In "Goodbye Love 2", Huang Jue and his wife Maizi came to the program and set up a love letter interaction link to let each couple express their feelings.
It’s Zhang Wanting and Song Ningfeng , Zhang Wanting said first.
She expressed her gratitude and complaint in the love letter. This is normal. After all, the couple participating in this show are either having emotional problems and are on the verge of divorce or have already divorced.
Then there was Song Ningfeng. From the beginning, his eyes were wet, with guilt, grievance and reluctance in his expression. And when Zhang Wanting listened, she kept crying.
I thought the relationship between them was sublimated at this moment, but when the picture changed, Zhang Wanting said, "Why do you write me like this?" "You are quite exaggerating"......
At that moment, many people, like me, were stupid.
They came to participate in this program to solve the problems that arise in marriage. Zhang Wanting also said firmly: "The show is to solve the problem, not to talk about love."
But in a blink of an eye, she roared at the camera: "You don't know what you are doing, right? You are here to love me." What she did and said to her will never be consistent.
From beginning to end, she felt that she had no mistakes and had not hurt Song Ningfeng. He should not have any dissatisfaction with her. Show a look of superiority and superiors treat subordinates.
Even after everyone was resting in the evening, she walked out of Song Ningfeng's tent and called him out, and said righteously: "When you choose me, you must face this matter!"
She was referring to "Song Ningfeng would not let her use the attitude of an agent to command him with a high order."
Although Song Ningfeng kept reminding that their conversation was being filmed, Zhang Wanting looked completely indifferent and blurted out, "Do you want me to change? I can't change it."
Seeing this, I finally understood why in this marriage, Zhang Wanting was hysterical and said that she could not feel happiness.
It is difficult for a woman like her to get happiness, unless she truly realizes what the problem is, or their marriage will be completely hopeless in such consumption.
Zhang Wanting Song Ningfeng was 10 years old. When she met him, she was at the trough of his life - she suffered a double blow from divorce and career failure.
In that case, Zhang Wanting took the initiative to choose to be with him and quickly gave birth to a child.
She thinks she is his redemption and a light in his life. But she was worried that he wouldn't love her enough.
After all, Song Ningfeng and his ex-Qi Xi have shown so much love. She is a literary and artistic actor. She is a good match with Song Ningfeng and falls in her best years. Even to be with Qi Xi, Song Ningfeng even asked for marriage three times.
And Song Ningfeng also had an ex-girlfriend, who was the popular Zhou Xun .
In front of these two women, Zhang Wanting undoubtedly felt inferior. If it weren't for this show, many people might not know who she was.
The reason why Song Ningfeng has two excellent exes shows that he has good conditions. He once asked the other two male guests, "Have you noticed that girls have different opinions about you after divorce?"
It is not difficult to imagine that although he is not popular, many girls will take the initiative to chase him after divorce.
That's why Zhang Wanting is worried about gains and losses. She probably knew in her heart that if Song Ningfeng had not fallen into a trough, the woman standing next to him now would probably not be her.
Because, looking at Song Ningfeng's two exes, although they are very famous, they have a strong literary atmosphere. There is undoubtedly the woman he likes is not like her.
This adds important Zhang Wanting's sense of insecurity, and also increases her certainty. She wanted to use various methods to confirm Song Ningfeng's love for her. If he did not obey, it would be a betrayal of her.
However, Zhang Wan does not understand men. The marriage partner that men want when they are young may have different choices from middle-aged people, and they have different needs at different times.
Song Ningfeng and Zhang Wanting were nearly 40 years old when they got married. Zhang Wanting had the courage and vitality he lacked, which was exactly what he yearned for, not to mention that she quickly gave birth to a child for him.
For men of this age, the meaning of children is really different. In fact, Song Ningfeng also talked about it. He has always been grateful to Zhang Wanting for giving birth to a child for him at the trough of his life.
But on the other hand, Zhang Wanting's strong personality, Song Ningfeng did not realize it at first. Their relationship develops too fast and before they get to know each other well, they are already in a mess.
There is something about Song Ningfeng, but Zhang Wanting's way of loving the other person makes people feel suffocating, that is, by controlling Song Ningfeng all the time, he makes him love and tolerate her without condition.
However, will there be such a partner? It's really difficult. Even couples who are in love cannot do it, not to mention that they are already in a marriage of food, food, food, and salt.
And once this idea is deeply embedded in Zhang Wanting's heart, she can't calm down.
Song Ningfeng disobeyed her heart a little, so she started to make trouble, even on the show, no exception.
She was belittling Song Ningfeng at any time, saying in public that he was ugly, had no ability, and was a failed actor. He didn't even understand his wife and could not penetrate the connotation of the role, and was not qualified to talk about performance...
She even mocked him for being a burden, mocked him for being old, mocked him for not being popular, but could marry her without having anything, because he had a good life and a great blessing.
Song Ningfeng was a "stupid" in Zhang Wanting's mouth, and she mentioned this word not only once in the show.
tramples the person beside his pillow, not caring about his dignity at all, but hopes that he will obey and love himself unconditionally. Who can do it?
So, Song Ningfeng became more and more silent, and when he encountered her, he would take cold measures. But this won't work, she'll say he doesn't care about her feelings.
This is actually a typical symptom of inferiority. He has high spirits but limited ability. He cannot make up for his own shortcomings. He gets the sense of security he wants through his partner. When he cannot get it, he goes astray - belittles him. A marriage like
is depressing even if you think about it, and Zhang Wanting is destined to not have happiness.
In fact, the hand she held was not bad at first, but she beaten it to pieces.
Despite this, you can still see the idea of not wanting to divorce from Song Ningfeng. He cherishes this family.
But Zhang Wanting didn't realize where she was wrong. She forced herself into the alley, unable to see the direction and could not listen to other people's advice.
In fact, in this trip, what she should do most is not to hold on to Song Ningfeng, but to ask her heart carefully, whether she still has love for this man?
If you still want to continue, then you will know how to reconcile with yourself. Don’t just open your mouth and it’s a problem. Examining yourself carefully and giving the other party a chance to explain is actually a chance to yourself.
If she blindly looks like an hedgehog , if someone says that Song Ningfeng is not easy, she will erect a firm thorn to make enemies with others. In this way, she will have no way to continue the marriage, and will only push her lover further and further away.
Because she could not create an ideal husband, there is no such man in this world, and it is even more impossible to have a truly perfect marriage.
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