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Text: Xie Wenqing
An Lingrong accidentally sprinkled tea on summer winter spring , and was unyielding insulted in various languages.
Seeing this scene, Meizhuang said: Royal Palace, near the emperor, who is so frivolous?
Zhen Huan can't stand it and want to rescue An Lingrong. Meizhuang grabbed Zhen Huan and didn't want Zhen Huan to meddle in other people's business.
It was too much until summer, winter and spring, bullying people to the point of insulting that An Lingrong kneeled down. Someone next to
couldn't stand it and wanted to go up and say a few words to An Lingrong. Another sister who was with her stopped her: Sister, don't offend people, how could the emperor choose a daughter from a remote countryside as a concubine? Xia's may be selected.
People in the fame and fortune market all have one characteristic, that is, power, the first thing they consider when doing things is the other party’s identity and whether it is beneficial to themselves.
When An Lingrong was about to kneel down, Zhen Huan couldn't stand it and rushed over. This time Meizhuang didn't stop him.
Let’s take a look at how Zhen Huan ended this struggle. What are the techniques in it?
Zhen Huan: Just a piece of clothing, Sister Xia is generous and not worth getting angry.
Zhen Huan was actually very angry when she saw Xia Dongchun's aggressiveness. However, when she came forward to intervene, she still put a high hat on Xia Dongchun first.
Summer, winter and spring are very powerful, first ask: Who are you?
In her opinion, if the official position is higher than her father, she will listen, and if she is lower, she will not listen.
Summer, winter and spring, the standard for judging people is actually very consistent with the rules of the Vanity Fair, but she is too explicit and straightforward.
And this standard for evaluating a person's level by using only the position of father is too deadly because people are changing. Although the position of children is affected by the family background of parents,
is not static. For example, she died in less than three episodes after entering the palace, while An Lingrong, whom she looked down upon, lived much longer than her.
Even if you take the position of your parents as an example, it is still changing. Therefore, this standard of judging the Vocational Fair can be used, but it cannot be too superstitious.
Later, the death of Xia Dongchun was also the result of this judging standard.
In her opinion, the queen must be the biggest in the harem. Unfortunately, she did not expect that although Hua Fei is not the main position, she has real power. Although the queen is in her position, she is often undermined.
So, Xia Dongchun tells us that in the Vanity Fair, remember not to be too powerful, that is, you can be powerful, but it is not over.
Zhen Huan applied for her father's position.
Xia Dongchun said to himself: Dali Temple Shaoqing , he is not a high-ranking official.
However, she was also considering that although she was not a high-ranking official, she was not arbitrarily able to bully her.
Zhen Huan: Just a word of reason is discussed in everything.
Then Zhen Huan said again: I'm just thinking about my sister. Today's Han military flag election, my sister is afraid that it will alarm the emperor. If Long Yan was furious, it would be impossible for you and I to take responsibility.
Even if the sage is not shocked, if it is heard by others, it will ruin the reputation of my sister's virtuousness and even lose the face of our Han army flag. This is not worth the loss, so I hope my sister thinks twice.
There is a classic saying in Franklin: If you want to convince others, you should resort to interests rather than reason.
Zhen Huan's rhetoric, each of which stands at the perspective of Xia Dongchun, weighs the interests of Xia Dongchun, and also makes clear the interests.
Xia Dongchun even if it is domineering, it should be clear at this time, because Zhen Huan talks about the points that Xia Dongchun cares the most.
How did Zhen Huan know what Xia Dongchun cares about? When she saw this passage of
, Zhen Huan was like a worm in Xia Dongchun's belly. How did she know what Xia Dongchun was most afraid of and cared about the most?
First, anyone is afraid that the emperor will be furious, unless this person is looking for death openly.
Zhen Huan confirmed from Xia Dongchun's words just now that Xia Dongchun was the daughter of an official family. Such a daughter generally knows that power is one level of power and crushing people to death, so she will move out of the emperor.
plus today is quite special, it is the day of the palace selection, and the daughters of officials with a little bit of identity in the country are basically gathered here.
If someone comes out to disturb the situation, the emperor will definitely make more cruel decisions to deal with her.
The knowledge is actually common sense, but people who are loud and do not use brains will not think about this.
second, even though the emperor was busy with the palace selection, he did not see it on the spot, because the summer, winter and spring were so big that An Lingrong knelt down with a cup of tea.
