On December 22, 2004, Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning got married. That year, Weng Fan was 28 years old and Yang Zhenning 82 years old. The two were 54 years apart in age, but they still resolutely chose to be husband and wife.
What kind of unknown stories are there in this love with such a big age gap?
"I will never regret it when my clothes get looser, and I will become haggard for her." Throughout history, love has been the object of praise and pursuit by people, and everyone yearns for a beautiful love.
So no matter in China or abroad, people will always write love stories after love, such as Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai , Romeo and Juliet, Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu .
But as Shakespeare said: "The way to true love is not smooth." There are many times when two people are together will have many obstacles, such as region, money, and age.
A young and beautiful woman who marrys an elderly man in her 80s will inevitably cause considerable controversy. Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning are such a couple.
There are many people who doubt whether they are really happy. They maliciously speculate that Weng Fan's purpose is not simple, but there are also many people who believe in love again because they once again.
"There are a thousand Hamlets in the eyes of a thousand people." No matter how others commented, the two of them kept their ears covered and did not listen to those worldly rumors. They used their loving married life to leave those rumors without any hiding.
So, what kind of story is behind such a love with such a big age span?
All this starts with Weng Fan’s 18 years old. Let’s learn about the process of her and Yang Zhenning getting to know each other and falling in love.
First meeting, forming friendship
"As soon as the golden wind and jade dew meet, it is better than countless people in the world" . Weng Fan was only 18 years old when he first met Yang Zhenning.
At that time, Weng Fan had just passed the college entrance examination, ended his high school career, and entered the palace of university.
The Shantou University was admitted to by Weng Fan. It is a very good school and is destined to be on this campus for a long time in the future. , so she always actively participates in various activities organized by the school.
Later, the smart, capable, lively and cheerful Weng Fan attended the large-scale World Chinese Physics Conference organized by the school. It was at this meeting that Weng Fan met Yang Zhenning.
At that time, Yang Zhenning had become a famous figure in the physics world.
The school also attaches great importance to Yang Zhenning's arrival and is ready to receive this big shot who won the Nobel Prize in Physics in and .
However, at that time, Yang Zhenning had a wife. He brought his wife Du Zhili to the meeting, and Weng Fan became the receptionist who received the couple at that time.
"Living and cheerful personality, extraordinary conversation and temperament." Yang Zhenning and his wife have a good impression of Weng Fan, who is only 18 years old. They think this girl is a very interesting and talented person.
In fact, the first time we met, Weng Fan was very nervous. He was just a child who was very knowledgeable about the world, and the other party was a famous physicist.
even won the Nobel Prize in Physics, which she dared not even think about.
She originally thought that Yang Zhenning would be very arrogant and would appear arrogant.
However, during contact, Weng Fan found that Yang Zhenning is actually an approachable and easy-to-get-in-home person, and is not as arrogant as she imagined.
This also made her admiration for Yang Zhenning a little more.
After the meeting, Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning and his wife exchanged contact information, and they also became friends.
In fact, Weng Fan’s major and physics are inseparable. She is an English major, but this did not stop her from having a strong interest in science.
Yang Zhenning lives in the United States all year round and speaks very well. Weng Fan often asks him about his teaching issues. Yang Zhenning also teaches him everything, and the two have been in touch.
For Weng Fan, Yang Zhenning is both a friend and her teacher, and she admires him from the bottom of her heart.
Time passes by, Weng Fan has not felt more campus life yet, he has graduated in the blink of an eye, has started working, and the same Hong Kong person is married.
The days after marriage are dull and boring, and the other person's personality and hobbies do not match Weng Fan in all aspects.
Weng Fan also tried to ease the relationship between the two, and even quit his job and became a full-time housewife.
However, if the starting point of a relationship is 80 points, it may slowly drop to 60 points as the years change, but you can still pass the exam.
But if it only scores 60 points at the beginning, no matter how you get it done, what is inappropriate is still inappropriate.
After constantly trying, the relationship between the two finally disappeared and they chose to divorce.
