Another old artist overturned.
A while ago, " Song Dandan suffocation" rushed to the hot search. Baiyun and Liu Mei filters could not save her from being criticized wildly.
Since announcing her retirement in 2020, Song Dandan has filmed many variety shows, but every one of them will be complained by netizens for embarrassment and suffocation.
still remembers that a few months ago, stills of her when she was young were still circulating on the Internet, praising her as a true princess of Beijing. "No wonder she thinks Yang Zi is not beautiful."
Why has the trend changed again now? Why do young audiences have such opinions against the older generation?
The famous scene where Song Dandan overturned this time is called "Awkward 9 Minutes in Taohuawu" .
It happened in a variety show called " Fifty Kilometers Taohuawu ". The scene was a group of celebrity guests gathering together for a meeting to review today and make arrangements for tomorrow. Unexpectedly, serious generational differences emerged.
Song Dandan especially wanted to hold a bonfire party because she felt that the party was a good opportunity to bring everyone closer and get to know each other's talents.
So whether it was Li Xueqin saying she was bored, Wang Sulong trying to smooth things over, Wu Dajing proposing to hold a sports meeting, they could not stop her from insisting on voting for the second time, and the party was a given.
As soon as the front part said that we would not force the performance, the back part said that we would do a girl group dance, and finally expanded it to a group dance.
None of the young people sitting below wanted to join the cultural performance troupe, but their opinions and suggestions were suppressed without exception.
Only the "Team Builder" Wang Chuanjun said "I just don't want to participate, I won't participate" and became the most enviable existence.
, which lasted just 9 minutes, aroused a lot of resonance on the Internet, and everyone's expressions and attitudes can be discussed individually.
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The topic "Song Dandan suffocated" has also been on the hot search, but this is not the first time that Song Dandan has been complained by netizens.
As early as 2016, in the first season of "的生活", she took her son Batu on the show, showing a typical "Chinese-style parent".
During the 75-minute program, Song Dandan completely disliked Batu in front of He Jiong, Huang Lei, Liu Xianhua and the program team, leaving no face for his son.
sometimes disliked Batu for eating too much, and sometimes disliked him for not knowing how to work.
A golden sentence was born from this: I gave birth to a waste, but the waste must also be used.
Her characteristic of "throwing a party" was also shown in this program. After dinner, she started to cue people for the program. First she asked Huang Lei "Sing a song for you", which finally evolved into the chorus " Heart Burning" 》.
But back then, Song Dandan had not yet been equated with embarrassment. The variety show that made her synonymous with embarrassment was the first season of "Taohuawu".
You must know that the program setting of "inviting 15 guests to live together for 21 days" is very embarrassing. 15 people come from various fields and have their own living habits. It is impossible for everyone to be familiar with each other. There must be a running-in. and a familiar process.
But in the first episode of the program, Song Dandan went from "knowing but not familiar" to a distant relative urging marriage.
will either catch you and ask if you are looking for a partner, or ask you to tell me what achievements you have made.
Guo Qilin and Wang Sulong are still giving face, and they will keep making jokes and diverting the topic. When it comes to , Zhang Han and Wang Chuanjun, they just don't cooperate.
It can be said that as much disgust as Song Dandan caused, the young guests under her aroused much resonance.
Because of this role of "parent", in life, it may be our mother or our leader.
Xiaoning is a survivor of percussive education. It has been difficult for her to hear a word of praise from her parents since she was a child.
"If I get 90 points in the exam, I will be encouraged to try my best to get 95 points next time. If I get 95 points next time, I will be asked why I didn't get 100 points. Where did I lose the points?"
Even though she is now entering the society. Now, there is no unified standard such as scores, and we still cannot meet the expectations of our parents.
Xiaoning felt that her parents no longer just "wanted their daughters to become phoenixes" to her, but "wanted their daughters to become the most invincible phoenixes in the universe." There were always higher demands waiting for her, and they involved all aspects.
In terms of work, evaluate her salary, position and company;
In terms of marriage, she promotes love, marriage, and children;
Even when talking about having children in the future, her mother will dislike some of her parenting theories.
Therefore, Xiaoning’s daily work KPI completion is not just a matter of completion, but also the family OKR which is constantly improving.
"They are used to being my master. Some things must be done according to their wishes. This is a habit. If I refuse and resist, they will be like Song Dandan facing Wang Chuanjun, eyes wide open, especially I feel overwhelmed, and I feel a little soft-hearted at this time. "
So many times, Xiaoning adopts the method of silent resistance and delay, and does not directly bring up the conflicts between her parents and her.
