Text/Editor by Xingxing/Little Love Letter "If you were asked to make a choice between career and having children now, what would you choose?" Maybe many women will choose a career. After all, in the eyes of most people, only with a career can you choose. Only when you have the c

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"If you were asked to make a choice between career and having children now, what would you choose?"

Maybe many women will choose career, after all, in the eyes of most people , Only with a career can you have the confidence to live your own wonderful life.

But actor Tian Min doesn't think so. She wants to have a child more than my career.

But in fact, she is still unmarried and has never been a mother. However, she has played countless mother roles on the screen, and is therefore called a "professional mother" by many viewers.

For Tian Min, getting married and having children are the things she wants to accomplish most in her life.

But since that ten-year relationship ended, although she tried very hard to start a new chapter, she always failed. To this day, she is still looking for her lover in the vast sea of ​​people.

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"Why haven't you considered getting married? Is it because you haven't found the right one?"

"I want to get married, and I'm also working hard on blind dates."

When Tian Min was not young, he was asked again why not When they got married, she finally confessed that she was trying hard to date.

Tian Min’s life has always been occupied by filming and blind dates. One after another, she has interpreted different types of mothers.

spends most of the year on filming. On days when she is not filming, she is busy following Tian's mother's arrangements and going on blind dates.

She really wants to find someone to get married and have children, have a home of her own, and live a stable life.

I don’t know if it was due to luck, but all the blind dates Tian Min met left her speechless. The blind dates did not let her find love, but made her recognize the reality.

At that time, Tian’s mother saw that her second daughter was not married yet, so naturally she felt worried and anxious, so she had to make more "efforts" for her second daughter.

The so-called caring leads to chaos. Sometimes being too anxious will be counterproductive.

Tian’s mother would watch CCTV’s program “Choice” every day, and then see which person was more suitable. If she found someone suitable, she would take the initiative to call the program team.

Or look at which aunt's family also has marriageable men who are eager to get married, and ask them to help set up a connection for Tian Min to go on a blind date.

With the unremitting efforts of Tian’s mother, Tian Min finally arranged a blind date for Tian Min with two men who were said to be in good condition. Tian Min also adjusted her schedule obediently, but it was a pity that the blind dates disappointed her more and more time after time.

The first blind date was in a high-end club. Tian Min looked at the man shaking his legs across from him and began to doubt his life.

Her basic requirements for a man are nothing more than two things, one is that he must be well-educated, and the other is that he must graduate from college. However, the man opposite cannot even meet this point of self-cultivation.

Tian Min couldn't stand the other person's constant shaking of his legs, so he said a few words. Unexpectedly, although the other party didn't shake his legs, he would shake his hands and turn over the dishes while eating.

Not only that, he also chirped. After wiping his chopsticks, he helped Tian Min pick up the food. At that moment, Tian Min even wanted to throw away the plate.

But her upbringing prevented her from doing so. She just quietly asked the waiter to remove her plate.

The second blind date was with Tian’s mother, because it might be a third party who set up the connection. Both parties found that they didn’t know each other very well, so the first meeting was just to understand the situation.

At the end of the day, Tian Min seemed to have a good impression of this man, but when he finally paid the bill, the man sat awkwardly and looked around.

In the end, Tian's mother was asked to pay the bill. This behavior was already a moral problem in Tian Min's eyes, so naturally there was no follow-up to this blind date.

The successive failed blind dates made Tian Min no longer have any hope in blind dates, so he began to focus on his work and started filming like crazy, just to avoid his mother's tricks to urge her to get married.

Strangely enough, Tian Min is as beautiful as a flower. When she starred in "Story of the Editorial Department", she had curly hair and a fashionable suspender. She was very charming. In addition, she has always had a good personality and was kind to others.

Why do girls like this delay themselves until they reach the stage of blind date and marriage?

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In fact, when Tian Min was still ignorant about relationships, she had a first love, which was young and beautiful.

At that time, Tian Min didn’t understand what it meant to be human, and she wasn’t a big star. She was just a little girl who was simply immersed in love.

First love is beautiful, but it is also the most difficult to reach the end.

After Tian Min and his first love boyfriend dated for a while, his first love boyfriend suddenly left without saying goodbye and disappeared directly into Tian Min's world.

Many years later, Tian Min met him again by chance, and couldn't help but ask him why he left without saying goodbye. Who knew the answer was something Tian Min never expected:

"Your demands are too high. I was all pretending, but I couldn’t pretend anymore.”

After hearing this, Tian Min only felt regretful and ridiculous, but maybe he could understand why the boy was like this. People always do it in front of the person they love. I can't help but pretend to be what the other person likes.

But in the end, I forced myself to do it, and it was not a long-term solution, so the two people could only separate.

Therefore, first love is like a cinnabar mole to Tian Min.

Although the ending was not happy, this young love left a lasting mark on her youth, with regrets that she would never forget.

Later, Tian Min met a good man again. Although Tian Min was already working in the entertainment industry at that time, he still threw himself into this relationship regardless, and this relationship lasted for ten years.

Ten years, not ten days, not ten months, but ten whole springs, summers, autumns and winters.

In Tian Min's best ten years, she gave her best youth, best feelings, and most sincere heart to this man.

It's just that deep love is always let down. Later, the two of them still didn't make it to the end, and of course they didn't get married. Tian Min's ten years of youth were ultimately wasted and he gained nothing.

As for why they separated, Tian Min just said this:

"At that time, I didn't plan the future properly, and the two people who loved each other still separated."

Maybe this is reality. It is not because of love that makes two people who love each other separate. The dissipation of mind is not due to time, and certainly not due to the appearance of a third party.

