The hottest new drama recently is none other than "Meng Hua Lu". Halfway through the broadcast, the discussion continues unabated. In terms of historical texture and plot presentation, "Menghualu" can be regarded as sincere enough.

's most popular new drama recently is none other than " Meng Hua Lu ".

has been broadcast for more than half of the time, and the discussion continues unabated.

"Sister Fairy" appeared in a costume drama for the first time in 16 years. Who can resist this "feast of appearance"?

just want to ask, which episode have you shown off so far?

In terms of historical texture and plot presentation, "Menghua Lu" can be regarded as sincere enough.

We can finally see that in the ancient style, there are not only mindless "shuangwen" and "Xianxia" based solely on special effects. Although

also has strange sounds.

“It’s hotly searched every day, and it’s annoying to death.”;

“It’s not just about speculating on CP, it’s also about Michelle Chen !”

Many people are disgusted with the over-marketing of the show, so I won’t add more. It's so noisy!

If you can endure it, just read on. It’s okay if you’re not interested. There’s no need to force it.

As a parenting blogger, let’s discuss what inspiration it can bring to us in raising children?

In "Menghua Lu", the relationship between the three sisters Zhao Pan'er, Sun Sanniang and Song Yinzhang is enviable. However, these three sisters have completely different temperaments, and the natural endings are also different.

Zhao Paner met Gu Qianfan. Although Sun Sanniang was married and had children, she did not give up on herself after the divorce and met the "good man" Du Fuzi.

"Scumbag Harvester" Song Yinzhang is really going to piss people off! She was deceived by a scumbag twice in a row. The first time was pitiful, and the second time was chilling. fell into the same quagmire twice, why didn't she have a long memory?

Song Yinzhang was born in Leji, with a low status. He always wanted to be a good person, and he also wanted to find a good support!

has a perfect love brain and is silly. She and Zhou She have only known each other for fifteen days and decided to marry him. Zhao Paner persuaded her earnestly and analyzed for her that Zhou She is either a good man or a scumbag. But Song Yinzhang didn't believe it, even He did not hesitate to fall out with Zhao Pan'er, who was like a real sister, and finally eloped with Zhou She. After

was deceived by Zhou She, although they were married, 's lowly status as was still the same, and she was not even a concubine.

was raped all day long without being paid. In the end, he was chained around the neck and arms like a dog. He was not even given a drink of water, let alone a meal. It was really miserable!

I thought that Song Yinzhang would become sober and self-reliant after this experience, but he didn't want her to be so angry and undisputed.

Just when the three sisters finally started their careers in Tokyo, Song Yinzhang was targeted by Shen Ruzhuo of the Jiaofang Division again!

Shen Ruzhuo was full of oil, and his words and deeds were very frivolous. Anyone with a discerning eye could see that this man was unreliable, but Song Yinzhang fell into it again. I am moved by the hypocritical sincerity of this man who is looking for flowers and flowers! He eloped again and was finally given to an old man who was over seventy years old!

Many viewers are tired of worrying about her, and are angry at her:

Zhao Gu’s love story didn’t take the initiative to tell anyone, Sanniang and Zhaodi could see it, but she couldn’t realize it; she was too sensitive and didn’t consider other people’s feelings. A young lady's temperament; a personality with low self-esteem to the point of dust, but with a little soil, she will be proud to the end of the world.

In short, no matter the environment, people, language, honor, there is nothing that does not affect her all the time. It seems like a grass without roots, sad and hateful.

was so angry after reading it! He secretly vowed not to raise his daughter like Song Yinzhang.

Give children a sense of security without questioning, but they must not be overprotective.

Compared with boys, girls are sensitive and more likely to be sentimental.

When raising a girl, remember to give her a sufficient sense of security so that she can face the storms in the future with more ease and certainty.

The sense of security given by parents is the confidence of girls in this world. With the strong support of their families, no matter what kind of storm they face, girls will be less fearful and more brave and calm.

People who don’t get love in their native family are easily moved by a little love from others, thus breaking away from the family and embarking on the wrong path. So, if you have a daughter, be sure to give her lots of love. That way she won't be easily impressed by those "scumbag men" with ulterior motives.

At the same time, you should not be too protective when raising a daughter. We often say that you must let her take the detour a person takes. Only in this way can she grow into what you want her to be.

When you raise your children too well and protect them too well, the girls who walk out of the greenhouse will easily become the target of evil people and be eaten cleanly.

The reason why Song Yinzhang made mistakes was because she was protected too well by Zhao Paner. Because of Song Yinzhang's sister's entrustment, Zhao Pan'er took care of Song Yinzhang in everything, and did not let her participate in many things. It was precisely because of this protection that Song Yinzhang imagined the world too well, and she failed to see the multi-faceted nature of people.

