In the previous article, Xiaohe wrote that Li Xueqin was annoying, and the messages in the comment area were not friendly. In fact, no matter how the commentators defend Li Xueqin, it cannot change the result presented in the show: in Taohuawu, few people like Li Xueqin, but ever

The previous article Xiaohe wrote Li Xueqin was annoying, and the messages in the comment area were not friendly.

In fact, no matter how the commenters defend Li Xueqin, it cannot change the result presented in the program: In Taohuawu, not many people like Li Xueqin, but people of all ages like spicy Yoko .

In the reunion chapter of the pilot film "Taohuawu", chief director Chi Yuan said that this program focuses on social observation and embodies the core of healing and community.

From Chi Yuan’s words, it can be seen that the goal of the program team is very clear: to observe the process of a group of people living together, to see how they establish social relationships with others, and how to draw healing power from this group.

Since we live in groups, we work together to help each other. In order for the group to have a good result, we must work together to accomplish something, so that everyone can gain something in the process.

Judging from the current program, Li Xueqin neither demonstrates the cooperation of the group nor the warmth of healing for others.

is instead spicy Yoko, with both the small sacrifice of cooperation and the warm healing of the spring breeze.

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In the first episode of the program, the old community members were familiar with each other and interacted without any obstacles, but the new community members were very uncomfortable.

On the way there by car, Song Yanfei showed the most obvious performance.

Dong Xuan drove, taking Lame Yoko and Song Yanfei to pick up Song Dandan. Dong Xuan said that this program is very good. There is no competition for ranking and elimination. It is relatively relaxed. Song Yanfei echoed, The nervous little hands never stopped rubbing each other.

Lamu Yoko asked if Dong Xuan and Song Yanfei had known each other before? Song Yanfei immediately straightened her back, leaned forward, and looked at La Mu intently. The panic and confusion of Song Yanfei's first meeting were so overwhelming that they overflowed the screen.

In reality, there are many people like Song Yanfei. Faced with this kind of situation, they feel sincere and fearful. They don’t know what to say, and they are afraid that they will say something wrong. They are also worried about whether they will not be liked by their peers and whether they will be able to blend in. Collectively, all kinds of worries and concerns are swirling in our hearts.

After everyone gathered in Taohuawu, Dong Xuan also said that she had always been outside the state and could not find a fulcrum to integrate.

While the new residents were spending their time in embarrassment and fear, all the old residents were catching up on their sleep.

In order to alleviate the embarrassment, a wave of newcomers hurriedly prepared meals, while another wave of people who couldn't cook could only sit at the dining table and agonize.

Fortunately, Lame and Wang Sulong were more considerate. Lame Yoko not only prepared the meals with everyone, but also cooperated with Wang Sulong to liven up the atmosphere and prevent everyone from being too embarrassed.

Wang Sulong saw a group of Xinwu residents sitting at the dining table, no one said anything and just stared. He was a little afraid of society and felt anxious. He wanted to liven up the atmosphere with everyone, but he didn't know how to start.

Just then Lame Yoko came over with a glass of water and sat down next to Wang Sulong. Wang Sulong took advantage of the situation and encouraged Lame Yoko to liven up the atmosphere.

Lame Yoko just said that she enjoyed the embarrassment of no one talking, so she was embarrassed. She immediately understood Wang Sulong’s painstaking efforts and turned around to ask Wu Dajing what constellation was. The sudden change of face made him Everyone was smiling.

During the cooking process, Yin Haoyu, who is of German and Thai descent, was not proficient in Chinese. Lame Yoko said that the noodles were melted and not delicious, but Yin Haoyu could not understand.

Lamu patiently tried to explain and help Yin Haoyu understand "melting".In the second episode of

, Wang Hedi wanted to do water yoga. He invited Wang Chuanjun , Wu Muye, Wang Sulong, Guo Qilin , but they were rejected without exception. When

publicly asked everyone if they wanted to do water yoga, no one answered.

Finally, Wang Hedi invited Lamu Yoko to play, and Lamu quickly agreed.

Lamu Yoko said that she was seduced by Wang Hedi's beauty. In fact, if you pay attention, you will find that Lamu not only praised Wang Hedi for his handsomeness, but also praised Wu Dajing, Fei Qiming, etc. She would sigh when anyone came to chat with her. I was fascinated by the other person's appearance.

The real reason is more that it is too spicy to bear.

