Introduction :
In the eyes of East Asians, "family scandals cannot be made public" belong to consensus. Divorce itself is a wound. Now it is difficult to force the person involved to be Xianglin Sao, and it is indeed difficult to tear the wound open and let so many people see it.
From this perspective, the guests on this show have courage.
, and the audience likes the program " Goodbye Love " because in comparison, it presents a complex sample of intimate relationships.
Some netizens even say: Our annual public class on intimate relationships is starting!
judging from the results of the first season, it has indeed achieved complex and realistic results. Although it has been dealt with in design and editing, the habits and habits that couples have been used to with each other cannot be changed in the short term. All its details convey a point of view: marriage is indeed a warm and cruel thing.
This is also the reason why the audience can empathize with .
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seems to be more realistic than the three pairs in the first season.
They quarrel, complain, Cold War , have broken parts of a failed marriage, and even some conflicts are particularly subtle, with a concealment that the parties involved do not know, but bystanders can see clearly.
Some people say: The women in the second season are too traditional and not chic enough, and seem to be incompatible with the current definition of new women.
Indeed, the three women in the second season each have their own entanglements:
The successful career Su Shiding and her ex-husband not only divorced, but also separated from each other and rarely communicated. However, in the show, she kept recalling the beauty of the past and missing the taste of him;
Lisa from Hong Kong met and fell in love with her husband and entered marriage. Now she has entered the second half of her life, but she was punished by her husband for divorce because of playing mahjong. She tolerated and wanted to speak but stopped;
As for Zhang Wanting, she despised her husband Song Ningfeng while being unable to leave him. She loved and killed each other and was unable to part with each other. She seemed to have tears in her yang's personality.
They have a hundred kinds of complaints about marriage, but they also have reasons not to leave.
Many viewers say that such women are not happy enough.
And this is exactly what most women look like in marriage. Isn’t what we want to see? How they face difficulties?
Do viewers like new women?
Some time ago, the heroine Gu Nian there seemed to be portrayed as a perfect "counterattack woman". She has fair skin, slim figure, good clothes, can bend and stretch in her career, and understand the general and understand the righteousness. She has always been right. She is the perfect new woman after transformation.
, but Douban score is 4.8, which means the audience does not agree.
There is a paradox here. Why do we pick on women and hope that they will become the new woman we imagine, but at the same time we are rejecting such a new woman?
Because we feel that this new woman has nothing to do with us at all!
The women we like must first have something to do with us. What is related to
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is going to be like us. We must have our shortcomings and the real dilemma we face. Moreover, many dilemmas are secret, and even in real life we are unwilling to express easily. When we watch, we look at her dilemma like a person looking in the mirror, and we form a mirror relationship with her.
Then, we look at how the characters in the story break through step by step, and how she gets out of the old shackles bit by bit. Our relationship with her is the kind of relationship that can be reached by tiptoeing, the kind of relationship where we can probably get out of the predicament according to her behavior pattern.
Only to a certain extent, "she" has guiding significance for us can truly form communication between reality and story.
So, what the audience wants is not a perfect model.
About "Goodbye Love" Season 1
Many female viewers like to "persuad to leave" and will always say: Leave him, he is not worthy of you!
For example, Zhu Yaqiong is particularly looking forward to getting encouragement from her husband. Some viewers will say: Can't you be more independent?
Indeed, independence is a requirement for women, and everyone should learn independence. However, if a woman expects to receive encouragement and support from her husband, isn’t it wrong again? Therefore, another part of the audience began to persuade him to leave: Can you stop loving Wang Qiuyu and let him go!
In fact, this is the appearance. The core of her marital dilemma is: she is always a girl who wants sugar, and what her husband Wang Qiuyu is most looking forward to is that she can grow up because this man is working hard to raise his family and children. Therefore, when facing his wife who he thinks is immature, he is indeed unwilling to compromise and does not make any concessions. The precise control of the critical point between couples is suffocating.
For example, Guo Keyu . In fact, at the beginning, like all women, she also hoped to have a warm harbor and a happy and warm life after entering marriage.
Whether it is a celebrity or an ordinary person, as long as it is a woman, their desire for marriage is similar: be stable, warm, have a strong husband and lovely children.
However, she did not get it. The factors in it are very complicated and it is difficult to judge by right or wrong.
But what is certain is that after ten years of marriage, he has not appeared in any film and television works, and has completely disappeared from the audience's sight. As time goes by, she becomes more and more depreciating. After experiencing an unimaginable illness, she thought about what she could hold in her hand?
