01 Acting
Yang Mi In " The Law of Love 28 ", she staged a fake marriage and fell in love with Yang Hua, played by Xu Kai .
sounds like it is unrealistic and unrealistic.
But returning to real life, marriage first and then love is better than the so-called love endings that have loved from the beginning.
The story often begins with two flowers blooming, and the ending is one branch each.
02 Incident
In the entertainment industry, in the past Huang Xiaoming loves Angelababy , and she would be willing to wrap the whole street for her to pamper her because of her words of like.
The love was once so passionate, the envious of the whole network, and the abruptness of the separation later.
, , Dong Zijian, and , Sun Yi, , the more happy the dog food was, the more decisive the separation was later.
They are all together because of love. When they love, they want everyone in the world to know it, but later when love disappears, it is so obvious. What made them walk backwards step by step and eventually part ways.
actually has a very simple answer, expect it.
03 Imbalance
Two people get married because of love and are full of expectations for each other and their future lives. The more enthusiastic they love, the higher the expectations.
But life is not a fairy tale. The prince and the princess will eventually return to the most essential life and face the very trivial things in life.
When the filter of fairy tale is broken and reality comes, someone will have to bear these problems. There will always be someone who will bear more, pay more, and fatigue will follow.
is easy to develop imbalance at this time. The more you expect from the other party, the more disappointed you will be.
04 Reality
Give the simplest example, who cooks dinner tonight, who washes dishes and mops the floor after meals, and who washes clothes and hangs clothes.
These things are not solved in one or two days, but are faced every day.
You hope the other party will help you share the burden. The other party feels it is too hard to go to work and wants to rest for a while. I hope you feel sorry for him and understand him.
Both parties have high expectations for each other. If the other party does not do it, they will inevitably be disappointed, think more, and feel lonely.
. When these negative emotions are accumulated enough and the expectations are worn out, it is naturally time to break up.
05 Blind date
My cousin got married on a blind date, and the girl was introduced by the elders at home.
In his first marriage, in his words, it was not about love. Whoever he married was not a marriage, just live a life.
sounds pretty scumbag, and it feels like it's delaying the girl.
But after marriage, they looked very comfortable when they got along, without much affection, and more of a faint warmth.
Go to my brother's house to play, and my sister-in-law cooks, and after dinner, my brother washes dishes and mops the floor, and my sister-in-law washes clothes, so it is my brother's.
The matters at home involve the relatives of the brother, the brother makes the decision, the relatives of the sister-in-law, the sister-in-law makes the decision.
Their marriage lives like the marriage most people expect.
06 Ending
Their marriage started with the matchmaking of elders. They did not have much hope for each other, and they could even say they had no expectations.
has no expectations, there is no disappointment.
But under the roof, even if you are a guest, it is impossible for you to do all the family affairs alone. Besides, neither party owes each other anything. Since you are married, you are still roommates.
So he divided the work and worked together. In this way, he looked at the other party with admiration and increased surprises a little bit.
Days long, and I am under the same roof. I look down and see you without looking up. There will always be some love inadvertently.
Now that they respect each other like guests is the best ending.
07 Mindset
Friendly and love first and then marry, two choices, the ending is completely opposite, but the key reason is the expectation value.
If you have great expectations for the other party from the beginning, and the expectation is 100%, then in the days that follow, all kinds of trivial matters will keep falling. When it is zero, the expectations in your heart will be completely shattered.
: The feeling at this moment.
On the contrary, if you don’t have expectations at the beginning, you will find the other party’s goodness little by little while getting along with each other. The expectation value starts from zero, and finally gets higher and higher, and you will definitely be more and more of the other party. The more I read
, the more I like it, the more I like it, that is the mood at this moment.
So what you want in marriage is often what the other party wants. Since that is the case, it is better to lower your expectations and not be demanding others or yourself. The lower the expectations, the less disappointment, the better you can live every day in this desolate day.