Under the hot search topic related to "Song Dandan is embarrassed", some netizens said: "This suffocating environment is not actually created by Song Dandan, but by all the juniors who don't speak out."
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However, Xiao Wang, who has experienced such a workplace environment, said that when encounters such a leader, it is really difficult to speak directly.
The team she once worked for had a big leader who was a combination of Song Dandan + Huang Xiaoming . She also had a generational difference with the post-95 generation. Every meeting had to be based on his will, and she liked to create a superficial atmosphere. democratic atmosphere.
One of Xiao Wang’s colleagues is a patient person, trying hard to complete the goals set by the leader and meet the leader’s standards. The result is that after working overtime for several long nights, the work is still not recognized, and finally breaks out directly at the weekly meeting. Crying and slapping the table.
The leader was furious at the meeting and fired the employee on the spot.
Xiao Wang prides herself on being a straight-talker. At another department meeting, she had a dispute with her leader about one of her own tasks and directly refused to let her boss dictate what she was doing within her professional scope.
So what is the result of this conflict? Although the leader of
walked away on the spot with a grievance, she was gradually excluded from the team's decision-making circle. She did not want to be promoted. She was also interviewed by the team leader, and her words were reserved for the leader in the future. face.
"Of course juniors can say what they say directly, but that is based on the respect of the seniors. Otherwise, you will have to pay some price for what you say, and it will be in vain, especially in the workplace." Xiao Wang explain.
The reason why "9 Minutes in Taohuawu" triggered a lot of discussion is because many people are familiar with this environment, this kind of elders or leaders.
Everyone envied Wang Chuanjun for his courage to speak up and refuse, but everyone was like Li Xueqin, who was so aggrieved that he could only slap himself in the mouth.
The generational difference between the elders, or the seniors and the younger generations, is it the older generation that is too strong, or is it that the younger generation does not speak directly when they have something to say?
I have to say that whether it is the older generation or young people, many people are looking for a tacit understanding in the process of socializing, that is, even if I don’t explain clearly, you should be able to understand what I mean.
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Just like countless old TV dramas that have been praised in recent years, we cannot praise others for their well-written lines and everything without saying anything, and at the same time require everyone in real society to speak directly. .
I believe that many young people have been criticized by their elders for being "incomprehensible" and "ignorant". Therefore, the message everyone receives is that you cannot speak everything, but you must understand, especially when getting along with elders or older seniors. when.
Another reason why most young people still follow the older generation is that older people usually have more power .
Just like Song Dandan in these embarrassing 9 minutes, although she is not the "steward" but just a "parent", she has the final say by virtue of her age and years of achievements.
She doesn't really respect the opinions of young people, so what she wants to do will eventually be achieved, and at most it will be the withdrawal of individuals like Wang Chuanjun.
Especially in the workplace, "to speak out" usually means to be "hard-headed" or "prick-headed". Unless you have extremely strong personal competitiveness and irreplaceability, you will inevitably mention it with colleagues and leaders. Somewhat meaningful.
In a company, the leader has the right to decide your future in this company. Although you have the right to decide your own future in life, if you want to be that "workplace hero", it already means that your future is no longer in this company. company, because your colleagues sitting below may not even support you.
The battle for the right to speak, this is the truth about the generational differences between the elderly and the young.
The strength of the older generation is because they have held the decision-making power in their hands for too long, and they take their own ideas as the truth as a matter of course.
Of course young people want to speak out, but they can’t be asked to speak out while being pinched by their seniors, right?
Do many people dare to say this in reality?
But we can’t label all the older generation as “bad people” because they sometimes do bad things with good intentions.
still used Song Dandan as an example. She always kept in mind that everyone was here to record the show, just to put on a good show and make the audience in front of the screen happy, so she said that you can’t act, so why are you here.
It's just that times have changed, and the "good show" she thought was no longer the same thing as the "good show" the audience wants to see now.
Nowadays, a group of celebrities are sitting and eating melon seeds, and some people are watching
"The era is ours and yours, but it is yours after all."
The conflicts and differences between the two generations will never stop. One generation passes away, and another generation They rise to power, and then a new generation comes to challenge them, and the cycle repeats.
And at this moment we are laughing at Song Dandan, and all the frictions we have with older relatives or leaders are just the pain of our generation fighting for the right to speak.
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