At this time, Yang Zhenning continued to study physics, an old horse is in the stable and has ambitions. Age has no effect on his exploration of science at all.
But in October 2003, Yang Zhenning's wife Du Zhili died of illness, which hit him hard and was deeply sad.
The warming relationship
On one side is the divorced Weng Fan and the widowed Yang Zhenning on the other side. Two frustrated people met again at this time.
Learning that Ms. Du Zhili was gone, Weng Fan went to comfort her and told Yang Zhenning not to hurt her body because of her sadness, and asked him to take good care of her.
The two of them were like two injured deer, expressing their hearts to each other, illuminating each other like the warm sun that winter.
Just like that, Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning became more and more frequent, and they were not as reserved as they were when they first met, and they became equal friends.
But it's just up to friends, no one does anything that goes beyond the line.
Regularly speaking, it is not easy to have a friend who has made for a long time.
Perhaps Weng Fan never thought that , a scientist who is both a teacher and a friend, would one day become his husband.
The two have been in contact with each other by letter since they met. Even though the communication equipment behind them was developed, they still maintained the traditional letter.
Perhaps handwritten words can convey emotions better than cold machine fonts.
Weng Fan also mentioned his failed marriage inadvertently, and Yang Zhenning also comforted her repeatedly: it is not easy to meet the right person, and don’t give up on chasing love just because he met the wrong person.
They have been in touch with each other and have become friends who can talk about everything. But as time goes by, the two of them gradually discovered that their personalities are actually very compatible.
- They are each other's soul mates. Apart from the huge age difference, the two are the most suitable.
In the process of continuous interaction, Weng Fan gradually changed from admiration to admiration for Yang Zhenning, and Yang Zhenning gradually fell in love with the young and elegant Weng Fan.
However, the age difference between the two of them at 54 years has become a big obstacle. Between the two, they cannot pretend not to see it.
So, during the National Day Golden Week in 2004, Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan went to Beihai for a trip, and the two wanted to have a try.
Yang Zhenning knew that Weng Fan had always had a hobby for taking pictures, so he gave her a camera, and she also used the camera to record the unforgettable memories of the two.
The most unforgettable detail that Weng Fan had in this trip was that she had already gone to bed one night, but Yang Zhenning couldn't sleep at this time.
In order not to disturb Weng Fan, Yang Zhenning ran to the bathroom to read books. When Weng Fan woke up in the middle of the night, he found Yang Zhenning curled up in the bathroom.
was particularly moved by this. She secretly decided in her heart that she must marry him and take care of him.
In a later interview, Weng Fan once said:
"At first, Professor Yang did not agree to get married. He was afraid of implicating me because the age difference between us was too big. But later, we slowly got along and found that not only did we share the same language in academics and hobbies, but we were also willing to give for each other in life. Gradually, he agreed to the marriage."
So, Yang Zhenning proposed to Weng Fan, but it was not a face-to-face proposal, but a phone call.
Later, Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning themselves joked in the interview: "Who calls to propose!"
In the face of the media interview, Yang Zhenning once said that is a self-aware and honest person. He can't stand loneliness, especially the loneliness of the elderly.
So he was afraid of a person. If it weren't for Weng Fan, he would still remarry and marry someone else.
But fortunately, he met Weng Fan. In the eyes of outsiders, they are a very loving couple. Excluding the age difference between 54 years, the two are extremely compatible.
finally came true
. In this way, the two got married on December 22, 2004 and officially became husband and wife.
Yang Zhenning once wrote a poem to express his joy, which means:
is not scheming and considerate. This love has brought me back to my youth and given my old soul courage and lightness; this is the last gift God has given me, and it is also eternal youth.
and Weng Fan also wrote an English poem in response:
"I love you without regrets, but I am happy, I intentionally escaped, my heart has fallen into... Touch your forehead, my breath brushes my hand, silence is better than anything else."
The two of them were also very loving after marriage. For the sake of Yang Zhenning's health, Weng Fan even changed his routine and went to bed early and got up early every day.
They did not hire a nanny. Weng Fan got up at 8 o'clock in the morning to prepare breakfast, toast, milk, and fried eggs, simple but nutritious.
