Just last month, Miao Jie of Shuimunianhua shared a conversation with host Xiao Dongpo to discuss the feelings after becoming famous.
You may not think that Xiao Dongpo, who is steady and decent on stage, was an earlier "TV matchmaker" than Meng Fei.
This male matchmaker who brokered countless marriages once had an unhappy marriage. Later, Xiao Dongpo had a flash marriage with a businesswoman whom he had known for only 55 days. Will he be truly happy this time?
In 1969, Xiao Dongpo was born in Jinan, Shandong. Because his parents were busy with work, he grew up with his grandmother in Harbin.
The unique humor of Northeastern people has made Xiao Dongpo eloquent and free from stage fright since he was a child. While playing wildly with children of the same age, Xiao Dongpo's greatest pleasure was to follow his grandmother to attract young people in the village. Seeing the smile from ear to ear when grandma took the wedding candy from the newlyweds, little Xiao Dongpo would also be happy too.
At the age of 18, Xiao Dongpo was admitted to Xi'an Highway College with excellent results. As an engineering student, he broke the stereotype of and and actively participated in various extracurricular activities.
Playing guitar, drums , singing and poetry recitation, the versatile Xiao Dongpo is very popular among his classmates and is a frequent guest at festival performances.
Three years later, Xiao Dongpo graduated successfully and found a stable job, but he was not satisfied with this. Rather than looking ahead to the rest of his life, Xiao Dongpo yearns for a future full of challenges.
What kind of future is full of challenges? This question forced Xiao Dongpo to widely try various part-time jobs after work.
worked part-time as a host at Jinan People's Broadcasting Station, played drums part-time at the bar downstairs, and actively signed up for the Jinan Youth Song Competition. The talent foundation laid in college showed Xiao Dongpo a variety of career directions, and also allowed him to gradually understand his future The path to take.
In 1994, Xiao Dongpo made up his mind that he would sign up to be the host of a new program on Shandong TV Station.
" You are not a broadcasting and hosting major, why should you be a host? " Xiao Dongpo's decision was immediately opposed by his family.
Xiao Dongpo did not come from a major, and he was not handsome and tall enough. Even if he worked part-time as a host, it was still a small stage. Now that he has to give up his iron rice bowl for an illusory dream and a position that thousands of people are competing for, anyone will think that Xiao Dongpo is whimsical.
But Xiao Dongpo doesn’t think so. Young people always have to fight hard.
Xiao Dongpo’s hard work really became a success. With years of accumulated stage experience and excellent on-the-spot reaction ability, Xiao Dongpo successfully became the official host of Shandong TV Station.
The fact made the relatives shut up, and also allowed them to start planning for Xiao Dongpo's second major event in his life-getting married.
Soon, the future blind date host met his first wife, the school beauty of Shandong Normal University , through a blind date.
In fact, at the beginning, the school beauties with many suitors looked down on Xiao Dongpo's ordinary appearance, but his humorous conversation made the school beauties have a great impression.
After some contact, Xiao Dongpo finally embraced the beauty and formed a happy family. The newlyweds had a very good relationship, and their love crystallized in the second year after their marriage.
Xiao Dongpo, who had a successful family and career, was full of energy and devoted himself to work with fuller enthusiasm. In this year, he began to host the " Rural Monsoon " column.
This evergreen Chinese agricultural column brought Xiao Dongpo the Golden Microphone Award in 2002, and also paved the way for him to enter CCTV.
In 2003, CCTV 7 wanted to select a host who understood the grassroots and could speak well because they were about to launch the country's first column with the theme of rural blind dates.
When Xiao Dongpo saw this request, he signed up without hesitation. This was a program tailor-made for him!
But Xiao Dongpo didn't expect that when he came home from get off work to share the good news with his wife, he would be greeted with anger from his wife.
"Are you giving up your family and children for this crappy program? "
In the opinion of his wife, Xiao Dongpo's status in Shandong TV Station is very high, so there is no need to mess around.As for her, she had a well-established job and her daughter was in primary school, so it was impossible for both of them to follow him to Beijing.
If Xiao Dongpo really chooses this column, it means that he will give up his current stable life and go to Beijing alone to work hard.
Xiao Dongpo could only explain to his wife in vain that there was no such rural blind date column before, and he wanted to give it a try, but his disappointed wife no longer wanted to talk to him anymore.
On the day he went to Beijing, Xiao Dongpo secretly made up his mind that he must make a career in Beijing.
's new column is called "Rural Agreement", which aims to use guests to talk about life, connect villagers, and achieve the goal of cultivating rural youth's correct outlook on life.
This is a new field and a new challenge for Xiao Dongpo and even CCTV 7.
Because it is a new program, Xiao Dongpo, who has just arrived, does not even have a formal establishment. He has to travel all over the country with the program team, and his food and accommodation are extremely poor.
No matter whether he fainted from heatstroke at the show site when the temperature was more than 40 degrees, or hosted the show when it was freezing at more than 20 degrees below zero, Xiao Dongpo persisted and completed perfect recordings one after another.
As the reputation of the program grew, Xiao Dongpo successfully obtained the CCTV program and was also qualified to buy a house in Beijing.
In order to surprise his wife, Xiao Dongpo bought a house in Beijing without telling her, and prepared to reunite with his wife and daughter.
Unexpectedly, Xiao Dongpo, who was full of joy, was waiting for his wife's divorce request.
Shen Teng once said that he was taciturn in the audience and devoted all his comedy to the stage. The same was true for Xiao Dongpo.
