文|Jing Ma
Cecilia Cheung usually lives in Hong Kong, but during this time, she frequently went to the mainland to participate in various variety shows. She participated in "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves" before, and recently participated in the variety show "Make Life Beautiful".
It seems that there are more job opportunities in the Mainland. In her spare time, Cecilia Cheung is thinking of sending her two sons to Shanghai to study in an international school. After all, she will have more job opportunities in the Mainland. Be able to spend more time with children.
In the program, Cecilia Cheung first called the eldest son Xie Zhenxuan . Because it was in the show, Cecilia Cheung turned on the megaphone, was sitting on the sofa and called his son, looking at Cecilia Cheung's expression a little nervous, didn't feel like calling his son, but like calling his father .
Cecilia Cheung carefully tested her son in English: The school here in Shanghai is very big, more than ten times bigger than Hong Kong. Would you like to come and have a look?
Xie Zhenxuan is 14 years old and likes to play games at home. As soon as mother said this, she probably knew what her mother wanted to express. immediately rejected her mother NO NO.
When Cecilia Cheung was on the phone with his son, he kept fiddling with the remote control and seemed very nervous. Later, Cecilia Cheung said that he was most afraid of his son!
and , her son is reluctant to go to school in Shanghai, she is not reluctant to , after all, the child grows up and has his own thoughts.
Netizens with sharp ears heard the voice of Cecilia Cheung's eldest son Xie Zhenxuan, could hear the child's character is very and cold , it is estimated that he will be a cool brother in the future, and 's voice is also more like Nicholas Tse's cool voice, and the photos he usually post are also Like Nicholas Tse, it seems that the eldest son of is simply a mini version of Nicholas Tse.
Not long after, Cecilia Cheung called his second son again. His son's personality was not so cool, and he would act like a spoiled child with his mother, but he also politely refused to let him go to school in Shanghai. The phone is out of power, just hang up.
Cecilia Cheung communicated with his son: failure.
Many parents feel that Cecilia Cheung seems to spoil their children too much!
But many children can't help but sigh when they see this video: I hope that their parents, like Cecilia Cheung, can respect 's own opinions , instead of forcing themselves to go to this class or that class, most of the parents are on their own the will to demand the child.
Children always need to grow up , this world needs children to explore by themselves, so when our parents are cultivating children, should focus on cultivating children's independence, after children will leave their parents and roam the society single-handedly. Be less frustrated.
Fostering children to achieve these six points, children grow up more independent and more promising, mother remembers the first point of
: learn to let children make their own choices Whatever my mother says, she likes to say no, no, I don't do it.
This is because children hope that they can make their own decisions and have the right to choose.
Parents must put the right of choice in the hands of their children. For example, when a child gets dressed in the morning, take a skirt and a set of clothes and ask: Do you want to wear a skirt or pants?
The child is playing the slide and doesn't want to go home. Would you like to play for another three minutes or five minutes?
Let children learn to choose from an early age, in fact, is to provide children with valuable exercises, so that children can make decisions that are more beneficial to themselves.
Let children choose from a young age. When they grow up, children know what kind of company to choose, what kind of career to choose, what kind of method to choose, and are responsible for their own choices.
The second point: Respect the child's efforts
Children strive to balance their bodies when walking, and in the process of striving, they will fall from time to time, which is an inevitable experience for children in the process of walking.
Some parents are worried about their children falling and always want to help their children walk.
Parents are reluctant to let go. In fact, they look down on their children's efforts, which is even more detrimental to their children's learning to walk.
When you are about to go out, the child is still slowly getting dressed. Have you grabbed the child's clothes and helped them wear them?
wrong! You should respect your child, and you should give your child more time for your efforts in the learning process.
When a child's efforts are respected, he will be more attentive to complete this task and learn to do it faster.
The third point: don't ask the child in detail.
For example, when the child goes out to a party, the parents start to ask: Who are you partying with? Where are you going to party? What time does it start? What time does it end? How much will it cost?
Parents ask their children in detail, but they are actually uneasy and unacceptable to their children.
will make children feel that their private life is violated, we only need to understand what children do? I'll be back in about what time.
The fourth point: Don’t rush to tell the child the answer
Children like to ask 100,000 whys, such as “DadWhy do birds fly?”
Many fathers may directly tell their children, because birds are very light, and birds The bones of the bird are hollow, and the structure of the bird's wings is ingenious, and it can use the power of the air to fly in the sky.
In fact, When the child asks why, we should start the child's thinking about ability , and we can ask the child : Why do you think birds fly?
Which is heavier than humans? What is there in birds that we do not have?
Initiating the child's thinking ability can make the child learn more and impress the child more than telling the child the answer.
The fifth point: encourage children to make good use of resources
Parents are not omnipotent, for example, the child's bicycle is broken, what will you do when you tell you? We can say to the children: Then we will push the bicycle to the bicycle repair shop on the street and let the master take a look.
When going to repair the car, let the children watch as much as possible, and even let the child ask the master, what kind of car should be paid attention to so that it is not easy to break.
Children ask their parents questions about their studies. Parents can encourage their children to ask their classmates with better academic performance, or ask their teachers, so the answers will be more accurate.
Children will seek resources from primary school , and grow up to be more promising.
The sixth point: Don't discourage children's confidence
For example Children say: Dad, I want to be a writer when I grow up. Dad said: You are still a writer just because of your Chinese performance and expressive ability?
This is the distrust and blow to the child, which will make the child lose confidence and make the child feel inferior.
Smart parents will tell their children: It's good to want to be a writer! If we want to be a writer, we have to start working hard now. What kind of abilities do writers need?
With the approval and encouragement of parents, children will automatically and consciously enhance their abilities and finally achieve their own wishes.
Fundamentally speaking, only our independent thinking can truly have truth and life. Because they are the only things we can comprehend over and over again. The thoughts of others are like the leftovers on the table of others, like the clothes removed by a stranger. ——Schopenhauer
Reference material "How to speak so that children will listen and how to listen so that children will speak"
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