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Rather than using success studies to ask young people to "control your emotions", what we need more is what Long Yingtai encouraged everyone in the 1980s - "I'm fed up, I'm angry".
Our "tool person" attribute is increasingly strengthened, and the rich emotions seem out of place. /pexels
Contemporary workers do not have the freedom to vent their emotions.
From the emoticon package of Uncle Long-nosed Hair, a live-streaming celebrity, "a cold-blooded killer without emotion", to the expressionless "poker face", and then to the popular social animal emoticon package "It doesn't matter, it's a little tired", migrant workers are experiencing A wave of "de-emotionalization" is taking place - emotions and anger are invisible, and likes and dislikes are indistinguishable.
Over time, happiness and anger, good and evil, blurred boundaries, and degraded senses.
Successful learning begins to sell you from the first second you step into the workplace: qualified adults need to keep a distance from anger and tears, and powerful people have already given up their emotions. Because emotions are inversely related to productivity, because emotions affect your relationships.
In the face of these overwhelming "emotion management" workplace cheats, we put negative emotions at the bottom of the box, and learn to be a "silent" mature adult, even the collapse should be silent.
However, "emotion management" should be a means to help us explore and balance ourselves, but at the practical level, it has been simplified as "emotional suppression". In the imbalance of emotional feeling and emotional expression, our emotional mechanism gradually becomes abnormal, depression, indifference, loss of passion, and exhaustion.
Emotions are not only related to individual psychology, but are also dominated by social systems and capital logic.The emotional disconnection in modern society, and the emotional exhaustion that spreads everywhere today, who is trying to rewrite our emotions?
In the dissonance of emotional feeling and emotional expression, our emotional mechanism gradually becomes abnormal.
Don't say "emotional separation",
Migrant workers have long had no emotions
"I have forgotten how to cry." On Zhihu, a young man with no emotions said so.
The concepts of "tool man", "overworked" and "accelerated society" are still gaining popularity, and "emotion exhaustion", which is also a disease of the times, has come again.
According to Wikipedia, emotional exhaustion is a chronic state of physical and emotional exhaustion due to excessive work and constant stress. The physiological mechanism of emotions, after a series of "external modifications", begins to appear abnormal states, such as emotional disturbances, numbness and so on.
On the Weibo topic #symptoms of emotional exhaustion for young people#, we saw a large number of migrant workers who were beaten to the point of "emotional miscarriage" by the pressure of life. "Life is lifeless, and there is no turbulence in the heart", "suppressed to the point of irregular menstruation", "worked for a long time, like a robot", and any mood swings have become contrived. "Every time you ask for help, you will be called hypocritical. ".
has been working for a long time, like a robot.
Friends around me also keep talking about their symptoms of "emotional exhaustion": after breaking up, I don't have time to let myself be sad. After a period of time, I find that I have no sorrow or joy in my emotional life; Let work deprive life, accept the status quo, and fall into the vicious circle of "nothing in life".
This feeling of being hollowed out is exactly the characteristic of the "era of overwork". Burnout (burnout) in English also describes the phenomenon of burning yourself out at work until you become an emotionless "walking dead".
Emotional exhaustion often gives us the illusion of "cultivating the Buddhadharma"—no sorrow, no joy, no dreams, no illusions, no love and no hatred, and the four elements are empty. However, rather than "transcending life and death", the feeling of emotional exhaustion is more like "life and death are only separated by breath", neither dying nor lifeless.
burnt herself out at work until she became an emotionless "walking dead".
Occasionally, in a moment of distraction, I realize - "Oh, I have lived for a long time".
If it is said that migrant workers have emotions, they are all in the emoji package. In working life, most of them are expressionless poker faces. If they are too lazy to speak at meetings, or if they are criticized for being too lazy to reason, they are connected to the news of layoffs, or they may just laugh helplessly and pack up and leave.
"The cold-blooded killer without emotion" is probably the most helpless ridicule for emotional exhaustion.
"emotion management":
From self-protection to self-alienation
Emotional exhaustion is inseparable from the earnest teaching of success and workplace rules.
