How should women choose between family and career?
Yang MiAfter giving birth, her daughter chose to return to work less than three months after giving birth. Zhao Liying also returned to work 6 months after giving birth, and participated in variety shows, and she was a little tired.
Angelababy returned to work less than 3 months after giving birth, and she also had a vest line.
is self-disciplined and confusing.
Why do you still have to choose to make a comeback in such a short time even though you are so rich? Why not sacrifice some time to accompany your children to grow up?
These three 85 flowers have one thing in common, they all chose careers, and there is another thing in common, that is, they are all divorced.
, and Tang Yan , which is also 85 flowers, chose a completely different path.
will not resume work
In February 2020, Tang Yan gave birth to a daughter. As the epidemic happened, she felt more about cherishing life and the present. Just the moment her daughter was born, she planned to share part of her time and energy with her family and life.
A few days ago, Tang Yan publicly stated in an interview that she does not plan to return to work for the time being, because one day she will return to the fast-paced work in the entertainment industry.
How busy is the work in the entertainment industry? Tang Yan talked lightly about her busy work flow in the past. After walking the red carpet of the event, she went to the airport and flew back to the crew that day to welcome the early morning scenes.
and other things are all fast-paced jobs that Tang Yan calls.
Now at the age of 38, she is already a mother and wife, and she knows better what is most important to her. At present, being a mother is Tang Yan’s most important task.
Once you come back to work, you will definitely have little time to spend with your children. The growth of a child is irreversible. She has been growing up. If she misses, she will miss it. If she grasps it, she will catch it.
And work can be done again, my daughter has only grown up once. Tang Yan chose to accompany her daughter to grow up.
Yesterday is yesterday. No matter how sweet Proust's Madeline Cake is, the real chance of taste is still zero. If you can't taste it, you won't daydream.
Tang Yan has a very clear understanding of this. She is just focusing on doing one thing and doesn't need to explain anything at the moment.
Because explanations are meaningless, those who believe you do not need explanations. Tang Yan chose not to respond to the words from the outside world.
Full-time child-accompanying
Tang Yan's daughter is 2 years old and she is currently in a nursery school. At a young age, she was arranged by her mother Tang Yan for many courses.
Just like Dad Luo Jin , he couldn't stand it anymore. He complained that his wife Tang Yan asked her daughter to go to class on Children's Day. Luo Jin believes that he should give his daughter a happy childhood. Tang Yan believes that her daughter has to cultivate different hobbies since she was a child.
In terms of parenting, Luo Jin could only obey his wife Tang Yan's arrangements.
In order to allow her daughter to get a better education, Tang Yan asked her 2-year-old daughter to attend a nursery school. After all, in nurseries, teachers will provide different enlightenment for children, which is not something that family can do.
Tang Yan also did it herself, and basically picked up and dropped off her daughter in person every time. Such responsibility is indeed admirable.
Among the 85 flowers, Tang Yan is also a relatively traditional actress. Yang Mi, Angelababy and Zhao Liying all chose to work, and in the end the family also faced a fall apart.
They are indeed pursuing their own value, but unfortunately their children have become children of single-parent families.
Family and career have not been taken into account since ancient times, but can only make choices. Just like Liu Shishi, chose to come back to work 6 months after giving birth, while Wu Qilong, chose to take care of the baby at home.
Both husband and wife must have one party sacrifices their career to accompany their children. Otherwise, there will definitely be cracks in the marriage.
Tang Yan, choosing to be a full-time mother at home is definitely a wise choice. First of all, at the age of 38, she has experienced the peak and highlights of her life. Secondly, she gave up her job opportunities to Luo Jin, which allowed Luo Jin to establish a good reputation on the path of actors.
Finally, as a mother, accompanying the child before he or she is 6 years old is definitely a priority over work. This point has also been recognized by Professor Zeng Shiqiang in .
Professor Zeng Shiqiang believes that marrying a wife is not virtuous and ruining three generations, doing housework and taking care of children, women’s contributions are the greatest. His own wife, daughter and daughter-in-law both have degrees, but they are all full-time mothers at home.
Overall, Tang Yan's decision was right. Children's growth is also inseparable from mothers. After her daughter was 6 years old, Tang Yan could still return to work. In this way, she will not regret missing her daughter's growth.
She is her boss, and she has resources and looks, and she can still work hard for her career at that time.
is very busy every day
In the eyes of the outside world, a full-time mother is a very relaxing job. Every day, I don’t have to work at home, I just need to accompany my children and do housework.
In Tang Yan's opinion, although she has not returned to work, her life is never as relaxed as everyone imagined. She also sighed: Actually, I am very busy every day.
In addition to accompanying her children, she will also invite friends to watch dramas in private, and will also go to her studio to handle things. Her life is still colorful, but she doesn't live under the spotlight .
As for the busy things every day, Tang Yan has not made it public. Anyone who understands it understands it, and there is no need to explain it.
Of course, behind Tang Yan's stay-at-home mother, it has nothing to do with the money imagined by the public. Even if Tang Yan, 38, does not rely on her husband Luo Jin, she has already achieved financial freedom.
Full-time child-to-do is something she has to do following her heart.
This society is always not friendly enough to women, and always attaches too many tags and responsibilities. As a famous woman, it is actually very difficult. If you go out to work hard, you will be said to be ignoring your family and irresponsible to your children. If you are spending time at home with your children, you will be criticized again.
Tang Yan is actually a woman who lives very well. She knows what to do at what moment, get married when it’s time to get married, give birth to a child when it’s time to give birth, and choose to be a full-time mother after giving birth.
has the support of her husband Luo Jin, a sensible and lovely daughter, and her parents are by her side.
Tang Yan's life is absolutely perfect and impeccable.
Tang Yan never regrets her decision and enjoys it even more.
