" Know " There are too many remarkable people in the senior group.
Sheng's grandmother is naturally one of the best. She is graceful, generous, transparent and wise, and is also an outstanding educator. The two granddaughters who were raised by themselves, Hualan and Minglan , are both knowledgeable and strategic boudoir heroes.
Old Lady Sheng It’s also good to be a mother-in-law. Be aware of advancement and retreat, and be kind and powerful. She knew very well that although she was Sheng Hong's legitimate mother, she was not her biological mother after all. From a blood perspective, she was not the biological mother-in-law of her daughter-in-law Wang.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a big problem since ancient times, and Old Lady Sheng and Mrs. Wang are inevitably more sensitive. Especially when an Lin Qinshuang appeared on the way, it was even harder for Old Lady Sheng to be a mother-in-law.
The old lady wisely retreated, not only took the initiative to avoid the daily morning and evening settlement of her daughter-in-law, but also did not interfere in the family's affairs. Even though Mrs. Wang is cold to her mother-in-law, she needs to take care of her food, clothing and expenses in Shou'antang. She has never said that her daughter-in-law is not right.
But when Mrs. Wang was in trouble, Old Mrs. Sheng quietly extended a helping hand.
Rulan and Minglan were punished to kneel on the ancestral hall because they were framed by Molan. Mrs. Wang was so anxious that she used the most "fox charming method" she was not good at, but unfortunately she had no effect. At this time, the mother-in-law secretly invited Madam Kong, which not only resolved the eldest lady's predicament, but also added fuel to the future of the two girls.
Hualan was rolled in the Earl's Mansion because she did not give birth to a son. Mrs. Wang was so anxious that she felt uncomfortable. At this time, the mother-in-law still invited Mrs. He to carefully adjust Hualan and hide it without missing a trace, which once again relieved her daughter-in-law's great troubles.
The mother-in-law of old lady Sheng is made by her mother-in-law. She can not only prevent her daughter-in-law from standing in a row, but also help her in time. Which daughter-in-law should not praise her good mother-in-law?
Lady Wang later became her mother-in-law, and she was determined to make her powerful and powerful in front of her daughter-in-law. Old Mrs. Sheng said without any pain, "You still have a wife's life." The eldest lady immediately blushed and sweated on her forehead, and she no longer dared to make things difficult for her daughter-in-law.
The old lady explained it lightly and solved the dilemma of her granddaughter-in-law. Who would not love such an old lady who married into the family?
Old Lady Sheng is the daughter of the Hou Mansion, and is from a noble family. Her vision and upbringing are very comparable. After marrying into the Sheng family, most of her life was full of honor and disgrace, and she tempered her extraordinary wisdom and courage.
And the other old lady neither had the noble origin of the Sheng family's grandmother nor had she married into a wealthy family. She has a low status and is almost slave, and her life is bumpy and her fate is drifting.
What’s rare is that she still lives as a well-known figure. Moreover, like Mrs. Sheng, she is a super powerful mother-in-law, even more than that.
Chang Mama .
Ma Ma Chang is a miserable woman. She was all involved in the three most miserable things in life. When you lose your father at a young age, you lose your husband at a middle age, and when you are old, you lose your son at a old age. But such a miserable fate and such a bad hand made her play, leading the Chang family to complete a leap, and also won a perfect old age for herself.
This woman is not simple.
In my opinion, Madam Chang has been a mother-in-law three times. To her daughter-in-law, she is her mother-in-law. For Manniang Minglan, because they are her "son's wife", Gu Er regards her as her closest elder, so in fact, they also have a bit of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Ma Ma Chang has shown great skills when dealing with these three most difficult relationships between women.
Manniang is the type that can confuse men. Her weakness and inability to take care of herself made Gu Er confused. But women of this type usually feel sad about their mother-in-law. It has to be said that women are always better able to identify the authenticity of women.
Ma Ma Chang just glanced at it and saw through Manniang's painted skin.
She warned Gu Er that Man Niang was not a good person, but Gu Er couldn't listen. What to do? Madam Chang stared at her, guarding against her being a traitor.But Manniang is not a good-looking lamp, she still seizes the gap and sneaks out to make trouble.
Ma Ma Chang was so angry that she was itchy, but without any evidence, she still couldn't let Gu Er turn his mind back. Madam Chang handled it very well at this time.