This matter is likely to reach many people's ears. When everyone comments, they will also say that summer, winter and spring are not virtuous enough, and bully people if they are nothing big. This child is not virtuous.
You should know that in , the reputation of women in the Qing Dynasty, was very important. Besides, it seems that they can come to the palace to choose.
So, she will pay special attention to her reputation.
The two points Zhen Huan said are related to Xia Dongchun’s personal interests, so she plans to make a truce. However, she wanted to give herself a step forward, so she said: I will remember you.
Zhen Huan: My sister is beautiful and charming. Only those who have seen her sister will never forget her.
Zhen Huan is not angry or angry, and still holds summer, winter and spring high in her words.
After reading this paragraph, I was thinking, what if it was me?
I felt uncomfortable when I saw the frivolous spirit of Xia Dongchun. I also wanted to stand up for the upset. What would I do?
I think I will definitely blame Xia Dongchun first, and then break down the matter again to verify Xia Dongchun bully others by relying on his power.
But, what will the final result?
With the arrogant personality of summer, winter and spring, he will definitely not admit defeat, and then the beam must have been formed.
According to Mei Zhuang's temperament, it was also because when she heard Xia Dongchun's first voice, she said: The royal palace, near the emperor, who is so frivolous?
The sentence is also rule-based, just like Zhen Huan said that everything is rational.
However, Zhen Huan's theory is neutral, and Mei Zhuang's statement is obviously a rule to prove the frivolity of summer, winter and spring.
Can you not be emotional when you hear someone say you are frivolous?
Once you are excited, you will probably turn to Meizhuang. I was going to fight, but I even got into an argument.
So, if we don’t have a certain persuasion, to be precise, if we don’t have a certain degree of confidence, it may make things simple if we encounter outsiders’ quarrels. By comparing
, you will find that Zhen Huan is a master in dealing with conflicts.
We all must often encounter conflicts in our lives and workplaces. How to deal with conflicts? Zhen Huan can try this trick more.
There is also Zhen Huan, as an outsider whom An Lingrong has never met, so this way of standing up for her is also an application of the principle of giving in people.
Regarding the principle of giving, I wrote about the principle of giving before when interpreting " Menghualu ". Click here to review ( "Menghualu" How did Zhao Paner make many people willing to help her from the bottom of their hearts? )
Why is An Lingrong grateful? Thank you for your words to help me. Today's kindness is unforgettable.
Zhen Huan picked flowers while it was hot and gave An Lingrong a pair of earrings as a gift for her.
Let me ask, if it is you, can you not be grateful?
I believe An Lingrong was grateful from the bottom of his heart at that time. As for the later betrayal, there were various reasons.
However, even so, An Lingrong told Zhen Huan before dying: The queen killed the queen.
It was because of this sentence that Zhen Huan looked for clues, then set up a plan and defeated the queen.
Zhen Huan teaches us a trick on how to buy a stranger’s heart. In short, Zhen Huan’s sentence: Sincerity, sincerity is the most important thing, and it is the essence of making friends. Although
has errors and misunderstood in the filtering process, I think the general direction has always been correct.
This leads to a problem. Mei Zhuang’s background and knowledge reserves are considered to be about the same as Zhen Huan, but why is she not as good as Zhen Huan in the harem?
She would rather die by holding the fragrance on the branches than blow down the backbone in the north wind. However, she is still not as generous as Zhen Huan when dealing with people's lives and buying people's hearts. She is also there for the matter between An Lingrong and Xia Dongchun, but her attitude is to ignore it. Of course, ability is one aspect, and she may feel that she does not have the ability to end the fight between them.
However, attitude is more important. She is cold. Even if Zhen Huan wants to stand up for the wrongdoing, she will stop her first.
is right to protect yourself, but it is difficult to find a helper when you encounter the same dilemma.
Later, in the harem, she could say that she had only Zhen Huan as the helper, and Wen Tai Doctor was also introduced to her by Zhen Huan. If Zhen Huan had not helped her in the harem, she would probably not have survived 10 episodes.
. Because Zhen Huan often uses the principle of giving when dealing with others, she gathers around her. Concubine Duan , Concubine Jing, and Xin often spend a lot of people in .
She can sit on the throne of the queen mother, which can be said to be given to her team.
This article not only needs to learn how Zhen Huan handles conflicts, but also how she wins over strangers.
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