I seem to have never experienced a rebellious period..."
Ordinary people don't like to be arranged by their parents in their lives. But Gao Lu didn't compete at all.
The little girl who "dreams to become a beast trainer" has a primitive enthusiasm and wildness in her heart.
Gao Lu's parents have well protected their daughter's life energy. There is no control of "you have to listen to me" and no kidnapping of "I am for your own good".
Whether it is a beast trainer, studying art or performing, they respect their daughter's spontaneous interests and willingness. A relaxed and equal family environment like psychologist Zeng Qifeng said, giving children a pair of big shoes gives them the freedom and space for their inner growth.
Many babies have observed that in such a family soil, our inner children will be full of trust and security in the world, show friendship with the outside world, and have a more understanding of the real world.
When she grew up, Gao Lu was full of childlike fun, liked romance and fantasy, and she liked to eat chocolate in private and watched cartoons, especially Miyazaki . She also had a series of dolls at home, all of which were her favorites.
That is exactly the nourishment and support brought to the inner children in our personality.
Embrace the "inner child",
bravely meets the unknown challenge
Becoming a valuable actor has always been Gao Lu's dream.
But this road is not smooth.
was admitted to the Performance Department of the Central Academy of Drama, her classmates included Zhang Mo , Liu Yun , Yu Ming plus , and she was full of talents.
In such an environment, most of the time, Gao Lu can only get some small supporting roles.
But she didn't care about these things. She didn't have much desire to win or lose from external judgments. She just silently put her heart into practice and hone her basic skills.
"There are really no small characters. If you complete the role you assigned to you well, you may really be more wonderful than anyone."
You can see where a person's time is spent.
Slowly, Gao Lu's acting skills have become more and more sophisticated and proficient. In 2011, she became famous for her role as "Sister Lizi" in "The Nth Power of Home" and won multiple newcomer awards.
As her career continues to rise, someone suddenly revealed that she is married and has children.
Overnight, Gao Lu's career suffered a heavy blow and his resources dropped significantly. It seems that it is difficult for a married mother to continue to play a girl in idol dramas.
It’s not that she has been wronged. She has never established a single character, “No one asked me, my husband is an outsider, I want to keep some private space for him.”
But Gao Lu did not let herself indulge in this emotion. The temporary trough did not make her retreat, but inspired her to break through herself more bravely and establish a deeper connection with the world.
For example, be sure to play an ancient bad woman in " Know ".
This is not the urban drama she used to take on. Everything is new and the character challenges are very big.
"The most difficult thing to act should be the drama in the play, because she has been acting in front of Sheng Hong, so that everyone can see her superficial weakness, charm, or a feeling of relying on others. So this scale is difficult to grasp." After the TV series came out, she cried in front of her husband for a while, and turned her head and then scheming and viciously plotting against others, which made people feel itchy.
is not the protagonist, but it is impressive. This is Gao Lu's unique charm.
Many people say that Gao Lu became popular with the role of "concubine".
In fact, what really made her famous is that she is happy to explore her potential, develop her unknown advantages, and bravely overcome anxiety and uncertainty.
Hemingway said: Eggs, breaking from the outside is food, and breaking from the inside is life.
Everyone is a life hatched from the egg. During this incubation process, we explore the world outside and the soul inside, constantly transforming into limbs, feathers, internal organs... a complete life.
This is also a psychological model for the growth of inner children.
As the gatekeeper of the treasure house of resources, spiritual energy and self-confidence in life, we all need to learn and get along well with our inner children and cooperate.
Only in this way can we open the treasure house of inner resources, face the "uncertainty" in life more resolutely, constantly break through the limitations of "I can't do it" and broaden the width and breadth of life.
Balance family and things,
Being a "child-style" mother
High Lotus has always been able to balance career and family well.
Many people are curious about what kind of man they are, and they let her marry herself during the rising period of her career.
She didn't say much, she only mentioned that the husband is an outsider and a straight man. He would not say any romantic words when pursuing her. He always asked repeatedly: When did you marry me?
"It can be seen that he really wants to marry me. So he married."
For Gao Lu, being an actor is part of her, not the whole of life. When you meet the right person, you must catch it in time, because if you miss it, you will really miss it.
Have been married for more than ten years, and the two have not even held a wedding.
Gao Lu was not too relieved, "No need to compare with others, as long as two people live a good life, it is the best."
Now, the two have a happy life and have a pair of children. My sister’s nickname is Niu Niu, and my younger brother’s name is Doudou, and Doudou is “eat Doudou while sleeping”.
is very interesting and very high.
After marriage, the two divided their work and cooperated. The husband is responsible for tutoring the child's homework, while Gao Lu is responsible for playing with the child. Of course, it is also true that the children play with Gao Lu.
She can wear a tiger outfit and laughs at herself as "the tiger that looks the most like a mouse";
Eat a popsicle and shit candy , and smiles foolishly;
0 1 Take the child out to play with the snow, and catch the dolls so happy that it flies.
Two children also like to stick to her.
My daughter often tells jokes to her mother. Even a little boy at school wrote a note to her and shared it with her mother. The two of them talked about everything.
My son can draw for his mother, and even the catchphrase is "Mom, I love you the most."
Gao Lu released her inner child, childlike sensitivity, intuition, curiosity, imagination, innate wisdom and ability to feel feelings in the family.
Such high-quality companionship is fun and fun. Gao Lu is like a magician of life, turning herself into a candy cube, and anyone who is close to her can taste the sweet taste.
As we accompany our children to grow up, we can also experience our childhood again. This time, I am taking my adult self to get close to my inner child.
Return to it, enjoy it, love it, and let those innocence constantly heal themselves and become a better self.
Gao Lu said that now is her ideal life: she has a job she likes, a person she loves, and a friend she fits.
Years passed by her and accumulated her unique temperament: a childlike adult. It is as innocent as a child with a trainer living in his heart, and explores fearlessly like an adult.
And how should we live out this brave and innocent part like Gao Lu?
has the following three directions:
Go to find your inner child and protect it.
If it has been injured, then go back to your childhood to notice its lack, anger... Use the adult self to constantly heal it, turning the trauma inner child into a healthy and happy child.
Go and hug your inner child and cooperate well with it.
Only by getting along well with it can we continuously mobilize the treasure house, develop potential, and allow inner resources to support ourselves in real life to achieve our goals.
Finally, go to understand yourself more deeply and grow yourself.
Go and ask: "What do I want?" "What is not important?" Listen to the real voice, follow it, move forward along this road, give focus, and integrate with a better self.
Zhang Ailing said: A person will meet two people in his life, one amazing time and the other gentle the years.
Gao Lu feels that these two people are themselves.
May we all meet these two selves.
planning|Kiwi
editing|Yu Tian