Improve her sense of self-worth and cultivate her ability to handle things independently

Song Yinzhang in the play always thinks that she is inferior to others, which is what we often call "low self-esteem."

Even though she is capable and has superb skills in playing the pipa, she focuses on her lowly status.

Official prostitutes cannot leave their lowly status, and Zhou She promised to help her escape from this status. This was her knot, and Zhou She also saw this clearly.

She is not strong enough or confident enough to care about other people's eyes and opinions. These weaknesses can easily be exploited.

And because she thinks too low of herself, she regards men as gods and marriage as the only salvation.

Song Yinzhang didn't believe in herself from the bottom of her heart. She didn't believe that she could live a good life without getting married without a man.

She wants to find someone to help her. She doesn't believe that she can do everything by herself.

Even if it wasn't Zhou She, as long as another man told Song Yinzhang that he could help her and let her rely on him, he would still believe this man without hesitation.

In the final analysis, Song Yinzhang was not confident enough and did not trust himself.

Never feel inferior, never give up, be willing to work hard, and have a positive attitude towards life, which is enough to support a brilliant tomorrow.

Girls must see their own excellence and believe in their abilities.

Only by focusing on yourself can you truly live an enviable and respected posture and shine on your own stage.

If you don’t raise a good girl, you allow girls to be disobedient.

For a long time, we have always had a presumption that daughters are easy to raise but sons are difficult to raise. Because of this presupposition, we always unconsciously say to girls, "You have to be good and obedient. We will not imitate those naughty children." These words unconsciously became the girl's inner voice.

As a result, when the "good girl" grew up, she would not speak out bravely when faced with injustice; when faced with differences, she would choose to compromise and accommodate. Since childhood, girls have been allowed to be "disobedient" and allowed to express opinions that are different from ours and different from other girls around them. This is not only important, but necessary.

For a long time, our society has had too many labels for women. Many times, our inner voices are often drowned out by arguments about "what women should do, think, and behave."

When a girl is encouraged to express different opinions from an early age, she will understand that her voice is valuable and will be heard; when a girl argues with us from an early age, she learns how to express herself in an organized way , how to persuade others with reason and evidence, you must know that many women are particularly weak in this ability. This may be due to lack of training and training since childhood.

And the most important thing is that she has established her own values, knows what is really important to herself, and how to firmly maintain these, instead of being led astray by useless "how should be done, or everyone else is like that" .

When I was in high school, I asked my mother, "Do I want to be a strong woman? My good friend said that strong women are not cute or gentle, and there is nothing good about them."

My mother said, "As long as you are what you like, you don't need to care about what other people think. If you have to ask your mother what she thinks, she thinks that every woman should become a strong woman, and we are still women first. We can be gentle or coquettish, but our hearts are extremely strong.”

I hope that we and our daughters can be "soft as wicker and strong as steel"!

Do not attach gender labels, explore children's individual talents

Sometimes I find that many girls around me are used to seeing themselves as weak:

They are not as smart as boys, and it is useless no matter how many books they read. They cannot say anything when others bully them and can only endure silently...

As a result, troubled by the "weak mentality", their lives have become increasingly negative and depressed, and they cannot live with confidence and confidence.

Song Yinzhang, who appears weak and submissive when he first appears, is used to hiding under Zhao Paner's protective umbrella. Even though she was in bad hands and married to a "domestic violence man", she could not think of any way to save herself and allowed herself to be bullied and abused.

In fact, when we get along with girls, we will find that each child has his or her own unique personality characteristics, which often have nothing to do with gender.

Therefore, parents should work harder to discover and explore their children's individual talents, and should not be limited to the way they get along and play with her, and should not be based on the child's gender.

For example:

Try to provide your daughter with a variety of toys, including dolls, toy cars, building blocks, etc., rather than just satisfying your own mentality of "this is a girl's toy";

let the child decide for himself what games to play and with whom Play...

In other words, if a girl loves toy cars, parents can satisfy their child's wish or preference, which will not hinder the development of her gender role.

Moreover, if there is an opportunity, when girls want to experience traditional masculine activities such as power and control, what we should do is encourage rather than restrict.

In fact, no matter whether it is a boy or a girl, the process of getting to know yourself and exploring your own heart is like the pony in " My Little Pony Crossing the River ", who uses his or her own feelings to judge.

It is particularly important to raise a girl, develop an independent personality, an optimistic spirit, and give her the courage to persist in her dreams.

Every outstanding girl is inseparable from the hard work of her parents.

cannot give a girl shelter from wind and rain, so we use bottom line, education, tenacity, optimism and independence to provide her with the nutrients to grow, so that she can become a "life warrior" who can stand alone.

Raising a girl is not simple at all. We work so hard to raise our daughter well, is not to expect her to change the world, but to prevent her from being changed by the world.

What are your thoughts on raising girls?