Little S and her husband are on the hot search again. The reason is that at a gathering of a group of celebrity friends, Little S and her husband cooperated with Jay Chou 's magic to see if they still love each other. Big S and her husband Gu Junye , Xiao S and her husband Xu Yajun both participated in magic. Although everyone ended up still loving each other, Big S and Xiao S had different reactions to the results. Big S just sighed that the magic was amazing and shouted how it was possible. But Xiao S hugged her husband and shouted, "You still love me, I thought you didn't love me anymore!"
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In response to this reaction, netizens commented that Xiao S's behavior was too humble. But I think this is Xiao S's usual way of expressing his feelings, and it may not be worth taking seriously. However, the attitude of the two sisters towards marriage is worth learning from us women.
In fact, many times, not only our marriage, but also any relationship we treat is often repeating the relationship pattern from our childhood.
Judging from their original family, among the three sisters in the family, eldest S is the one who often takes the lead. She looks more like the eldest child in the family than her elder sisters. Whether it was his father's domestic violence against his mother when he was a child, or the disputes between his aunts and his mother, Big S always jumped out to protect his mother. This has allowed Big S to assume the role of protection since he was a child. This is true in family relationships, and it is also true in sisterhood. She is used to being responsible for herself and the people around her. This is Big S's behavior pattern.
Little S is the opposite of Big S. Because Big S is a capable and strong sister, Little S's role is often that of a follower. She has always been a subordinate and follower in life. This is true in the sisters' relationship, and it is also true in her marriage. Because she needs this marriage more than Big S, because she needs someone by her side to let her play the role of a subordinate, no matter whether she is actually living well or not in this marriage. Because this is Little S’s relationship model.
So many times, what determines whether a marriage will survive is not whether the marriage itself is happy, but that many people can do without marriage, but some people need marriage more. This is why many people will say: "My husband (or wife) is like that and I haven't divorced yet. Your husband (wife) is fine, so why are you divorced?" The answer is that each of us has different needs.
There is a concept in psychology called "compulsive repetition". What is repeated? This is the relationship pattern we have been accustomed to since childhood.
Many people will say that children from the same family should have the same family of origin, just like the big and small S. Why are their personalities so different?
This is like a tree. When bathing in sunlight, the sunlight shines on the tree indiscriminately, but because of the angle, some leaves must enjoy more sunlight and some leaves less. This is related to the angle and the occlusion between the leaves. All have a great relationship. The problem of returning to the original family is the same. Mom and dad are the same, and the love they give may be the same, but some children feel it more and some children feel it less, and the relationship between the children is , also plays a big role. Some children play the role of leader in the family, while others play the role of subordinate. Their different roles also lead to vast differences in their personalities and thinking patterns.