Sometimes it’s just because you can’t go on anymore, and you can only let go of the past when you can’t see the future.

Tian Min was very sad because of this fruitless ten-year relationship, and he did not recover for several years after that.

When Wang Fang asked about this matter when he was on the show, Tian Min stopped smiling in front of the camera for the first time and shed tears. He was very helpless and said to Wang Fang:

"Can we not talk about it?" This topic? "

Once upon a time, I loved to express my love with my mouth. Who would have thought that later I would not even say a few words about the other person? Maybe this is the helplessness of love.

These two relationships, one let her know what being loved is, and the other let her know what love is. The first one left her with some beautiful memories, but the second one just made her unable to bear it. shed tears.

Perhaps it was because he was hurt too deeply that Tian Min never had a relationship again and remained single. But if there was someone to accompany him, who would want to be alone?

And is Tian Min unable to get it because of the love from his previous relationship, or is it because he has never met a better person?

When will Tian Min’s bumpy love journey end?

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In fact, the reason why Tian Min is so emotionally frustrated may have something to do with her native family.

Tian Min was born in Hefei, Anhui. His father is a museum curator and his mother is a singer. His parents are very loving. It is a blessing to grow up in such a family full of cultural heritage.

Tian Min’s parents are very loving, so loving that even the name of their child is related to their love. Tian Min’s sister is the famous host of Beijing TV Tian Ge . That’s because Tian’s mother loves to sing, so she was named the name.

As for Tian Min, Tian’s father thought about his wife’s hometown in Anhui, and there is a mountain in Anhui called Min Mountain, so he simply named it Tian Min.

The family lives very happily, the husband and wife are loving, and the children are obedient and sensible.

However, the good times did not last long. When Tian Min was nine and a half years old, Tian's father passed away.

A family suddenly lost its backbone, and all the burden fell on Tian’s mother in an instant. Fortunately, Tian’s mother was a very strong woman:

“I thought at that time that I must take care of my three children and raise them well. They educate well.”

So in Tian Min’s childhood, every time Tian’s mother had nothing to do at night, the family would sit in the yard.

Tian’s mother would always tell them many fairy tales under the moonlight, teaching them to be mature, sensible, kind and so on.

And Tian Min also learned a lot from her mother. She understood that a woman should be self-reliant and down-to-earth, but she never learned what love is.

Tian Min's parents did love each other, but because Tian Min's father passed away when Tian Min was very young, Tian Min seemed to be naturally slow and passive towards feelings.

This is probably one of the reasons why Tian Min keeps missing and looking for his own love.

Secondly, it may also be related to the relationship of those ten years. The relationship of ten years seemed like a thorn in her heart. It might be cured, but it also left a mark. In the following years, Tian Min was busy working Numbing yourself:

"Once people start to get busy, they can forget a lot of unhappy things."

Tian Min wants to use work to numb herself, but the reality keeps reminding her that she is alone. Every time she is interviewed, those reporters and The host will ask her why she is not married at this age and whether she wants a child?

But in fact, Tian Min doesn't think about it. It's just that many things are not a matter of whether she wants to or not, but whether she can encounter them or not. The pain of the past has passed with time, and now she is also working very hard to find the one she likes.

But hard work is hard work, but it does not mean giving in. It can be seen from her attitude during filming that Tian Min is a very serious person.

When cooperating with Jiang Wen to film " One Step Away ", Tian Min put on makeup for four hours every day in order to highlight the character's sense of age.

had to perm her hair for the role, and a lot of her hair fell out, but she had no complaints.When

was filming " Rules Before Divorce ", in order to express her love for her son in a limited space, she mustered up the courage to propose to the director to change her lines and create a second creation.

How can such a serious person be careless about his life partner?

But marriage still depends on fate. If the fate is there, it may be decided in a month. If the fate is not there, it may not be possible to get married even if it takes ten years.

"I want to find a more considerate life partner, but I have never met one."

Therefore, Tian Min can only find the one he likes while working. Through Tian Min's continuous hard work, Tian Min gradually becomes a mother. Professional account.

With her successful career, she has become the pride of her sister. However, there has been no good news about Tian Min's relationship.

This year Tian Min not only participated in the urban light comedy "Dream Chasers", but also participated in the TV series "Ms. 's Rules ", in which she starred as Qian Qiuqing.

has short, capable hair and a very strong aura. Many viewers praised Tian Min's acting skills, and any piece of it can be used as an acting textbook.

Just because she and Liu Mintao played the role of mother and daughter in the play, many viewers couldn't help but guess Tian Min's real age, and were also curious about why she looked so old and hadn't considered getting married.

That fate was like a dream, and that person was like the moon. It was true that the moonlight once shone on her body, but it was not the moon that belonged to her.

Having said that, it is still a pity that many people cannot empathize with what it is like to have ten years of youth in one person, nor can they empathize with the sadness of the scrawled ending of ten years of youth.

So it may be that he has taken a dim view of marriage, or he no longer believes in love because of the relationship of those ten years.

Tian Min can live the way he does now, taking good care of himself, having a job he likes, and living a life he likes, which is also a kind of happiness.

Perhaps this also reflects that modern people have a more rigorous attitude towards marriage. They can fall in love freely, but they will think deeply and seriously about getting married.

This may also be a good thing. After all, there is not only love in marriage, but also responsibilities and daily necessities. Rather than hastily getting married, it is better to be alone.

Searching and choosing carefully is the correct attitude towards marriage.

And Tian Min's lover believes that he will appear in a sunny season, come just for her, listen to her talk about the difficulties of the past, and is willing to walk with her through thick and thin into the palace of marriage.