Before going to Beijing, Xiao Dongpo was a humorous husband. His clever eloquence could always make his family laugh. But Xiao Dongpo, who presided over "Xiao Dongpo", not only had to overcome the fatigue of traveling across the country, but also mobilized his whole heart to guide the shy rural youth on the stage.
As time went by, Xiao Dongpo didn’t want to say anything after recording the show, let alone answer his wife’s phone calls and chat about some family issues.
had nothing to say, which became the first crack in the couple's marriage.
In fact, after Xiao Dongpo went to Beijing, his wife regretted that she had been so angry with him.
At that time, Xiao Dongpo signed up to go to Beijing without consulting her, which really made his wife very angry. But the wife who calmed down quickly understood her husband's thoughts. Thirties is the prime age for career, and the talented Xiao Dongpo naturally wanted to try it out.
After thinking about it, his wife began to take her daughter to Beijing to visit Xiao Dongpo, but the busy Xiao Dongpo had no time to accompany them.
My wife was very disappointed with the successive missed appointments. Is it possible that work is so important that I can’t even spare a day or two to spend time with myself?
The days of less gathering and more separation brought this once loving couple to the end of their marriage.
Xiao Dongpo, who was frustrated in love, devoted all his energy to "Hometown Agreement", numbing himself with busy work and not thinking about his failed marriage.
"Xiang Yue" has lived up to his efforts, achieving ratings increases for eight consecutive quarters. In 2016, "Xiang Yue" was rated as the annual outstanding agriculture, rural areas and rural program.
Xiao Dongpo, who is proud of his career, is still single. No one has introduced him to someone over the years, but the shadow of his first marriage makes this "TV matchmaker" not want to miss anyone again.
However, love always comes unexpectedly. In 2014, Xiao Dongpo met the person of his destiny and completed their flash marriage in 55 days.
An eldest sister wanted to introduce a partner to Xiao Dongpo. He originally wanted to refuse with some weird reasons, but the eldest sister was really enthusiastic and Xiao Dongpo couldn't resist her and could only go to the appointment.
In order to show that he had no intention of getting married, Xiao Dongpo was late and pretended to be bored, hoping that the other party would give up.
But Zhu Yanxia, who was on a blind date with him, was an experienced businessman. She had been working in shopping malls for many years and saw through Xiao Dongpo's disguise at a glance. Not only was she not angry, but she started chatting with him slowly.
As the chat progressed, Xiao Dongpo got to meet his confidant. This ordinary-looking girl was not only knowledgeable, but also had many ideas that matched his own.
Why doesn’t Xiao Dongpo, who is 45 years old, long for the warmth of home? Once when he was ill in bed and Zhu Yanxia gave up her work to take care of herself, Xiao Dongpo's heart was completely broken.
But Xiao Dongpo still has one worry in his heart, and that is the daughter he had with his ex-wife.
Zhu Yanxia's response was also very simple: " You bring her to Beijing, and she will be my biological daughter from now on. "
After marriage, Zhu Yanxia fulfilled her promise and treated Xiao Dongpo's daughter as her own, and she wanted everything good and fun she saw. Bring her a copy.
After Xiao Dongpo's daughter came to Beijing, Zhu Yanxia made breakfast for her every morning. When Xiao Dongpo was on a business trip, she was responsible for picking up and dropping off her stepdaughter, and would also hold parent-teacher meetings for her.
This love has not faded even after Zhu Yanxia had her own child. She treats a bowl of water equally and never treats it differently.
Human hearts are made of flesh. When her stepdaughter discovered that Zhu Yanxia did not neglect her even though she had a little sister, she finally accepted Zhu Yanxia from her heart.
Xiao Dongpo is also strict with himself. He never has to let his sister do anything at home. Instead, he has clear rewards and punishments and treats them equally.
In this kind of family full of love, Xiao Dongpo's eldest daughter grew up to be lively and cheerful, with excellent morals and academics, and the younger daughter was also loved by everyone, smart and sensible.
Learning from the lessons of his first marriage, Xiao Dongpo invested more energy in maintaining family relationships.
Every morning, Xiao Dongpo would tell Zhu Yanxia jokes and start a new day with laughter. At this time, Zhu Yanxia would smile and pinch his neck to relieve Xiao Dongpo's cervical discomfort.
The increase in age not only represents the improvement of life experience, but also allows Xiao Dongpo to express his feelings better.
When Zhu Yanxia ignored his feelings and forgot to pinch his neck in the morning in order to take care of her newborn daughter, Xiao Dongpo was no longer as silent as before and allowed the cracks in the marriage to expand, but seriously explained his true feelings to Zhu Yanxia.
" You are busy taking care of your daughter, and I am busy working. The happy time that belongs to us is only ten minutes in the morning, " Xiao Dongpo held his wife's hand, " If you live these ten minutes well, you will be happy all day and all your life. "
Zhu Yanxia, who had a clear understanding of each other, understood what her husband meant. From then on, she never forgot the ten minutes of tenderness in the morning, and the relationship between the two became more delicate.
Xiao Dongpo, who is now in his fifties, still looks young. The nourishment of his family makes him look energetic. In 2018, he also won the May 1st Labor Medal and enjoys the State Council’s special allowance.
Xiao Dongpo, who has achieved both love and career success, continues to be active on the rural stage, bringing more down-to-earth programs to everyone, and enjoying the family warmth brought by his wife and two daughters, which is very enviable.
