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This year I rarely see new dramas I like, and I will revisit the old drama. Recently I watched " Knows " again. When I first watched it, I didn't find so many classic dialogues in the drama. I only realized that the reason why "Know till" was repeatedly repeated by so many people is because in addition to the good plot, the classic lines in it are more worth our repeated reminiscing.
If we apply it to life, I believe we will be less confused and confused.
Minglan When she was a girl, she was the youngest daughter of the Sheng family, but she did not receive the love of her father. After her mother passed away, she was blessed by her grandmother to grow up. Even so, she was still cautious in her words and actions, fearing that she would encounter an unexpected situation and cause trouble to her grandmother.
This also made her treat her husband with such a humble attitude after marriage.
Although she is not as timid as before marriage, she can also fight wits and courage with the Gu family's mother-in-law and aunts. When she occasionally feels tired, Gu Tingye proposes to help her solve the problem.
But she responded: We agreed, you are the one who is in charge of the outside and I am the one who is in charge of the inside. If you have to work hard on the family and the house, wouldn’t you lose money if you marry me?
In addition, she said while chatting with Danju and Xiaotao: has no one who is backer. He is a good person and cares about me, which is great.
However, don’t rely too much on people in everything. Everyone has their own difficulties. If you really want to rely on them, you can’t rely too much or too deep. The more you expect, the more you expect, you will inevitably be disappointed. Once you have more disappointment in , you will feel resentment. If you resent for a lifetime, hatred will arise, and you will be sad.
Danju said after hearing this: The eldest lady is not talking about the official family, but rather about the boss. Who knew that Minglan replied: He just wants to treat the official as the boss, and he must work harder.
Minglan's rationality not only makes us feel distressed, but also admires her even more. Putting aside Gu Tingye's rescue of her from danger a few times before marriage, he also spent so much effort to marry her. After entering the house, he loved her like a treasure. If it were an ordinary woman, it would be easy to regard such a man as a lifelong support.
But Minglan was able to realize clearly: is a newlywed now, so the general will naturally be a little fresh, but life is not only in these few months, and there are still decades to live in the future. If you always expect him, he will feel that he is burdened one day.
Minglan's words happened to be heard by Gu Tingye, and he felt lost, but he also understood Minglan's inferiority complex since childhood and had not been valued by others except for her grandmother. So he tried his best to protect Minglan, saying that marrying her was to let her enjoy her happiness several times, and also said that she was a gift from God to him.
Minglan responded gently, you have said this, I know.
She was not so proud of this, nor would she be domineering. Just when Gu Tingye handed over all his belongings to her on the night of her wedding, she knew that what Gu Tingye wanted was not an embroidered pillow, but a good wife and mother who could protect his family business and benefit future generations.
According to Gu Tingye's previous understanding of Minglan, he had long seen the wisdom and courage behind her weakness, and at the same time he also knew that she was careful about her plan and courage after step by step. They were the same type of people in their bones.
Minglan always keeps in mind the responsibilities that should be fulfilled as a wife, and always reminds herself to cherish Gu Tingye’s kindness to her and to be better for Gu Tingye.
The relationship between husband and wife needs to be sober and clear. Don’t be arrogant when facing your lover’s deep love for you, and act recklessly with your wife’s status, and live like a climbing trumpet , and attach yourself to a man. The final result of
is to lead to indifference in relationships and scare away the man who loves himself deeply.
Minglan responded sincerely and carefully to Gu Tingye's love for Gu Tingye. She tried hard to make herself more and more outstanding and stronger, and tried not to cause trouble to Gu Tingye if she could handle things.
not only share family affairs, but also helps him with advice on matters in the officialdom, which has made Gu Tingye's reputation better and stronger and his status stronger.
At first, everyone thought Minglan was high, but later everyone thought Gu Tingye made a profit. Even Xiao Qinshi said, "No wonder he had to marry that little concubine."
Sheng Minglan and Gu Tingye were both inside and outside, and one attack and one defense were perfect mutual assistance. The couple also respected each other in daily life, and they were even more difficult to be together later.
If a woman can do what Minglan said in marriage, would she be much happier? The divorce rate will also be reduced by half, after all, every man wants to be respected and looked up to by his own woman.
Of course, many men cannot treat their wives like Gu Tingye, especially when both parties can make money. Once there is a conflict, they will think of separation or even divorce, and they can say it casually. I can still live without him. Whoever can't live without him.
treat marriage as a joke. If you don’t realize the harm brought by this mentality, you won’t live well with anyone. After all, is still because we lack awe of marriage, more casualness and willfulness.
It is not easy to meet someone you love in your life. Give him respect, tolerate him, let him feel love and warmth, rather than thinking about how much we want from each other.
After all, I feel the pleasure of my lover first. Being good to him is not to lower yourself, but to fulfill yourself.
On the other hand, if you want a man to love you more, it is important to master it well. It is also necessary to use some "methods" in marriage at the right time. Don't be like Mo Lan. In addition to being jealous and losing your temper, you just rack your brains to harm others. You must learn from Minglan and think more about constantly improving yourself.
Only when men are good enough can they not leave easily. After all, men are creatures who know how to weigh the pros and cons better than women. If they don’t encounter something better, they will not let you go easily.
allows yourself to have more value, not just to please men, but to give yourself the confidence to live well and even better no matter who you leave. I think this is the inspiration Minglan gives to all women.
Life is not easy. I hope that after we meet our lovers who know each other, we can know how to manage and cherish them. The two of us work together and work together through thick and thin. #I'm creating the second issue of Toutiao#