Wang Hedi has been very fond of finding difficult questions since he joined the show, such as fitness, selling vegetables, living on a desert island, etc. He likes to challenge difficult problems. It can be seen that he should really want to experience yoga at sea.

It’s a pity that no one is willing to accompany this madman. Lamu felt his reluctance, so he was willing to fulfill his wish. This is a healing power.

Most people who have experienced collective life have this experience. At a certain moment, they either want to find someone to go out to play games, or want to find someone to go out for sex, or find someone to accompany them to play somewhere. .

In short, I was really thinking about doing something, but the invitations I sent out were always rejected.

At that moment, if someone is willing to accompany us, we can’t help but be grateful. Maybe our ideas are crazy, but there are still people who are willing to support us.

There is a saying on the Internet: What is the best friendship? You have been mentally retarded for many years, but I will never leave you.

Being able to be understood by others, and having one's own needs seen and treated kindly, is the most healing , whether it is understanding one's own difficult situation or understanding one's own thoughts.

The warmth that a group can give people, isn't it that when one person cannot be satisfied, someone is willing to help?

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In the previous article, Xiaohe wrote that Yin Haoyu said: " Hot sister will give you a sense of security. When I am with her, I feel very comfortable. "

The scene where Yin Haoyu said this is the show The team wants to arrange for four people to shoot a local promotional video. Yin Haoyu, Fei Qiming, and Meng Ziyi have already signed up to participate, and there is still one spot left.

It is difficult to produce promotional short stories. Li Xueqin and Lamu Yoko have experience. Song Dandan’s first reaction was to let Li Xueqin go. She felt that Li Xueqin had a brain.

Faced with Song Dandan’s praise and arrangements, Li Xueqin didn’t buy it. She denied that she had any brains and bluntly said that she was unwilling to direct, act and edit the video.

At this time, Yin Haoyu and Fei Qiming turned to ask for Yoko.

According to ordinary people's logic, the first person you think of is not me. You think there is someone more talented than me, so you first go to someone else to cooperate. If they don't agree, they come to me. It's the second best option. Why should I agree?

Besides, this job is hard, tiring, and thankless, so why should I be the wronged person?

These little Jiujiu Lame Yoko have no calculations. Even if he is not their first choice, when they have no way to complete it, Lame Yoko is still willing to help. This is what Xiaohe particularly admires.

In fact, even in actual work, we often encounter such problems, especially newcomers in the workplace.

A project is taught to newcomers to complete. They have no experience in handling it, do not know which links will cause problems, and do not know how to plan in advance to avoid it. At that time, newcomers often hope that there is a senior who can guide them.

However, in the workplace, we often see seniors who sit back and watch.

Leading new people is hard, tiring and may not produce results. Who of those refined and self-interested old people would be stupid enough to take on such a hot potato?

They would rather sit around in the office drinking tea and chatting, than give generous advice.

What’s more, watching you work so hard to bald your hair is still a great pleasure for them.

Only those seniors with compassion, who see how difficult it is for newcomers to do things and can’t bear to step into pitfalls every step of the way, and who are willing to give advice and help, can become a light in our lives and illuminate our way forward.

Therefore, although Xiaohe understands that Li Xueqin resents Song Dandan's arrogance and is unwilling to listen to her arrangements to make short films, but emotionally, Xiaohe admires Lame Yoko even more.

Because she saw the difficulties of Yin Haoyu, Fei Qiming, and Meng Ziyi, and also sympathized with their difficulties.

There is a saying in "Mr. Deka's Mailbox": "Courtesy and education are not just dry politeness, but also thoughtfulness and consideration that extend to others. This tests not only your emotional intelligence, but also your kindness."

Put yourself in someone else's shoes , if you meet people like Li Xueqin and Lame Yoko in life, who would you like to be friends with?

I thought further, would I rather meet more people like Li Xueqin or people like Yoko Lame?

is undoubtedly Yoko. Even in variety shows, people of all ages, from Song Dandan to Yin Haoyu, prefer to be in contact with Yoko.

After all, there are too many cold things in this world, and we need warmth to heal.

Some people say that nowadays variety shows are all scripted, and real people are not like this. Xiaohe hopes that this is the case.

I hope the real Li Xueqin is not so selfish, and I hope the real La Mu is still so gentle.

Author: Xiaohe, who was born among the gravel, opens his heart to the warm sun, writes sincere words, and lives an interesting life.