If it is said that migrant workers have emotions, they are all in the emoji package.
Do you still remember the "emotional cybernetics" when you first entered the workplace? "You have to be a calm adult. Don't get emotional, don't secretly miss, and don't look back." Farewell to the student days, probably everyone has heard this crazy life insight. No matter how disdainful you are of such sad excerpts, reality will always "teach you to be a man".After
entered the workplace, the high-load work gave us a head start. "996 is a blessing, 007 is the norm" has become the boss's proud means of encouraging employees to work overtime. In order to adapt myself to the crazy work mode of "white and black", in order to avoid facing the endless deadline, "emotional" has been nailed to the shame column of "efficiency killer".
Quitting emotions is the first lesson of adult workplace survival rules.
In the workplace, everyone is a deadpan.
In the face of the unfounded accusation of the leader, he has no confidence to make himself angry and refuted; in the face of the unreasonable vexation of Party A, there is no reason to become angry. Because the law of survival is: the boss scolds you because he reuses you, and the first party abuses you because they are the father of the gold master.
These survival laws continue to rationalize the existing power mechanism, and point the pain at ourselves - "What needs to be changed is our own ideas, not reality", "Emotional separation is the easiest way to success. Road”, “If you can’t handle your emotions well, it’s a sign of your immature personality.”
Successful Learning has always been good at blaming individuals for social conflicts. The logic is also very simple. If it is very difficult to recognize the world and change the society, then the easiest way is to carry out self-transformation, even if this transformation itself is a kind of alienation of the self, even after self-alienation, it may be futile.
However, emotion management, before being fooled by "success", was a serious psychological concept designed to help us "manage our emotions" by exploring our emotions. It's a way to live productively and protect yourself.
Workplace psychology tells us that emotions come from within and have nothing to do with the outside world./Book Screenshot
There are various ways of emotional management, such as "adjustment, reasonable catharsis, active defense, rational control, and timely help". The process of emotional management is also gradual.
is just, the theory is beautiful, the practice is cruel.
Most people have not had time to explore "emotion management" for a while, and they have begun to practice it in a confused way through hearsay. Without emotional understanding and combing, let alone searching for meaning and passion, the so-called "managing emotions" becomes a one-dimensional "suppressing emotions".
We demonize our emotions and regard them as beasts. Whenever the tide of emotions comes, we learn to deceive ourselves and shield our emotions. In the
movie "Joker", the protagonist Arthur (Joker) is also a person who is used to shielding his emotions. After successive unemployment, Arthur was severely beaten by Wall Street tycoons, and his mood fell into a trough. Arthur chose to get into the refrigerator at home to experience the extreme cold, and by isolating himself from the outside world, he tried to "calm" himself and cover up the bottomless despair. However, then the plot suddenly turned, and the clown's emotions broke out, and he took indiscriminate revenge.
By isolating himself from the outside world, Arthur tries to "calm down" himself, masking the bottomless despair. / "Joker" stills
The essence of repression is an escape, and it will not really give us "peace".
When we learn to habitually cut off our emotions, we have a high probability of living as "outsiders" in our own lives. By evolving a defense mechanism of avoidance, we not only distance ourselves from those around us, but we also detach ourselves from our own experiences—we stay out of the way, stand on the sidelines, and distance ourselves from our memories.
Under this self-discipline of "removing emotions", our cognition of the surrounding begins to "abstract", and the world loses its details and warmth.
Among the symptoms of emotional exhaustion, someone summed it up as: "You feel like you're out of touch, you just feel like you're passing, you don't have any mood swings, you can't connect with anything." That's exactly what an atomized society is all about. A common problem is that our connection to everything is so fragile that we live in silos.
Someone said "I feel more at ease with no emotions than indulging in sadness". But it also means that not only loss and pain, but also joy and meaning are taken away.
has no mood swings, no way to connect with anything. / "Lost in Translation"
Once you become an outsider in life, you lose your sense of participation when you are alive. Enthusiasm for life, enthusiasm for investment has disappeared - "the excitement is theirs, I have nothing".