She no longer talks to Gu Er because it is useless and saying too much will cause disgust. Shut up, the wisest choice at this time. "I won't say anything anymore. Brother, just be careful."
Manniang later stole the gold, silver and soft field shop and went out to sell it privately. Madam Chang secretly followed her and obtained first-hand evidence, but she still didn't take action. Gu Er has to take charge of catching thieves and stolen goods.
After seeing it with his own eyes, Gu Ercai was completely awake and tore open the maze array that Manniang had arranged for several years.
Madam Chang did not interfere beyond the boundaries, did not force herself to stand up, secretly waited for the story to come out, and silently waited for Gu Er to turn around. Only then did she have a key move to defeat the enemy, and Manniang had no room for her to return.
When it comes to the attitude of Madam Chang's "mother-in-law" towards Minglan, she is like a cloud of mud.
She also saw Minglan's character at a glance, and was glad that her "son" finally got her wife right. Madam Chang treats Minglan with just one thing and protects her in every way.
Xiao Qinshi put many eyeliners into Minglan, and Madam Chang helped to eradicate them one by one.
Ma Ma Chang's daughter-in-law wants to give her daughter to Gu Er as her concubine so that she can gain wealth and glory. Madam Chang scolded her, causing the mother and daughter to completely cut off their bad thoughts.
Aunt Kang and Xiao Qin made things difficult for Minglan. Madam Chang rushed to the position without saying a word and scolded the two pretending ladies. The words were "pig head and dog face", and "going to the funeral and fighting the autumn wind", and every sentence was heartbroken. Aunt Kang, who had always been domineering, was scolded to the point of being unable to fight back, and almost passed away.
The famous scene of "Knowing or Not" made many people shout "Happy"! Even if the viewer is like this, how moved the person involved should be Minglan? How could he not be grateful to this elder with a special identity and deeply felt sorry for and caring for him?
Ma Ma Chang raised Gu Er as her own son. She only had one expectation for Gu Er - she hoped that he would be happy for his life. The expulsion of Manniang and the protection of Minglan all come from this deep love.
She has never taken credit for herself, and she never thought of competing with Minglan for the right to speak. She is a truly loving elder, unlike some mother-in-law who treats her daughter-in-law like a foe, and only wants to dominate her son by her side, and even can't stand her at all the good things she treats her daughter-in-law.
As Gu Er's wet nurse, the relationship between Madam Chang and Gu Er's wife was handled very cleverly. Know others and be close to each other, and be able to advance and retreat properly.
For Manniang, Gu Er still needs to make the decision when he pinched his hand. For Minglan, he tried hard to maintain his heart but had a close relationship and never took his own initiative.
The old lady knew very well that the "Milky Son" had Gu Er outside and Minglan inside. That was their family's life. Even if she was concerned about it, she could not interfere with it. She needed to return the power to the hostess who should be divided into this family.
Why did Mama Chang do such a beautiful thing? To some extent, it is because she is not Gu Er's biological mother. If you are not a real mother, you will naturally restrain your behavior and try to maintain a sense of decent boundaries. Isn’t it the same with Mrs. Sheng to Mrs. Wang?
The key to getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a sense of proportion. also reminds the mother-in-law that instead of treating yourself as a mother, it is easier to keep a delicate distance. If you don’t make decisions for the small family, don’t make the younger generation dislike, and don’t cause trouble for yourself, why not do it?
Some friends may refute it, why is Madam Chang not like this to her own daughter-in-law? The old lady not only monopolizes the power, but also threatens to drive her daughter-in-law out of the house. Isn't this a double standard?
Dear, that is not called double standard, that is called specific problem analysis . It is not fair to use the same method for everyone, that is stupid.
What kind of person is Madam Chang’s daughter-in-law? He is blinded by greed and has a short-sighted look, but he is selfish and stupid but still has no choice but to continue to teach him. It is the best decision to have such an uneasy daughter-in-law, and to take control of the overall situation yourself.
Madam Chang also relied on her clear mind, her humble and arrogant personality, and the help of Gu Erminglan, to cultivate her grandson into talents all year round, thus leading the humble and withered Chang family on the road to leap.
Like Liu Laolao in " Dream of Red Mansions ", Madam Chang is the one who saved the fate of the family.
