In life, there are thousands of complaints about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
From the mother-in-law's perspective, many people think that they have taken good care of their daughter-in-law, but the other party is still not satisfied enough and always thinks about picking on themselves.
And for the daughter-in-law, many people are also very aggrieved: You have promised that I will treat me as my own daughter after getting married, but the facts have proved that this is empty talk after all, and I am always an outsider in your eyes.
Because each other's expectations are too high, disappointment is also getting deeper and deeper in the life, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law finally shows a normal state of being incompatible with water and fire.
Some people classify the best relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as "like mother-in-law and daughter-in-law", but if you observe carefully, you will find that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who get along well in life are often not particularly "intimate", but are in harmony with each other and have moderate behavior.
Some time ago, I saw a star reality show, with the protagonists being Song Dandan and daughter-in-law Wang Bogu .
This is the first time Bogu and his mother-in-law were in the same frame on a variety show. The way the two got along was also praised by many netizens for being "comfortable" and "harmonious".
As we all know, as an actor, Bo Gu is 6 years older than Batu. After the relationship was exposed, many netizens were worried about Bo Gu. After all, her future mother-in-law is a big name in the comedy industry, and Batu is Song Dandan's only son, so the mother-in-law's requirements for her future daughter-in-law will definitely be very strict.
The majesty brought by fame also made Song Dandan laugh at herself in in program: all young people are "screaming" me as strong.
But how did my daughter-in-law Bo Gu respond?
She did not compliment her mother-in-law in a low manner, but said calmly: This is called responsibility. If you are not strong, how can this family work?
In a sentence, it affirms that the mother-in-law is not a strong person, and it also demonstrates her attitude: seriousness in doing things is not strong.
After listening to the comfort of his daughter-in-law, Song Dandan smiled happily.
In this mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, many people praised Bogu for his high emotional intelligence. She knew very well what attitude she should take if she wanted to maintain a harmonious family, that is: adhere to principles, be considerate and respectful.
Song Dandan is very good to Bo Gu, but obviously not as good as her being favored by her daughter. Bo Gu is also very considerate to Song Dandan, but he is not straightforward in speaking and doing things. The mother-in-law of the two is the mother-in-law, and the daughter-in-law is the daughter-in-law. It is precisely because of the embarrassment of pretending to be "mother and daughter", that both of them pay great attention to their sense of proportion when they get along.
Although they get along more rationally, this does not mean that the two will not feel sorry for and understand each other from the bottom of their hearts. In the program
, Bogu talked about her experience of feeding her baby after giving birth. Like many mothers, Bogu encountered "feeding difficulties" just after giving birth. She had not breastfeeded for several days and was urging by her biological mother, so she was inevitably depressed.
In response to this, mother-in-law Song Dandan's attitude touched Bogu very much.
Song Dandan first comforted his daughter-in-law, and then admitted that it didn't matter if there was no breast milk, and that the child could grow up with .
The mother-in-law's understanding and comfort made Bo Gu, who was the first mother, feel moved to tears at that time. When recalling this incident later, Bo Gu said that he would remember it in his heart for the rest of his life.
Song Dandan responded with a smile: What's wrong with eating milk powder? My son also ate milk powder when he was a child, so he shouldn't put pressure on the children.
Good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that they have a sense of proportionateness to each other
What is the most important thing for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along with? Some people say it is sincerity. After all, only sincerity can bring trueness. But in real life, there are many examples of sincereness being disappointed. Therefore, everyone began to question their dedication, and eventually it became that the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law were right.
In fact, it is important to treat each other sincerely, but at the same time, we also need to grasp a certain sense of proportion when getting along with each other. When different ideas collide, what the daughter-in-law should do is not to argue with reason like communicating with her own mother, but to make sure that the other party is her own mother-in-law and maintain respect for her mother-in-law when expressing her views.
Similarly, as mother-in-law, even if we really treat our daughter-in-law like a daughter, when there is disagreement, we need to understand the young people more and not scold our daughter-in-law without saying anything. The straightforwardness between mother and daughter does not apply to all mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
0 The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is like a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. However, facts have proved that without blood relationships as a bond, it is difficult to equalize mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The best mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is not to keep a distance and get along rationally.
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