De-emotionalization is the process of "depersonalizing" a person, and this training allows us to evolve into a machine. But whether we take the initiative or are forced to do so, it is difficult for us to reject this process of "self-alienation".
Who is stealing our emotions?
Social Control Behind Emotions
There is no doubt that "freedom of emotional expression" is a luxury today. Emotional is a recognized immature, bad character trait. Today, when we advocate "rationality", we believe that "too much emotion" is just a manifestation of mediocrity.
Emotion is never a single individual psychological phenomenon. In sociological research, social factors affect the formation and expression of emotions, and also restrict our calibration and interpretation of emotions.
Zeng Yike focused on the disciplined emotions of young people in his just released album "Emotional Forbidden Zone". The album introduction reads: "Our emotions are put into beautiful jars, neatly arranged, step by step, reminded, disciplined, and persuaded at all times." . The remaining emotions of
also appear anonymously on major websites. The "Internet Suppression of Clouds" incident that was ridiculed by the group some time ago is enough to show the meanness and disdain of the public towards the sadness of young people. The late-night sad messages from unfamiliar avatars are all labeled as "no fuss". Even if you are sad on the Internet, you need to think twice.
It hurts the spring and mourn the autumn, as if it was an emotional right that only ancient Chinese poets had.
Marx once described the workers in the factory as "partial people", that is, alienation of people. Workers are tied to a fixed position on the division of labor system, isolated and individualized, alienating them from their sensory systems. Only in this way can the assembly line run efficiently and without errors.
In an isolated, individualized work environment, we are also alienated from our sensory systems. / "Modern Times" stills
Whether it is the standardized and rational bureaucratic system in the industrial society, or the algorithm age where data is king, we all fall into a huge system and become the "small parts" of the system, " Man's integrity and autonomy are continually lost.
The attributes of our "tool people" are increasingly strengthened, and the rich emotions seem out of place.
And emotion is no longer a "private item", it must also be controlled by capital and business logic.
The purpose of capital is always to improve profits and efficiency. The principle of "everything serves efficiency" makes our emotions subject to efficiency. Popular psychology often asks us to simply divide emotions into binary “positive emotions” and “negative emotions.” Positive emotions are greatly encouraged, and negative emotions are shunned.
The "emotional labor" behind the fake smile. /FEM
In enterprise management, the negative emotions of employees are not conducive to efficient work. Therefore, enterprises have invented an incentive system to keep everyone in a positive emotional state.
This kind of emotional control usually comes from "you can" "you can do it" chicken-blooded encouragement.
The idealized "superego" moment dictates our true feelings and brings us to a state of "false excitement". This harsh self-domestication ultimately robs us of our ability to feel and makes our emotional machinery abnormal.
Today, when positive energy is blooming everywhere, no one can escape its brutal baptism.
It's just that in this social environment where sadness and sadness are not allowed, emotional exhaustion and energy draining are inevitable consequences. When "no sorrow or joy", "no expectations" and boundless emptiness come simultaneously, depression is just around the corner.
"Angry has positive psychological and social functions, giving people the strength to fight injustice." /unsplash
This is systemic violence in a society where "negative emotions" are not allowed.
In fact, reasonable emotional catharsis is not only conducive to individual physical health, but some so-called negative emotions are also conducive to social progress.According to the research of sociologists, "anger has positive psychological and social functions, giving people the strength to fight against injustice".
Therefore, rather than using success studies to ask young people to "control your emotions", what we need more is what Long Yingtai encouraged everyone in the 1980s - "I'm fed up, I'm angry".
References:
[1] 17 Contradictions of Capital Society | David Harvey
[2] Contemporary Education and Culture | Sociological Interpretation of Emotions
[3] Burnout Society | ] Emotional Meltdown: There is a kind of collapse called silent | Guoke.com
[5] Trapped behind the rider of the system, we finally become tool people? | Sina.com
[6] Urban Hidden "Epidemic": Burnout | CUP
[7] "6H4AS Emotional Management Method" | Xiao Hanshi
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