As for Tong Chenjie , as a high-quality second-marriage woman, she faces the reality of "the golden period of childbirth is about to pass but she dares not have children". The core of the problem is: if the husband wants to have children, she asks her husband to change according to the standards of "the father of the child", so the war is repeated over and over again. The relationship between these three couples is full of disputes and shatters, but because of the pain, it has become a divorce variety show with healing and nourishing effects.
Because even celebrities have better conditions in all aspects than ordinary people, the tear and pain in marriage can make the audience empathize, and it is even precisely because the conditions in all aspects are better, but in terms of the level and complexity of the relationship, it is more delicate and profound. Of course, you can also say that they have the conditions to make trouble.
Of course, at the end of the first season, these three women all have their own destinations: Zhu Yaqiong finally stopped nostalgia after years of entanglement; Guo Keyu chose to look forward after the last romantic embrace; Tong Chenjie is even more sober in the world. As long as her husband does not quit drinking, she will not risk having children and has always used rationality to maintain family order. All three women
are loyal to themselves.
"Goodbye Love" Season 2 Women
By the second season, many viewers believe that compared with the first season, these three women are a bit weaker:
Why is Su Shiding so outstanding woman still living in the past, why is she hesitant, and why can't she start a new life? Zhang Wanting was even more discussed by the whole people. She was out of control and was irritable and impermanent. Can she have some backbone? Lisa, on the other hand, appears weak and forbearable. Is she a woman in the old marriage system?
In the eyes of female audiences who always "encourage people to start a new life" at present, these three women seem to be on the verge of divorce. They spend their time, waste their lives, and are not quick enough.
In the words of some female audiences: It is not feminist enough, with a "retro" flavor.
Indeed, now some female celebrities will soon receive the blessings of fans. They are called new women and are presented to the altar. It seems that women who are wronged and do not divorce are not firm enough and independent enough.
A data from the China Population Survey Agency shows that the divorce rate of young people born in the 1990s reached 56.7%, and flash marriage and flash divorce have become a very significant problem, but can divorce really solve the problem? Could it be that if you don’t reflect on the problems you encounter with your first partner, the problem will disappear after you meet the second partner?
The theme of divorce variety shows has an additional perspective of social observation, mixing the originally serious social reality with entertainment-oriented variety shows, creating a new chemical reaction.
The most important thing is that when divorced couples start to show their respective problems, in the program, because of the setting of the situation, there is room for discussion. When the audience hears the analysis and suggestions given by experts, they will also begin to reflect on whether there are similar problems in their marriage.
Goodbye, Lover
Again, See Lover
I really like the text in the beginning of this show:
Touching words
Throughout our lives, we are all building our relationship with others, which allows us to see the most complete self from the intimate coordinates.
We long for, worry is compensated, and loneliness is evaporated. In order to get such an experience, we do not hesitate to climb in the haze and walk through the sea fog, and seek the ultimate mystery of happiness with the unwillingness given by thorns and reefs.
When love crosses the sky, brings grand joy like a storm, and quietly dies in the fragility of reality. Lovers no longer praise eternity, but we still can’t help but ask the photoelectric at the end of the fog:
Why, love is not the ultimate answer to all questions?
Why, we failed to get into marriage with the right person?
So, what is the right person?
Everyone is a problematic individual.
We are always good at showing hideousness to close people. Behind those hideousness is the turbid sorrow and the cautious hand stretched out.
is in trouble, no one should become an isolated island. Go on the journey again and reveal your soul again. Destiny will reward you, brave people.
There will be times when we meet, and after the fog, we will see our lover again.
Contradictions and pain, tears and disputes, attacks and accusations, contradictions escalate in various arrangements, constantly being displayed in real life that cannot be displayed or cannot be seen clearly. In fact, it is just constantly dissecting the problems in marriage.
But because of the setting and guidance of the situation, the true feelings will also be revealed in the dispute. The warm fragments of the past are shining, there is also the calmness of the dust settled after the outbreak of emotions, and there is the look and review standing at a certain intersection.
Love and hate are sometimes intertwined. Love the other person and hate the other person, fear of losing her (him), and also avoiding facing her (him).
Of course, after reviewing and thinking, you can clearly see the "starts, inheritances, turns and turns" of some things, and see their occurrence, evolution and development. All of this is a re-examination of the self, and also a view of the other party from another perspective, and ultimately decide whether to let go or hold hands again with cherish. This is exactly what the audience watches. I think this is the warm core of the seemingly cruel "divorce CP", and it is also the emotional value and practical care given to us by this show.
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