After breakfast, the two started working with each other, and their lives were simple and warm.
They will hang out on the sofa and listen to music and watch TV together, and will curl up on the sofa and read " Da Vinci Password ", and discuss the exciting plots in the novel together.
Weng Fan once faced a question from Yang Lan - "How did the relationship with Yang Zhenning change from worship to love?" Responding with a smile, the general meaning is:
When admiring a man, if he also likes you, then this relationship is extremely rare, and it is easy to move from worship to true love.
From the interviews from various media and the eyes of others, the two are extremely loving, and their age has not stopped them from falling in love at all.
But when the two got married, it caused quite a lot of criticism.
Many people are wondering why such a respected old scientist doesn’t find a wife of a good match and of the same age.
If you want to choose Weng Fan, who is 54 years apart from yourself, so that "the old cow eats young grass", Weng Fan must have had some plans for him.
So, the marriage between the two is accompanied by constant malicious speculation and rumors from the outside world.
Many people believe that Yang Zhenning's image of respected professor "collapsed", while Weng Fan was plotting against him and was interested in his money.
But if two people are together, as long as they truly love each other, why should they be afraid of the outside world and report it freely?
Sincere love
"If two love lasts for a long time, how can they stay day and night?" Now, Weng Fan has been working with Yang Zhenning for more than ten years, and has maintained an extremely loving image for more than ten years.
I was lucky enough to meet their passers-by. They all said that the two looked really loving. Weng Fan was extremely shy with Yang Zhenning, and Yang Zhenning also pampered her.
Two years ago, Yang Zhenning, who was already 97 years old, also took Weng Fan to attend an exhibition. The two who had been married for many years were still as sweet as young couples who had just fallen in love, holding hands happily.
Because Yang Zhenning is already very old, it is very inconvenient to walk, and he needs to use a crutch to walk. Weng Fan has been supporting him by the side, waiting for him while walking.
and the two of them were supported together, and after more than ten years, they couldn't help but sigh at the sincerity of love.
is like a person who drinks water and knows the temperature and heat. What about the various speculations and comments from the outside world?
As long as you love each other unswervingly, you will eventually achieve the right result.
Shakespeare once described life as a "seven-act play", and the final seventh act is: no teeth, no vision and taste, nothing is left.
Yang Zhenning said that he has reached the "seventh act" of his life, but he still has teeth, eyes, and taste, and everything is there.
So he said that he was lucky. was able to meet Weng Fan and overcome all difficulties and insisted on being with her, which made him gain a lucky life.
For Yang Zhenning, he found someone who fits his soul and is willing to take care of himself. This is his luck, but for Weng Fan, isn't it?
Weng Fan also said that thanks to Yang Zhenning for keeping her living in the ivory tower.
After experiencing a failed marriage, isn’t it her luck to be able to meet a man who truly loves me and is willing to take care of me?
In a program, the host also asked, why did the two of them have been together for so many years, but they have never wanted children.
Yang Zhenning also said that she must have taken one step ahead of Weng Fan. Weng Fan's life will be longer in the future. If she had children, she would have worked very hard alone, so she would not be considered having children.
He doesn't want children because he is afraid of dragging down Weng Fan.
In fact, Yang Zhenning and Du Zhili had three children. They all lived in the United States, and their youngest daughter was born in 1961. Even Yang Zhenning's youngest child is 15 years older than Weng Fan.
So, Yang Zhenning's children didn't understand his father at first, why did they marry a woman who could be his granddaughter.
However, after marriage, Yang Zhenning still explained to the children in various ways, and used his sweet life with Weng Fan to prove that it was the right choice for them to be together, and also predicted that many years later people would call it romance.
Originally, Weng Fan loved to drink coffee and stay up late, but because Yang Zhenning went to bed early every day, in order to better take care of the other party, she also changed this habit.
Now, the two have been working together for 18 years and have been living a very happy and beautiful life.
This love really defeated age, defeated the world, and finally reaped sweet fruits.
I wish everyone can find their own love.
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